Has anyone ever told you they love you too early?

That happened in all my “relationships” during my teen years. I just kinda went along with it for a while and then broke up with them.

they said it before the relationship…..

No.

Relationship 1: Met October 24, 2003; started sleeping together November 8, 2003; started dating December 3, 2003; he said “I love you” March 29, 2004; I returned the sentiment.

Relationship 2: Met October November 8, 2003; started sleeping together May 12, 2006; he said “I love you” November 12, 2006; I returned the sentiment; we started dating as a result.

I think both of those were logical progressions of the “I love you.” If it had come more than a month earlier than it had in either case, I probably would have been weirded out and may have even terminated the relationship.

You may notice an odd coincidence in the above dates!

Yes. when I broke up with him after three months of dating. He didn’t bother to act like he even liked me during the relationship.. much less loved me.. haha. Too little, too late, too early?

The reason I ask, I have been dating a guy who is 19. (I am 25) We hve been dating a week, and he said he loves me. I don’t know if I do or don’t… it’s only been a week. I was hoping to learn from other people’s past.

@girlofscience I did…DO you mean october or november 8, 2003?

Yes, I was told the second day we went out. I didn’t say it back till like a long time later…
But I’ve know him for 4 years.

A girlfriend told me “I love you” in high school when we were about month and half into the relationship. She really knew nothing about me..I ended the relationship out of other immature tendencies she had; sweet person, but not for me.

Gross, yes.

This one guy I went on like two or three dates with, we slept together and while in bed he starts talking about our grand children!! This guy totally freaked me out. I think I was 18. I stopped answering his calls.

I’ve said “I love you” to four men in my life (romantically). I’m thinking my husband may have said it to me the quickest, not counting we knew each other for six months prior (non-romantically). I think my emotional state has to be factored in, so it wasn’t too off putting but I remember it not being mutual. I have no problem admitting it took me time to get to know him and myself better. We had a lot going on, and it was difficult for me to love anyone, even myself. Certain events transpired that made me see what kind of man he was, and what our relationship really was…so it then came naturally.

I think sometimes it’s done out of lust, out of immaturity. Not everyone rushing into something is doing it for the wrong reasons though. Every relationship is different.

@mowens He might want to love you, but that doesn’t mean he loves you.

@mowens How long have you known him?

2 weeks,but we havent really seen eachother that much.

@cyndihugs: November, why?

@girlofscience Because for the second relationship you said “October November”

Yes. One after seeing each other for three weeks and another (later on) after two weeks. Both times I knew they hardly knew me, so they weren’t talking about me at all, just some idea they had. It was very romantic and thrilling the first time (in La Boheme, Mimi and Rodolfo exchange the words in a love duet just a few minutes after they meet), but it was too soon and made me uncomfortable. I couldn’t help wondering if they’d change their minds after they knew me better. I was very young, and it made me feel as if I ought to hide things they might not like.

@girlofscience what @casheroo said.

@mowens So you’ve known each other for two weeks, and he’s told you he loves you? Okay, I’m definitely not a cynic when it comes to love. He may very well love you. But if you don’t feel it yet, then do not feel obligated to say it back. If he truly loves you, he won’t leave you because of that. Explain to him that you feel it’s too early for you to say it, and that you want to get to know him more and develop your relationship. He should respect that.

@mowens After a week, it is not love, it is infatuation, it is chemistry, but it is not love. Just see how things do. Don’t be pressured into saying it back if you don’t feel it.

They told me they loved me, but only because they thought I was someone else.

One guy described our wedding on the phone following out first (and only) date.

Yes and it ended badly because I went along with it and the man turned out to be a true psychopath.

With guys, sometimes “I love you” has an unfinished back half of the sentence—“I love you for sleeping with me.”

No. Come to think of it, none of my boyfriends ever told me that they loved me. :’(

@cyndihugs: Whoops! Sorry; I meant November.

Twice. The first time, I kind of went along with it and it ultimately ended in disaster. Second time, I ended it right there.

never…but I told someone once after 6 weeks and after sex and he dumped me the next day

Some girl told me she loved me a few months into occassionally seeing her and boning down…........it was awkward and I didn’t feel the same. Knew I had to cut contact to spare her more hurt.