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Do you enjoy standing out in a crowd?

Asked by AstroChuck (36575 points ) March 14th, 2010

Or would you rather just stay in the background? Does attention feed your ego? Why do many want to stand out? Why do many want to be invisible? Seeing all the familiar six year old avatars on every thread has reinforced my need to stand out.

Today has been pretty surreal.

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Zen_Again's avatar

I’ll bite.

MissAnthrope's avatar

I’m pretty content to do my own thing. I think, usually, I’m happy to stay in the background because too much attention is something I find overwhelming. However, I’ve done loads of theater and had goofy days where I wore something ridiculous to make other people laugh, so getting attention does feel good sometimes.

wilma's avatar

I don’t like standing out in a crowd.

I feel like I’m giving a speech to my old high school and I’m naked.

I’d like a hole to swallow me up right now.

filmfann's avatar

No, I would hate it.
I won’t let my wife throw birthday parties for me, because I hate the focus of attention.

Captain_Fantasy's avatar

Just be yourself.
People trying to be different are succeeding only in being just like all the other people trying to be different.

DominicX's avatar

It’s alright. I don’t actively try to stand out, though, and I really don’t care to if it’s just a crowd of strangers. But I certainly don’t try to fade into the background; I’m a pretty outgoing person in general. If I stand out, I stand out. So be it.

jbfletcherfan's avatar

No, I’d rather stay in the back ground. What are YOUR thoughts today, Chuck?

autumn43's avatar

I don’t like to – but I can usually be counted on to trip into the room or something, therefore making myself the center of attention for all the wrong reasons. Or, like the other night at a wine tasting, having my purse slip off my shoulder and therefore making my wine launch out of the glass, up in the air like a geyser and spray the few people around me! Miraculously – I didn’t get a drop on me.

And I now have to ask. Why is everyone being Chuck today?

Shuttle128's avatar

You’re still the only one of us to have been raised entirely by badgers. That’s pretty distinguishing.

Jeruba's avatar

I don’t try to, and I don’t try not to. There are definitely times and ways when I’ll go out of my way to avoid a spotlight. There are also times when I find myself singled out without intending to, but I don’t mind it. However, I very seldom deliberately seek attention. It usually comes about as a secondary result of something else that I would have done anyway, attention or no attention.

I guess the truth is that in general I really don’t give the crowd much thought one way or the other.

Symbeline's avatar

I don’t like it much. I mean if it happens I usually don’t know what to do about it and it’s uncomfortable.
It’s like, okay…just feel free to stare and throw vegetables at me.

Milk's avatar

It depends on who I’m with. If I’m with a group of friends that I’m comfortable with then i tend to stand out and act a strange because i like the attention. but when I’m by myself i prefer to mellow into the crowd and not be noticed at all.

Facade's avatar

Although it’s not done purposefully, I enjoy it. Then again I like attention.

AstroChuck's avatar

It’s been kind of weird today. On one hand I’m loving this. I mean how could I not? My ego just eats this up. On the other hand I’m not standing out, at least avatar wise. I keep going to threads and looking at what I said and I see a sea of answers given by me. Also, I seem to be asking many of the questions (What happened to the 3 question rule?).
Being the narcissist that I am AstroChuck Avatar Day has been everything I’ve ever dreamed of. So I guess I just shows you should be careful what you wish for.

Weird, man. Just weird.

aprilsimnel's avatar

When I was really little, yes, I did!
When I got called a show-off, no, I didn’t.
Now that I am reclaiming myself, yes, I do!

wildflower's avatar

Depends on why….not crazy about people noticing mé singing off key, but I like being complimented for my shoes. I guess it comes down to how I feel about whatever attribute decides whether I stand out or not.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

I can handle it ;)

Freedom_Issues's avatar

Kind of. I like looking a little bit different, but only go as far as wearing brightly colored clothing from time to time.

tedibear's avatar

Nope, I don’t like to be the center of attention at all! I hate cameras pointed my way, in particular. In a crowd or group I want to be part of the crowd, but I don’t want the focus on me. Gah!

jonsblond's avatar

The only time I enjoyed standing out was when I was pregnant. I loved the attention that I received. I wonder why this was the only time I enjoyed the attention.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Only when it’s to my advantage. I’m what’s referred to as an exotic and sometimes I really would like to blend in and go unnoticed. Meh.

wundayatta's avatar

I wouldn’t mind standing out if it was because people liked me. But I’ve never been famous for something I did. Only infamous. Not much fun.

People love you, @AstroChuck. It’s a wonderful thing. l’m glad you’re enjoying it. There are very few people around here who mean so much to fluther because of who they are, not what they do. You’re very lucky.

escapedone7's avatar

@wundayatta awww. I like you.

@astrochuck It might seem hard to believe, but in real life I’m actually a little shy!

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Depends on the crowd.

AstroChuck's avatar

@wundayatta- I think you’re pretty much loved by everyjelly. Outside of Fluther, I couldn’t say as I don’t know that dude. But here you know you are loved.

Silhouette's avatar

I can take it or leave it. My comfort zone is on the sidelines, but I’ve been know to hop into the spotlight every now and then too.

Draconess25's avatar

It really doesn’t matter to me. I just do what I want, & what happens, happens.

When I walk into a room, everyone usually tends to ignore me, but I hear them talking about me behind my back.

I enjoy standing out when I look particularly awesome at the time.

augustlan's avatar

Like others have said, I don’t really give it any thought. I just go on about my business, standing out or not. When I was younger though, I couldn’t stand being the center of attention if I was alone in a crowd (walking through the mall or riding a city bus was like torture for me!). Luckily, I finally became comfortable in my own skin.

Pseudonym's avatar

I feel the need to. I don’t know why I do, but I simply do. I crave attention.

SeventhSense's avatar

No I’m brash, outgoing, love the spotlight, an exhibitionist who enjoys his reflection, proud as a rooster and am concerned when all eyes are not on me when I enter a room.
Other than that I’m pretty modest. :)

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