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Whats the best way to talk to someone you'd like to meet?

Asked by younguns (24points) December 20th, 2010

ive always been a shy person and this has always been a problem for me ,especially talking to girls i think are attractive.In most situations ill just avoid making conversation from the start to save me the rejection or awkwardness.i used to be more outgoing and confident but now a days it feels like ive got nothing clever or interesting to say.id like to become a more social person again and start making new friends and hopefully get a girlfriend but i dont know where to start.any advice or knowledge would be really appreciated thanks.

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SamIAm's avatar

Maybe start by making a list of things that you’d like to know about someone. For example:
What’s your name?
How old are you?
Where do you live/where did you grow up?

Then once you have a list of these basic questions, think about follow up questions you can ask. So if you ask “where are you from” maybe you can follow up by asking “do you like it better there than here? How have you adjusted?” or if they’ve always lived in the same place, you can say something like “I have too and I’d love to live ____. Where else would you like to live?” And that can spark conversation about travel, interests, hobbies, etc…

Being prepared in advance may be a great way for you to feel comfortable and help you approach women you feel are attractive. Practice is the best way to go about this! :) good luck!

etignotasanimum's avatar

For me, one of the most attractive things a guy can have is a sense of humor. If she’s in one of your classes and you sit near her, make a funny comment about something going on in class. Nothing that is too extreme/jerk-ish, but something that’s clever/cute. Always a good way to start off a potential relationship, because then she’ll think you’re friendly, funny, and someone that might be willing to have a good time.
Of course, being yourself while being confident about it is also good.
Good luck! :)

Crossroadsgrl's avatar

Find a genuine hobby yourself FIRST….put your energy and focus into that~ the conversation, friends and gf will follow naturally

marinelife's avatar

Talk to attractive girls the same way you would talk to anyone else. Ask them about themselves to start the ball rolling.

dukementat's avatar

girls at work or school or church?

be bold. women like confidence. no reason not to be impulsive and just strike up conversations with hot chicks.

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