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(NSFW) Do you feel that a good part of sex is the mental (thoughts)

Asked by Jude (31971 points ) August 29th, 2010

Good sex, that is. When you’re talking and thinking about what you and your partner are doing to one another, I feel that makes sex unbelievably good. And, thus, for me, it’s quite easy to get off.

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Seaofclouds's avatar

I agree 100%. I love thinking about what my husband and I are doing and it definitely adds to the moment.

phoebusg's avatar

The biggest part of sex is mental. The physiological part relays a small portion, yet important to verify the actions and add further reinforcing systems (dopamine based mostly).

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

I’ve always maintained that our largest sexual organ lies between our ears. I think women understand this more easily than men, but I have no proof of that.

zen_'s avatar

The brain is the sexiest organ we have.

tedibear's avatar

Absolutely, completely and totally. Best sex we ever had was after a discussion where my husband had told me some good things about me.

Hypocrisy_Central's avatar

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. The mind fuels the sex way more than just the physicality of it. That is why if you are doing it where you shouldn’t such as the supply closet at work you may not get as much out of it if you can get it up at all. The thought that you could get caught and punished will either add to the excitement or kill it off. No matter how much rubbing and lip service she does it won’t be enough to sustain it if the mind ain’t on board.

Ben_Dover's avatar

The brain is the largest sex organ that we have…

marinelife's avatar

Totally the mental part! (Although that comes after a baseline of physical compatibility.)

MissAnthrope's avatar

I agree with @marinelife. Physical compatibility has to exist first (at least for me, I’ve learned by experience). As long as that’s there, though, yes. :)

Ben_Dover's avatar

@MissAnthrope Physical compatibility cannot exist without the mental. Everything that makes people physically compatible has to be screened through your mind.

CaptainHarley's avatar

The brain is the primary sex organ.

Blondesjon's avatar

Nope.

A good part of sex is the tingly (parts).

CaptainHarley's avatar

Let your penis be your guide? LOL!

stardust's avatar

Absolutely.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

It’s that way for me, yes. I need to hear from my partner what they like, what they’re enjoying, what they want and what they feel about me. I need to believe they’re into what’s going on while we’re doing it. Sex is a lot more to me than a hobby or distraction.

CaptainHarley's avatar

Anyone who discounts the mental aspect of sex is missing out on better than ½ the fun, IMHO! I’ve known several women in my lifetime who could have repeated orgasms just from letting me talk them into it. : ))

JustPeachy's avatar

Absolutely !!!
Making the Best Love involves Mind, Body and Soul.

actuallery's avatar

It’s been a long time since I have indulged but the best part was NOT thinking about it.

deni's avatar

I think it is absolutely the biggest part of it. Unfortunately I struggle to concentrate sometimes and thus have a hard time orgasming. I don’t know how to fix this problem and it’s a draaaaag.

MaryW's avatar

The mental part is great. The physical must be at least nice.
@deni don’t concentrate… imagine, and feel. That is mind too.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Well I can get attracted to the physical but if a person has a brain I find interesting, I really want to sleep with them. Happens rarely though.

CaptainHarley's avatar

Actually, the best sex happens when the guy exercises a bit of self-control, while the woman surrenders completely to sensation and to her lover’s soft, yet husky voice, telling her to relax and just let it happen.

And with that juicy tidbit, boys and girls, I’m off to bed. : )

Jude's avatar

@Simone_De_Beauvoir That’s not what I was getting at. If you read the details, you’ll know what I mean. :)

free_fallin's avatar

It is for me. I haven’t known many men who consider it to be as mental as it is for me. I can think of something that turns me on, without touching myself, and have a slight orgasm. I can control when I climax. I have to know the person intimately before I can fully enjoy a sexual experience.

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