How soon is too soon to be officially "together" in a relationship?
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January 16th, 2010
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I met this great guy through my sister who she has know for her an entire life but theyarent that close. My sister has nothing but nice things to say about him. We have only been on about 3 dates and he already wants to be bf/gf. He is 29 I’m 24. Ido like him; however, why so fast? Do you think it’s too soon?
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If you do not feel completely comfortable referring to yourself as his girlfriend, it’s too soon.
@lilikoi go troll somewhere else.
@Lil- then why waiste your time typing on a question u hate? Does anyone else hate people who are rude and annoying?
@lilikoi “Funny” how you have in your fields of expertise “relationships” but still think this question is silly.
If you don’t like it, don’t bother reading it.
Your age difference is great. you like him. he likes you. so, why not? your sister is okay with him and that should be good enough for you. you two made it just in time for Valentines Day!
atleast 6 months, by then if you don’t know and youve spent alot of time togther, i would probably pull out.
Thanks for the answers! We have a lot in common and have the same career paths! I just get weirded out by such stupid things sometimes and I can’t help it. I feel like it was way too soon.
@life_after_2012 my fiancee and I were bf/gf after two days. There really is no threshold of time that applies to everybody.
@ the board – How are we supposed to accurately assess their relationship from the very little info that is provided? Really, I am disappointed in Fluther as my reply was protected speech under the First Amendment.
you know something told me you were gonna say something and that kinda freaks me out now. im sorry for giving bad advice holden..
Never too soon. I became my boyfriend’s girl before I met him.
Yeah. That’s right. Figure that one out.
I’m joking. But we definitely made it official on the second date.
We have only been dating for a week how much more advice do you need? -lil
@holden – “There really is no threshold of time that applies to everybody.” Exactly. So how can you answer the question “Do you think it’s too soon?” for a complete stranger?
@lil- it’s Saturday if you don’t like the question than go fid another one you do like or find a new expertise.
@lil – I am advising her not to act against her intuition, not telling her when she should consider herself his boyfriend. Stop trying to defend your rude remarks and either say something useful or go somewhere else.
@missjena I don’t know you, or the intricacies of your relationship with this dude. You need to figure it out for yourself. Taking advice from a bunch of strangers regarding something like this would just not make sense. If you think it’s too soon, it’s too soon.
Yes HOLDEN. Right away HOLDEN.
@Holden I think she/he was siding with you. Anyway, I stand by my comments and don’t think they’re rude. In fact, I think the responses to me were rude.
I don’t think there is any required time frame. If you feel this is what you want, do it. If you don’t, it’s okay.
Tell this man that while you are enjoying dating him and want to continue doing so, you are in no rush to attach any type of label to your relationship. If that creates a problem for him, take that as some kind of a warning sign.
At your age it’s OK to make your own decisions. Just do it!!
It’s too soon when one or both of you has any hesitation and/or wants to just date and see where things go. There’s always a point where you definitely do or do not want to be a couple.
@lil- I’d change your field of expertise. You mention how you don’t know me;however, you don’t know anyone on here so how do you explain that your an expert in relationships when you feel that you have to know the person to give them advice? This is a website so the likelyhood of you knowing the person who asked the question is about zero. Perhaps you should join a real relationship support group in your town where you have the opportunity to meet the person face to face so you can then give your advice in the way that you prefer. If you can’t answer a simple question on here I think it’s best for you not to respond instead of taking time out of your day to type how and why you don’t want to answer the relationship question even though you consider yourself a relationship expert. I hope realistically your not a therapist and tell people who are going through a divorce because they were being cheated on that since “you don’t know” the husband at all and she has to leave bc of that. Your not going to know anyone on here whn they ask questions so take a leap of faith and answer questions only that you feel you know. Don’t write and waiste space on questions that you have honestly no understanding of what the answer may be and move on.
It depends on the people, if it feels too soon for you then it is. I married my husband of 31 years 152 days after I first laid eyes on him.
if you don’t want to be his girlfriend yet, don’t be his girlfriend… if you want to be his girlfriend, then your his girlfriend… i always thought dating met starting a relationship and being a coupe…
Well we are officially a couple. I couldn’t resist. He’s too much of a catch to let him go.
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