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When someone shows you a better way to do something, do you adopt it?

Asked by Jeruba (55833points) November 12th, 2018

Do you say thanks and change your method?

Do you wait until they’re not looking and then do it surreptitiously?

Do you reject the suggestion and argue that your way is actually superior?

Or do you stubbornly cling to your own way even though you know the alternative is better?

At least some people will change their approach or technique and then claim it was their own idea. Those are the people I’m happy to leave picking the seeds out one at a time with their fingers while I scoop them all out with a spoon at a single stroke.

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kritiper's avatar

I might try it. I will consider it. But there is no need to argue with success.

canidmajor's avatar

Well, at my age, if my way works fine and isn’t too stupid, I’ll probably thank them, praise their method, and not bother to learn a new technique.

If it’s presented snottily and snidely, I’ll repudiate it (then maybe try in secret).

I’m pretty lazy, if someone has a better way, I’ll probably adopt it, and thank them. Then bore everybody else by going on and on about it. I always attribute, so the appropriate person gets the credit.

JLeslie's avatar

I guess I would have to admit it depends. If my dad tells me I might buck the idea initially. Comes from years of annoyance.

I would say the majority of the time I am willing to listen to a new way. I tend to like anything that saves me time or money or effort or can make something more beautiful. I rarely feel like I have the best and only way of doing something. I have paid people to show me new ideas, like paying someone to help me organize my office, and it was awesome.

I wouldn’t want the same person telling me constantly what I am doing “wrong.” Like if my husband constantly had a better way for me to cook, clean, do my errands, balance the check, that definitely would not go over well. I don’t mine suggestions here and there though, even from him.

I wouldn’t describe myself as stubborn in this realm; but rather, fairly open.

cookieman's avatar

If it strikes me as a good idea, I will tell them so and try it out immediately.

If it seems questionable, I’ll usually say, “Hmmm, I’ll have to look into that.” From there it’s 50/50 whether or not I actually will.

snowberry's avatar

I’m with @cookieman too.

A few people have suggested several good things to say in challenging situations. It’s a real stress reliever to have an appropriate answer at the ready when I need it.

stanleybmanly's avatar

A lot depends on the task at hand and its significance to me. But I have no problems with adopting improvements in methodology.

rojo's avatar

I have swung both ways in the past. Probably continue to do so. If it works more efficiently than my way I may adopt it unless I am comfortable with my way and the change is too drastic for my feeble, aged brain to rewire itself.

Kardamom's avatar

I guess it depends on what the task is, and how the new method is presented.

I love finding out new cooking techniques that make things easier or quicker.

I often have people who are good at math, or techie stuff, try to explain “easier” ways of doing things that simply don’t make any sense to me. My brain simply doesn’t work that way.

For some things, “easier and quicker” are not the goal, the experience itself is the goal.

So it just depends on what the goal of doing any particular task is. And it depends upon my own ability to grasp the concept of someone else’s idea of easier and quicker.

One example I can think of is making chili. It would be easier to buy pre-chopped, pre-measured ingredients, and throw all of that into a crockpot, but I actually enjoy the tactile sensations, and scents, of chopping vegetables, pouring beans into a strainer and cleaning them, measuring out spices, and stirring the ingredients in the pot, and listening to the sounds of bubbling, simmering chili, while filling the house with that wonderful aroma.

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