(NSFW) Do you talk dirty when you have sex?

Yep.

And what is and what isn’t acceptable depends on your partner.

Only when I doing something dirty. Otherwise I don’t say much.

Mud slinging is one of my favorite new passions!

Figuring out what your partner is comfortable with can get pretty awkward but it’s 70% of the fun for me. Hearing it is somehow more enjoyable to me than saying stuff myself but whatever.

As for what is acceptable: everything, even hurtful words can be hot. As long as you keep it seperate from reality you can say anything you want and watch your partners reaction face :O

Just ‘thank you’ over and over.

Oh yes. I really don’t think you need to worry about it going “too far.” If you feel awkward about it, a good way to start and just feel things out is to say the occasional “Mmm, you feel so good…I love having you inside me/being inside you,” etc. It’s not too graphic or cheesy, and it’s a pretty good compliment, so it’s doubtful your partner will be offended. What is acceptable is solely between you and your partner. Do what feels comfortable to both of you. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourselves during sex – honestly, I think missteps and shared awkwardness when trying new things builds the intimacy you share. Sex can be silly and funny – you don’t have to take it too seriously all the time or try to do it perfectly.

@austinlad – I would think that would be a bit awkward after awhile, haha

I do now but I didn’t used to. What’s isn’t acceptable? So far we’ve not hit that point.

@Frankie, well put.

@Fankie indeed well put.

aww shucks, thanks!

Actually, I speak in tongues.

@Blondesjon

Is that why jonsblond is always smiling?

Yep.

We’re both down with it. A big part of sex is the mental/dirty talk.

What about noises or the Richter scale?

uh, sometimes… usually not, usually just passionate moaning and groaning into each others’ body to let each other know we are enjoying it. that and the perspiration is a dead giveaway.

Most times, even if I just say “harder!” or something short and simple like that, he finds it so hot that he has to pull out….and honestly i am thankful for that, because right now dirty talk isn’t my thing. i mean, i say this and that and what i feel when i feel it, and i suppose its dirty, but really really dirty things i cant say. it’s just not me. so i’m not gonna try to fake it.

No. usually just some (quiet) moans and groans but no actual words. Being a parent teaches you to be quiet during sex and I never really got out of the habit of that.

@downtide yep, i know what you mean.

I love love to talk to my partner during sex… in different languages! Sometimes to delay the climax… I would tell a joke (it always relaxes me)

@deni You should expand your ‘instructional’ vocabulary… faster, slower… little higher, little lower… roll over, sit… you know.

Hell yeah! I think talking dirty is a very hot and sexy thing, it not only is fun to talk this way and turn your partner and you on, but it is a sign that you are confident and comfortable with your partner which is also very sexy!!