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What calms you down?

Asked by Blondesjon (32226 points ) January 26th, 2009 from iPhone

We all have a happy place.
What takes you there?

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KatawaGrey's avatar

Buffy. If a problem can’t be solved by copious amounts of Buffy then it can’t be solved.

nmguy_'s avatar

A long walk sometimes works for me.

bythebay's avatar

Deep breathing and:
Memories of a breathtaking beach on Bora Bora;
Sunset on our deck;
Sunrise on a mountain top in Vermont;
My kids hugs & smiles.

DisneyWorld is also a very happy place for me, but not at all a calm place!

gailcalled's avatar

Meditation, Movies, Milo, star gazing and my garden.

peyton_farquhar's avatar

Running around while blasting Nine Inch Nails into my eardrums seems to work for me.

When I can’t do that, I think back to the time of my life when I felt like I could do anything, and then I try to think of whatever it was I was doing that made me feel that happy. And then I try to figure out how I can put myself back in that place.

Elumas's avatar

A good sunset in the middle of nowhere. A cup of tea.

nocountry2's avatar

Klonopin.

Blondesjon's avatar

@gailcalled…Can we exchange ‘star gazing’ for ‘milky way watching’?

only to preserve the alliteration of your answer

Bluefreedom's avatar

Going for a run, listening to music, reading a book, watching television, taking a nap, spending time on Fluther.

dlm812's avatar

Walking in the woods or around my fields, riding or just being around my horses, playing and/or laying around with my dogs, talking to my fiancee – and being held by him too… his arms have an incredible calming effect on me -, swimming, music, and simply having “me time”.

peyton_farquhar's avatar

oh, and Tori Amos or South Park always pick me up.
South Park rocks my socks

peedub's avatar

Music. A few quarts of beer. PASTRAMI SAMMICH.

gailcalled's avatar

@jon; Remember my (and Molière’s and Aristotle’s) theory about the power of things in threes.

bythebay's avatar

@gailcalled: Will you share the theory?

WayToGo's avatar

The wagging tail of my dog.

NaturalMineralWater's avatar

When you take a shower, gently allow some water into both ears.. then just listen as the water hits you.. pretend that’s like a switch which takes you out of your current shower and into the one you want to be in.. e.g. for me.. a ski resort in some high mountain with a fireplace and hot chocolate.. friends in the living room waiting to go out on the frozen town for some drinks and some witty banter in a bar where we are known and well liked..

short answer: go to your happy place

gailcalled's avatar

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rule_of_three_(writing)
“The rule of three is a principle in English writing that suggests that things that come in threes are inherently funnier, more satisfying, or more effective than other numbers of things. From slogans (“Go, fight, win!”) to films, many things are structured in threes. There were three musketeers, three little pigs, three billy goats Gruff, Goldilocks and the three bears, and Three Stooges.

A series of three is often used to create a progression in which the tension is created, then built up, and finally released. Similarly, adjectives are often grouped together in threes in order to emphasize an idea.”

The comedic theory of Aristotle and imitated by Moliére are a lot more complicated but the idea of the funny trio is alleged to have originated with them.

Blondesjon's avatar

@gail: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit?

peedub's avatar

One of my professors, the late Alan Dundes, was all about the rule of three. In fact, his keynote speech (at my graduation) was on the rule of three.

gailcalled's avatar

So we’ll remember that when we write, when we speak and when we sing in the shower?
(Tomorrow: “Parallel Construction.”)

bythebay's avatar

@gailcalled: Aha! Thank you for sharing.

gailcalled's avatar

@peedub: He sounds like a fascinating guy and original thinker. You were lucky to have heard his speech. I cannot remember one word from my college commencement speaker (Scotty Reston of the NYT>)

tinyfaery's avatar

Wait. What was the question again? Pause, while I scroll up.

A big fatty.
That and a long, hot bath.

Bri_L's avatar

a movie
a HUGE batch of nachos
about 5 cans of soda
and my kids safe and sound asleep down the haul

gailcalled's avatar

Writing this kind of stuff.

fundevogel's avatar

I used to go to quiet secluded spot on my old campus, like roofs, machine rooms, basements and abandoned elevators. My current location lacks those sorts of spaces though so I’m left with blowing bubbles.

Which sounds stupid, but you have to be able calm your breathing to do it and something about regulation breathing has a calming effect. And it’s fun to fill a room with bubbles.

aprilsimnel's avatar

I take a nice long bath, with candles and gentle music.

babiturtle36's avatar

My vibrator

amanderveen's avatar

Plenty of things, but my favourite is to grab my special someone, find a secluded lakeside, build a campfire and lie back to gaze at stars while we chat about whatever is closest to our hearts or just listen to the world around us.

KatawaGrey's avatar

@babirurtle36: Lurve. Serious lurve.

PupnTaco's avatar

Scotch and vicodin. Just kidding.

I’ve learned to calm myself at will and can actually do it 50% of the time.

Then there’s Eno’s ambient albums.

Vinifera7's avatar

Boards of Canada.

That’s some seriously chill shit.

jonsblond's avatar

Silence

buster's avatar

Exhausting myself skating, punching a punching bag, push-ups, anything physical.

answerjill's avatar

Bath with bath products that have calming scents.

onesecondregrets's avatar

My music, an energy drink, a cigarette and a nice drive or walk.

wenbert's avatar

a stick of marlboro

augustlan's avatar

Must agree with the cigarette. I know it’s technically a stimulant. My brain does not agree.
A hug from my husband.
Sleep.
Deep Breathing.
One beer.
Xanax.

EmpressPixie's avatar

Reading or writing and a cup of tea.

A drink and friends.

Bri_L's avatar

@babirurtle36 – you mean eventually right?

babiturtle36's avatar

LOL yeah…... Eventually :) puts you in a good mood right away though.

tiffyandthewall's avatar

bright eyes calms me. i don’t know if i can say the music makes me happy necessarily, but i feel better. does that make sense? hey, maybe it does make me happy. like dissolves like…

Bri_L's avatar

@uberbatman – after what babirurtle36 wrote I was afraid to click your links.

El_Cadejo's avatar

@Bri_L sooo you didnt see the picture of my 12 in vibrator? :P

Bri_L's avatar

@uberbatman – oooOOOOOoooo that was a vibrator. I thought you were showing off.

(Reply runner up: oooOOOOooooo that was a vibrator. I thought it was a sea cucumber)

El_Cadejo's avatar

@Bri_L LOL sea cucumber :P

rj325's avatar

listening to music with a headphone, a glass of ice tea,

nebule's avatar

closing my eyes…and…breathing

and remembering to love myself

mcbealer's avatar

genuine hugs
blasting my rage playlist and going for a bike ride
going for hike

babiturtle36's avatar

I like to love myself too :)

dollfacee's avatar

running.
or listenin to rock music.

irocktheworld's avatar

listening to music and swimming at the beach or pool

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