As you get older, do you find it best to stay away from controversy?

Yeah, I avoid controversy like the plague. :). I love issues that get the blood going. I just respect opposing viewpoints. Differences are what makes the world go around.

True, I mostly avoid it unless it’s really something worth fighting for. As I age, I see all the sides much more clearly, sometimes I miss the days when the world was black and white, it was easier than the highly nuanced way I see things now.

Yes, I have been in this space for quite a long time now, call it ‘enlightenment’ or just call it maturity. lol

Hardcore, cut throat debate is not my thing, but I do enjoy a rousing, but diplomatic discussion where all parties can chew the fat without spitting in each others faces. haha

As I have gotten older and wiser I find there is so little that is controversy. As you gain personal experience on this journey of life there is so little that is unanswered for me. I took some statements from scripture and other readings and found the answers to life, who we are, where we came from, where we are going and our purpose in this life. Now I just like to share with those who can and those who want to discover things as well. I find the closed mind annoying and once closed it is hard to open it and really look at the possibilities of the Universe.

I hope I never become so apathetic/afraid that I avoid confronting injustice and cruelty just for the sake of my own comfort. Controversy is what drives change.

If becoming older or enlightened (whatever that means) includes sanctimony and accepting the status quo, no thank you. Just call me Peter Pan.

I hate drama, but just because something is controversial does not mean everyone must be so full of histrionics.

I am 67 and still believe that right is right and wrong is wrong. if it takes a heated conversation to clear the air, then so be it.

I may be older, but there is still fire in the firebox.

Controversy has followed me around for most of my life….it must be me that seeks it out or something. Anyway, as I got older I approached controversy more delicately in that I now look for solutions to the problem or if there is little sense in spending any effort with that conflict then I pull the rip cord and bail. Life is too short to try and solve all of life’s problems.

Lol….I’m not “older”.....but controversy follows me around like a fucking puppy…
Mainly because…
50% because points I try to make are either totally missed..or misunderstood
25% because I’m a smartass
15% because I’m an asshole
5% because I’m intolerant of some subjects
5% because I like making jokes
Lol….so ya I’m SOL

@coffeenut LMAO GA

I don’t seek it out and neither am I afraid to meet it head on.;)

I respect controversy when it can be carried out civilly. But too often most controversial subjects become to heated arguments and debates and all parties go away mad instead of just going away.

Depends what the subject matter is, & if I know enough about it to stand my ground. if I’m clueless then it’s a lost cause…. I know when to walk away! :-/

@lucillelucillelucille neither do I if the person can see both sides of the issue.

@psychocandy

‘Enlightenment’ does not mean being apathetic, although it may appear that way to some.

It means you realize and recognize the difference between defensive ego and truth.

It means you allow things to be as they are without the need to fight and defend.

It is about acceptance of differences while still being able to see the unity of a shared humanity. ;-)

Yeah probably.
I’m not so old, but I really dont like confrontation.
Unfortunately though, that’s where most controversial discussions end up… People get all emotional, they stop listening, it can get nasty… That’s not for me.
If a discussion can remain civil though, I’m happy to give my 10p worth..

No, but there might be better choices when we select the controversies worth getting into.

No.

If everyone “stayed away from controversy” the world would never change.

Look at the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” this week. That was controversial. And thank goodness there were enough people who did not stay away.