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How can I treat myself alone from anxiety?

Asked by alicia25 (23points) April 10th, 2011

I feel too nervous to go out alone. When I see people’s faces, I worry on what they are thinking about me although I don’t know them. I experienced difficulties in making new friends and socializing with others. At school, I’m always alone and so quiet. I want to join my classmates but I feel afraid that they might reject me. I also find myself avoiding eye contacts at someone I’m talking to. These days, my sister also noticed that I sleep excessively. I surfed the internet and I felt afraid when I knew that I’m having symptoms on anxiety and depression. I don’t know what I should do because I can’t just tell this to my parents.

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marinelife's avatar

This is not something that you can fix alone. You need help.

If you cannot tell your parents, what about seeing a doctor and telling them?

Hawaii_Jake's avatar

I agree with @marinelife. You cannot fix this alone. You need help.

Please, talk to an adult you trust. If not your parents, then a teacher you like, the school counselor, a preacher, or better yet a doctor. Be open with this person.

JLeslie's avatar

Why can’t you tell your parents? Will they be angry or abusive? Can you tell an adult relative like an aunt or uncle?

If you really don’t feel comfortable talking to family you can go to a school counselor or tell your doctor. You might be developing agoraphobia, or general social anxiety. The anxiety could just be part of depression possibly. Do you feel very lonely and sad? Are you avoiding something, or hiding something that might be a very big burden for you to live with? Talking to a therapist might really help. They can determine what is going on, and if talking will help, or if you might need a medication.

Seelix's avatar

I agree with the other wise peeps who’ve posted here. You can’t do this alone, and, moreover, I don’t think you should do this alone. Part of what’s feeding your anxiety seems to be loneliness and a feeling of exclusion – trying to do this without help might just exacerbate that.

Are you embarrassed, and that’s why you don’t want to talk to your parents? When I first realized I was depressed and suffering from anxiety, I was terrified to tell my parents. When I did sit them down and talk to them, I cried all through the conversation. I realized afterward it was because I felt embarrassed about it, which I now know is silly. It’s actually pretty “normal” to feel depressed and anxious, and not something to feel embarrassed about when talking to those close to you.

Please think about who you can talk to in order to get some help. Is your sister older than you? Do you think that if you talked to her, she might be able to help with talking to your parents about it?
Do you have a school counsellor you can talk to, or a teacher you’re close with?

If you Google “mental health resources” and your city or state, you might be able to find information about free counsellors or other resources that can help you to get help.

JLeslie's avatar

Also, you are not alone, many teens go through times like this, don’t feel like you are the only one feeling this way.

skfinkel's avatar

It is hard to admit to your parents that you are having these kinds of problems. It is easy for people to dismiss them, to say you will be okay, when they don’t really understand what you are going through. However, even though it is hard, you have to take a chance that they will listen to you. If they are really unavailable, then you need to talk to someone at your school. This is something that will get better, but you need a bit of help talking it out, getting some advice. Some things are hard to fix by yourself. If you could have done it, I am thinking you would have done it by now. Reaching out here was a good first step. You can see that everyone is pretty much saying the same thing, find someone you trust to talk to . You can add my comments to that general consensus.

Assassin_15's avatar

I understand how you feel. I had the same problem. The best thing to do is to take a deep breath and tell yourself ” I am a cool person and worth knowing” or some sort of motivational opinion. I’m sorry you feel like you can’t talk to your parents about this issue. It might not hurt to take a risk. Parents can surprise you in what they have to say and may give you some ideas on how to feel better and comfortable in meeting new people, How long have you felt like this? If you find yourself feeling worse over time you need some help with a therapist or counselor. I hope you feel better soon! =)

alicia25's avatar

Thank you for helping me to deal with my problem. I do hope I’ll have the courage to tell this to someone. I now feel better than before. To be able to have some kind of advice and support is a great thing for me. I appreciate your efforts so thank you very much!

mattbrowne's avatar

You can’t. You need the interaction with other people.

Assassin_15's avatar

@alicia25 Anytime. I’m here to help =)

chewhorse's avatar

First determine the root of anxiety.. Not your particular anxieties, but the source of anxieties. Here’s a clue, the root of anxiety is worry.. Control worry and you can eliminate anxiety.

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