Do you believe in soulmates?

I don’t know if I’d use the term ‘soulmate’ to describe what I mean, but yes…I do. I felt my first husband and I were destined to be together, and we were a good fit for a long, long time. Even now that we are divorced, we still say we were the right person for each other at that time. My second husband dropped right in my lap, when I had no interest at all in ever getting married again. He is not the perfect man, but he is the perfect man for me!

I wish but I doubt it…

Yes, and I think there are at least a hundred of them for each of us! Somewhere out there…

I don’t. You get to pick whoever you want.

Yes, I do and if you find them, don’t f**k it up. You will never forgive yourself.

I feel like it’s bullshit for lonely people, I was this person, because anytime ( twice ) I have thought a girl could be a “soulmate” she turns out to be a bitch who I don’t want to be around… I think I was influenced by society and I now believe “true love” etc. is just bullshit. But hey, I am negative so don’t listen to me.

Like augustlan, I don’t think I’d use that exact word, but I do believe in something like it. And I don’t think it necessarily has to be someone you’re in a romantic relationship with.

I like what MacBean says. In fact the poet/philosopher Rumi referred to his teacher, Shams of Tabriz, as his “Beloved”, because he was the person whose soul illuminated Rumi’s soul.

Yes.

I don’t think that you have to spend your life wandering around for the “One” soul mate and wonder if you would have just gone to “such and such” you might have met them. There are probably several people in the world that you could have a deep meaningful relationship with. The question is, will both of you be willing to do the work when it’s not feeling so lovey dovey any more and stay committed to getting through a “bad phase” and working towards an even deeper lovey dovey than before? The most successful relationships are the ones who stay committed to each other, who respect each other even during the not so fun times. It’s a matter of choice rather than weather or not their your soul mate.

I sure as hell hope so, Judi.

The woman I’ve loved more than any other eventually chose not to be with me. I’m still looking to make peace with that. I know better, but I can’t help comparing every other woman to her, and of course, no one has measured up yet. Ugh. I wish I didn’t believe in soulmates. Someone remove the belief from my head! :)

I think i do believe in soulmates too many things happen between my boyfriend and ithat make it impossible not to believe it. and i think its overwhelming for me to think of such a rare possibility…
thanks for all the comments guys ;)
lotus

@trusting, as an old woman who has loved and lost more than once, I know for a fact that true love is more a result of willingness to work than chemistry. My first marriage ended in my husbands death (by suicide even) and my first love as a young girl broke my heart when he decided I was not the right pedigree to raise a family with.
Chemistry is required to start the fire, but work is required to keep it going. Sparks die down, but when you find someone willing to love you even when they see you at your worst, then you have found a true gem.

@Judi, thank you for sharing your experience and your wisdom. It doesn’t make sense to me to work on a relationship that my whole heart isn’t in. And I find it’s hard for me to get my whole heart in when the woman I’ve started dating doesn’t measure up to this old love.

Is there a certain energy between the two of you..like a real molecular thing if you will ?
I’ve read many articles on soulmates. There are different kinds and some last a lifetime, some are same sex friends, some are the most awesome twin flames.
I’ve felt an actual energy current around 2 people in my life. My first lasted 13 years, we have three children :). He may have been a karmic soulmate .

This other one as someone said has fallen in my lap.
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Yes there are soulmates ;)