Should I break up with my boyfriend?

Yes.

If your asking us, that’s a yes.

Giving what you are saying you should break up with him. Also remember there are other fish in the sea.

There are plenty of fish in the sea.

I think you need to approach him and try to refrain from playing the “blame game” and explain your position: you really, really want to work through this and assert that you’d like to try all other options before breaking it off. Try a different approach.

I’m not putting the blame on you by any means but in situations like these, tension accumulates quickly and releases slowly and painfully – it’s easy for things to spiral. If he’s positive he still doesn’t want to try and has no positive attitude – perhaps all you could do is say you’ve tried your best and walk away.

For some reason, i feel that he is making these moves on you. could he have someone else? if two people truly love each other, trivial things will not stand in their way. i feel you are doing your part, but he is fading in the past. could it be his parents are putting heat on him to dump you? this may be true and you may never know, if he does not tell you and both of you can work this problem out together. have you met his parents? do they like you? something is holding your bf back and its up to you to discover what the problem is. after all, what have you got to lose?

@Disc2021 I have talked to him about this many times, but I don’t get much out of him.
I’m doing everything I can, believe me, but nothing is changing & I’m not getting any response from him.

@john65pennington He started talking to this one girl after he started having these feelings. He was flirting with her, & I confronted him about, but he said they weren’t flirting. But it was obvious that they were, and no, I’m not overreacting. I don’t know if they’re still talking, I’m trying to stay out of that situation.
His parents aren’t convincing him to dump me, they & his sister really like me. They have told me themselves.

Men will often just ignore the situation I have talked to him about this many times, but I don’t get much out of him. I’m doing everything I can, believe me, but nothing is changing & I’m not getting any response from him so that you will break up with them instead. Thus, they are not the bad guy.
Cut him loose.

you want to date a dead fish??? run, something is stinky

Trust me, you will find someone better if you dump him.

Wait nm, I misread. If you’re sure he wants to break up, break up.

You’re already broken up; he just hasn’t got the balls to tell you. (He’s not as wonderful as you think he is, for just that reason.)

Don’t “break up” with him if you don’t want to, but tell him that he’s right, and you need a break. And then make it a permanent break or let him come back and work his way back to you. He can’t just come waltzing back in the door in a week or a month and pick up where he left off (even if you think you might want that), or he’ll know that he owns you—and you can’t have a relationship built on that, either.

No, he’s not so wonderful, even if he’s not a bad guy. And if you give yourself a few months away from him then you’ll realize that, too… and find a better guy.

^well said.

Sounds like the end is here.

Why didn’t you talk to his family and friends? Seems odd to me.

@FishGutsDale All throughout my life I’ve never been welcome in my family, so it’s hard to believe that I’m being accepted into someone else’s family.
I sort of feel like I’d be intruding if I joined in on their conversations.
I’m working on that though.
I’ve talked to his family about it & have been making efforts to hang out with his friends.

If he has been thinking of breaking up with you for the past two weeks, maybe he just doesn’t have the balls to do so, and by acting weird, not caring, and treating you like trash, he is trying to get you to break up with him. Maybe he doesn’t want to seem like the bad guy or he doesn’t want to hurt your feeling so he changed his behavior so you end it. and maybe you should.

@nimarka1 Maybe he doesn’t want to seem like the bad guy or he doesn’t want to hurt your feeling so he changed his behavior so you end it. That’s exactly what I’ve been thinking… I’m just scared to do so. What we had was so good. I don’t want to leave if it’s possible that things will get better.

the thing is if he’s emotionally done, your efforts are too little, too late. You don’t get to save a relationship on your own, it’s a joint effort. Everyone has doubts, bad days, etc, but if he’s told you this a few weeks ago you can bet your bottom dollar he was thinking of it a while before then. Neither of you are bad people, but love is work and if one person is beyond wanting to do that anymore, it’s best to call it quits and sooner rather than later.

No, I think that he needs to break up with you.

don’t really talk to his family or friends.

I have been wanting to work on this,

But nothing has changed.

If I let him go, I don’t think I’ll be able to find someone as amazing as him.

Life isn’t a mirror reflecting you. He seems to be discovering this.

Bin him…..

… and then come and see me.

“If I let him go, I don’t think I’ll be able to find someone as amazing as him.”

I don’t know how amazing he is, but I think that you’ll meet someone just as amazing if not more, only the next person you feel this strongly about will be amazing in ways of which you have yet to dream.

However, if you don’t let him go, your chances of meeting that person will be less than they could be.

Imagine that your boyfriend’s name is “Anders” and he’s from Sweden. (Don’t worry, this will make sense in a little while.) And imagine that you’re already married to him. (Trust me just this once; there’s a point.)

In that case, this link might help. Even if it doesn’t, it’s pretty funny and worth the time.

@ashxmy_lovee So you’ve tried talking to him and taking action. Do you think you’re at the point of “no return”? Do you feel like you’re wasting your time for continuing to try?

IF yes and yes, what you’re saying is that you’ve already lost him. If you’ve already lost him, how could you possibly let him go if he’s already gone, in a sense? Does the final “goodbye” really have to establish that or do you already have all of the closure you need?

If the only reason you’re lingering on is because you feel like you can’t find anything better – perhaps you need to just accept things as they are and say goodbye. If you feel like there is possibility of things taking a turn and that you have options out there you’re not utilizing, keep trying. If he’s already convinced himself that he doesn’t want to do this anymore – you’re better off just walking away =(.

We broke up.

@ashxmy_lovee

You will find someone who is better.

its for the best x