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What do /did you struggle with yourself about?

Asked by The_Inquisitor (3163points) December 25th, 2010

Well, what have you struggled with continuously about yourself, or your life? And how did you fix it, or how do you plan to fix it?

For example, someone may struggle with their weight throughout their entire life – with the yo yo cycle going on (continuously eating, then back to a healthy lifestyle and exercising for an x amount of time, then back to overeating and binging.. etc). How should this person go about fixing this problem? We’ve probably all witnessed this – they will say that they will not over eat again, and continue with their healthy lifestyle, but really, they cannot help themselves and become overweight again.. What would you suggest or say to someone who was reaching out to you and asking for a solution, or some help to fix this problem for good?

Another example, would be when someone struggles with choosing what they want in life. They will choose a path, but then back out and choose another path when things are not going as they had planned. How will, or how should this person stop this behavior if they wanted to?

Well, let’s hear what you would say to help these people in this situation, and/ or what you have gone through and how you got through it, or how you will get through it!

Any nice contribution is appreciated!

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AmWiser's avatar

I struggle with speaking in front of an audience, which may be due to a combination of shyness and being introverted. I’ve heard about Toastmasters, which is suppose to be a good group to help with those issues, but I have yet to research or look them up. But at this point in my life, I guess I’m comfortable with my struggles.

LindsayMarieee13's avatar

I’ve dealt with hard stuff, like going to foster care when I was 12. I was constantly depressed, but one day, I just got up in the morning and thought to myself- its not fun being sad all of the time. That was the day that I changed my attitude towards everything that was going on around me. This might not even help you at all, but what I’m trying to say is that if you are having a problem with being positive, or being negative, always tell yourself that things are going to be okay. The more you worry about a situation or a problem the worse it will come out to be.

The_Inquisitor's avatar

@LindsayMarieee13; awe, good for you! That’s true, attitude contributes a lot. I guess telling the person that they have to believe in themselves and work for it… otherwise, there is no other way to help them..

CaptainHarley's avatar

@LindsayMarieee13

Very true! You have discovered one of the secrets to living successfullly in the world: deciding to be happy is just as easy as deciding to have lunch! Good for you! : )

downtide's avatar

Quite a few things. My gender identity. Depression. Taking steps to fix one has also fixed the other. I got to the point where the fear of what would happen if I didn’t act was greater than the fear of what would happen if I did.

OpryLeigh's avatar

I struggle with rational thinking. I get myself in a panic about something and all logic goes out the window.

OliviaR's avatar

Doesn’t everyone? I am in fact struggling with my weight, what I want, what I should do, what’s right to do, what and who I am (I am Aisan but absolutely HATE the fact that I am)... and everything, really. But without struggles, there is no success. Therefore, I don’t mind struggling, if that makes sense at all.

Bluefreedom's avatar

I struggle on a daily basis to regulate my diet and find the will power to eat properly to maintain my blood sugar levels because I’m a type 2 diabetic. It’s not very easy and it’s really irritating and frustrating sometimes. Especially during the holidays. Things could always be worse, though, so I keep that in mind and just take everything one day at a time.

BoBo1946's avatar

I’ve to deal with my good looks and my sparkling personality. It’s tough. Just kidding…. dealing with bad legs. Have had two hips replaced and looking at replacing both knees. But, you know what, there are many with much worse problems. I’ll take my pain and live with it. There will be a better day. We have so many blessings that we don’t consider.

Cruiser's avatar

Too many to list….sleep is my biggest struggle. The harder I try the less I get. Upside to that is I get a lot of time to think of my goals in life. ;)

BoBo1946's avatar

Cruse when I was working…had a few problems with that, but put a TV in my bedroom with a sleeptimer and watch the weather channel…put you to sleep everytime!

Cruiser's avatar

@BoBo1946 Falling asleep is not the problem staying asleep is. I wake up after 4–5 hours and can’t fall back asleep. TMI in the skull is my problem. Can’t seem to turn down the voltage on the thought meter!! ;))

BoBo1946's avatar

Oh… got’cha… That is not bad. Some require less sleep. 4 or 5 hours is not bad at all. If you feel good, would not worry about it.

CaptainHarley's avatar

About sleep: I discovered that it’s the small muscles around the eyes that keep me awake sometimes. I developed a mantra where I start at my foreheard and gradually work my way down to my shoulders, consciously relaxing every muscle, especially those in my face. Works every time for me. : )

In addition, I’ve found that being physically tired ( as opposed to mentally or emotionally tired ) helps greatly.

SuperMouse's avatar

I have struggled since my early teens with my faith. Until recently my entire life has been a constant search to find something to believe in, something that spoke to me and made sense. I dealt with it by trying to keep an open mind another thing I have to deal with is a certain level of impatience. doing all kinds of research, reading, talking to people, listening, and trying my hardest to figure out where and how faith fit into my life.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Whatever the things I struggle with, I know how to fix. It’s about falling back from the right track that’s the issue.

perspicacious's avatar

Taking care of my mother. She is nutty. I’ve taken care of her basically since I was 18. She just always needs assistance either with finances, home problems, health issues, etc. I have felt for a long time that my sister should have a turn. She moved out of town when she was 20 so has never been here to help. I’ve known for a while that I’m worn out from it. The struggle is now over as I have told my mother that she is going to have to move to live near my sister because I am moving out of state. She’s pouting. I understand this kind of uncertainty is scary for her, but it’s time for me to feel some freedom.

Justice13's avatar

I struggled with being the living proof that a person can be perfectly capable of living in society as normal, and still be completely and unequivocally insane, without ever showing it… :|

gm_pansa's avatar

I struggle with my good and evil sides. Yes, I am like a Jeckle/Hyde. Sometimes I just REALLY want to be mean to someone for being a jerk to me (or someone else), yet it’s “not nice” to do such things. So I don’t. Might not sound like much, but it is a struggle not to go berzerko sometimes.

Nullo's avatar

Motivation. It’s not much of a fight, though.

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