(NSFW) What are some things I can "order" my guy to do to me?

Well that depends on what you are into.

You can tell him to get down on his knees and kiss your toes.
You can demand him to call you something like “mistress” instead of your name.
You can also tell him to close his eyes or keep quiet.
You can tell him to look but don’t touch.
You guys can also ask each other questions during intercourse. Ex: “Do you like that?”, “How much do you want this?”.....Kinky stuff.

@Mikewlf337 good point. I haven’t being seeing this guy for very long, so our sex thus far has been pretty vanilla. That, plus the fact that I don’t have a very “dominant” sexual personality, has a lot to do, I think, with why I’m not sure what to tell him to do. So even if I knew what I wanted, the fact that we haven’t been seeing each other for a significant period of time makes it difficult to gauge what is or is not acceptable (for lack of a better word). So really I’m just looking for any kind of suggestion, just to get a general idea of how other people go about things like this, and I can then choose which ones I think I’d be comfortable doing.

Thanks @xjustxxclaudiax

@Frankie I feel your pain. Knowing how flighty a guy’s submissive fantasies can be, actually pleasing him while also making sure you get pleased the way you like is no easy assignment. I suppose it is possible he has no limits, but it’s highly unlikely. So what he is asking you to do is be a mind reader. He’s asking you to get inside his head then take responsibility for making him do what he actually wants to do anyway, but would be embarrassed to ask for. And at the same time, he probably would balk at certain things that some other submissive male would dearly love.

How about telling him to get down on his knees before you and confessor all the nasty things he has dreamed of you asking him to do. Tell him to apply the KISS-MIF principle. Keep it simple, stupid and make it fun to start. Warn that if he overreaches, he will get nothing. See how that works and play up what clearly works for the two of you.

Have fun. How I’d love to be a fly on your wall. :-)

Very fun. :)

Get creative with it. He is obviously turned on by the power that you would have over him, so even if you do tell him to kiss your toes and other tame things the first time, it’ll probably still turn him on. I’m kind of the same way, like him – I like to be told what to do in bed. My girlfriend will tell me to scream her name or to shut the fuck up, to tell her I’m “her bitch” or whatever else she thinks of, even to do things that I normally wouldn’t do.. I don’t want to get too graphic here, haha. I can go into details if you don’t mind and have an open mind to things that you might think are gross until you try them.

I worked at a fetish shop, so I can help you out here. There are a lot of books out there and the 1st one I would recommend is “SM101.” Another is “Bondage on a Budget.” Where do you live? You should have some kind of porn or fetish shops around with some books filled with all kinds of things. One guy came in, got naked and started whackin it. Another came in and said he was supposed to do whatever I tell him for an hour and then I was supposed to send him home. I made him “try on something pretty” and set him up, blindfolded on a pedistal in a white, vinyl nurses outfit and purse, as a live display. I have picks to prove it. Thank God you can turn the sound off on your cell camera :) hehehe! Lots of towns have underground parties and even fetish balls. I went to a fetish ball once. I wore a flourescent orange collar, my girlfriend at the time held the leash attached an I was her footstool, I was made to take spankings by her… I suggest getting an account on fetlife.com/ It’s a community for kinksters and it’s set up pretty simple, but I promise you will have endless suggestions when you ask. Oh yeah, special candles for dripping wax over someone, bondage – tie his to the bed and tickle and torture him sexually… I swear, this is the best answer I think you will get on this subject. Fetlife is amazing.

A guy offers to do whatever you tell him to do and you’re stumped? Good god. Start with him giving you a body wash with his tongue. Everywhere but not on the clit. Then a nice oil or lotion massage. Then he has to please you in some other way, maybe with a sex toy of some sort. Then make him get you off as many times as you want. By this time, he’ll really be ready to do anyhing for you.

Ask the guy what his limits are. Can you hit him is just one question I can think of. Maybe he’s a closet kinkster and you guys might become an incredibly kinky couple.

have some massage oil on hand, and maybe some props, just in case.

if you want some ideas of the vast possibilities, join Fetlife and there are all kinds of groups and writings that may give you some ideas.

jca has a good point. Ask him his limits and you do whatever you want to him as well.

Two scenarios come to mind.

The first:
In a noisy, crowded, but high-class bar a woman is having a drink with friends at a table. A good-looking young man walks into the bar, or maybe ‘swaggers’ is a better word for it. His boyish charm and cheerful arrogance captivate the woman immediately, and she studiously ignores him while noticing every move he makes. No stranger to the flirting game himself, he proceeds to laugh, chat with and captivate every other woman in the place, without a glance in her direction. Finally, toward the end of the evening, without either of them having even acknowledged the other’s presence, he whispers to her in passing, “I’ll do anything you want for $50, but you have to command me in three words.”

Surprised and more than a little excited, she sits back in her chair and appraises him, his broad shoulders, narrow waist, powerful legs and strong arms, and his cocky smile. She licks her lips and stares into his eyes while she reaches into her purse for the cash. Stuffing the bills into the front pocket of his tight jeans she places her cheek next to his and purrs into his ear, “Paint my house.”

The second:
On a trans-Pacific flight a nervous, virginal young woman, traveling alone and afraid of flying, is maddened by fear when the plane experiences unexpected turbulence while flying over the dark ocean. Suddenly, one of the plane’s engines flames out, and despite the captain’s announcement that there is nothing to fear, she becomes convinced that her death is imminent. Panicked, and unwilling to die a virgin, she rises from her seat and screams, “Is there a man on this flight who can make me feel like a woman before we all die?”

A middle-aged businessman, also traveling alone, is the only one to rise from his seat several rows ahead of her. He turns to face her, and as he does, he removes his suit jacket and tie, leaving them on the seat as he slowly moves in her direction. She silences her cries as she watches him approach with a half-smile on his face, slowly undoing the buttons on his shirt as he approaches. The plane is still lurching in the dark, yet all of the passengers – and especially the young woman – are intent on the man slowly disrobing as he staggers toward her.

Finally he reaches her seat, just as he undoes the last button on the shirt. Quickly he doffs the garment and hands it to her. “Iron my shirt,” he commands.