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How do boys feel when they're in love?

Asked by kariper (264points) February 3rd, 2011

I wonder how boys feel when they’re in love? Do they have butterflies? Do they have you on their mind all the time? Do they wait for you to come online for hours? Do they smile at random times at the thought of you? Do they miss you all the time? Do they think about the smallest things you say?

I love to see boys thats all head over heels over a girl, its just so cute. so how do boys feel when they’re in love?

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Blackberry's avatar

“Must…not….surrender…...what’s…...happening to…meeeeee…..!”
The only time I’ve felt the ‘love’ you speak of (which sounds more like infatuation) was in highschool. I think I may have experienced something close to a fuller love, but even then I still have my own life and other things to worry about other than the same person all day.

wundayatta's avatar

I’m not sure what you’re looking for here. Boys are all different. So some feel or do those things. I’ve certainly had butterflies and I’ve certainly obsessed about a girl or two. I have missed them. I don’t think I’ve every thought about the smallest thing they say. I seriously doubt that a lot of guys do that.

Falling in love is a great high, and it does things to your brain that short circuit your normal decision-making process. This is true for both boys and girls. I don’t think we’re all that different. Though I do think that often the balance is uneven and that one or the other party probably does more of the obsessing and phone watching, etc.

poisonedantidote's avatar

Not that I would call my self a boy anymore, but personally, I feel powerful. It makes me feel as if I could demolish a building just by shouting at it. It makes me feel manly and some what primitive.

kariper's avatar

Yeah i guess you’re both right. I can see what you mean. This type of “love” is probably the high school type of crush or when you’re around that age. And again everyone is different.

But Im just asking because these quite silly things is all what a girl does when she’s in love, so its just a random question because im curious of the guys act when he’s in love. Also I can see your point where you say that its more one or the other party that is the obsessed one. Good answers too!

wundayatta's avatar

I wouldn’t say it’s just a high school thing. I know, from personal experience, that it can happen at much later ages, too. Somehow experience and wisdom do not make you immune from this kind of “silliness.”

kariper's avatar

well, if you say so. Im just 19 so what do I know. Only been feeling this way once, and it was great. But Im glad to hear you can feel this way at any age, the only difference will maybe be your values in life and that might affect you’re actions. But still love and silliness is love and silliness, and its just this amazing feeling i hope everyone in life will have a chance to feel at some point.

echotech10's avatar

Well, I can say I am hardly just a little boy anymore, I am a 43 year old man but the feelings are the same regardless of age. I just know that when I met my wife, WOW!!! I knew that she was the one that I was going to spend the rest of my life with. You feel empowered, you feel like you can conquer the world. My wife & my daughter are my entire world. I can say that I got the butterflies in the stomach, and only wanting to see her all day and all night. The mere thought of her makes me grin from ear to ear, and puts that proverbial “spring in my step”, and makes me want to profess my love for her at the top of my lungs, for the whole world to see and hear. @kariper…if you are feeling this way, do not let him go, because chances are good that he is feeling the same :)

kariper's avatar

@echotech10 what a lovely story. It makes me really happy to know that (even if i dont know you) you feel this way. Makes me certain that there is hope for the rest of us aswell. There’s too many couples and families that split up, bad divorces and all.. Im feeling this way but the thing is – my guy lives in Canada. we both lived in uk for a year but then we both had to go our seperate ways. I dont want to let him go because of the way I feel, but its really hard.

echotech10's avatar

@kariper In response to that, I learned from a Disney movie about love, “Beauty and the Beast” to be exact, this is what happens when you have a 3 year old daughter who loves princess movies… The beast, let Belle (the princess) go because her father appeared to be ill, and she came back. (one of the morals of that story being, if you love someone, set them free, and if they come back, it was meant to be) I cannot say I agree with that particular notion, nor can I say I blame you. You go and get him, I hope he comes back to you :)

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