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Do you think it's selfish to request a few days off work in this situation?

Asked by chelle21689 (7907points) October 26th, 2010

I’ve worked for my parents since I was 14, so that’s about 6 or 7 years now. They own an Asian grocery store and it’s mainly family that helps out: my mom, my dad, me, my brother, my two other uncles. On Saturday another uncle from my mom’s side helps out and on Sunday my sister helps out.

One of the regular workers (my uncle) had to immediately leave for Thailand because his mom is dying of cancer and he’ll be gone for a month. The day he left, my parents left for vacation. They couldn’t cancel because he left in the last minute. So it was just me, one uncle, and my brother that were the main helpers for the 5 days my parents were gone without any help. Things went okay…I just had to work extra hour or two.

Anyways, I want to visit my bf that I haven’t seen in 2 months. He lives across the country in California. I won’t be having school for 5 days so I’d be gone for only 5. I’m just wondering if I leave, do you think they’d have enough help?

I mean when I’m here.. my mom just stays home and comes to work for two hours. My dad stays in the office, does some paper work and sleeps LOL.

So if I leave, my brother would have to work a bit longer (he’s so lazy anyways!), my mom wouldn’t stay home all day. I mean, when my parents were gone..there was only 3 out of the main 6 workers and it ran smoothly.

Do you think they’d be okay with just my dad, uncle, mom, and brother working?

The 5 days I’m gone, I have 2 days off anyways when I’m not supposed to work lol

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chyna's avatar

All you can do is ask your parents what they think. Lay it out as you did for us, and hope they will agree.

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

I think that you have already put together your business case as to why you should get the time off. Now, it’s just a matter of pitching it to the owners, a.k.a., your parents.

chelle21689's avatar

Honestly, I think the main concern is money. They like to lecture me about money all the time even though I’m good at saving. Plus it’s my bf who’s giving me money for the ticket anyways.

Austinlad's avatar

Can’t say whether they’ll like it, but you have every right to ask for the time off.

chelle21689's avatar

Well, I think one of the things they could complain about is needing help. Even though the store ran smoothly without 3 main workers. If I were to leave there would be more workers than when they left for their vacation.

marinelife's avatar

I think your parents can manage things just as you managed when they were away. I say, “Go for it!”

chelle21689's avatar

It’s hard to schedule visits and leave because my bf is in the Army, I have school, my two uncles like to take turns going on vacation for Thailand for a month once a year, my mom and dad like to go on vacations every 2–3 months for a few days, everyone likes vacations and can afford it lol.. soo yeah.

AmWiser's avatar

I think every business should have an emergency plan to cover unexpected absences. Even though this one is not, what if an emergency arose how would it be handled. Also you are young and should be allowed to pursue some freedom and happiness. If your parents can go away for a vacation you should be allowed to also. You say your parents couldn’t cancel their vacation…what would have happened if you and your brother were sick and your other uncle was unable to watch the store. It could happen you know.

Seaofclouds's avatar

I don’t think it’s selfish. Talk to them about it and go from there.

Joybird's avatar

I don’t think it’s selfish but I’m not part of your culture either and different cultures have very different values about these kinds of things. I certainly think they have enough help even if your Uncle is still away. But even so I would be very respectful in how I make the request and offer to help them before you leave and after you return a little extra. People need some down time and time away to appreciate what they have in my opinion.

LuckyGuy's avatar

Are you sure their reluctance is because of money? Or is it their little girl is going to spend 5 days on the other side of the country unchaperoned with a boy?
If I had a daughter I wouldn’t let her go until she was mature enough – like when she was 35 or 40. ;-)

chyna's avatar

^Glad he isn’t my dad.~

chelle21689's avatar

LoL, noo…I’ve been to California plenty of times to see my bf haha! They used to be SUPER strict though! They once caught me talking to my bf in the car when I was 16 and threatened to take away my car.

BarnacleBill's avatar

Do you have any 14 year old cousins who are ready to begin working in the family business?

truecomedian's avatar

The fact that you are so concerned tells me that you should go on your trip.

chelle21689's avatar

Actually my cousin (her dad went to Thailand) is 14 but she’s too shy and reserved. For some reason my dad is only keeping it just me and my brother not my cousins.

YARNLADY's avatar

It doesn’t really matter what I think, the only thing that matters is what they are willing to accept. Talk to them, and make it clear what you want and need.

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