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Have you ever been in love?

Asked by lemming (3913points) May 6th, 2011

This has been asked before in 2009 but I think it deserves another run. Have you ever been in love? What age were you? Apparently some people only ever fall in love once and then they can’t do it again after that. Some people fall in love several times and a few people never fall in love at all…is the first time the best?

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KateTheGreat's avatar

I thought I was in love…but it all turned out to be a lie.

lemming's avatar

@KatetheGreat was that with the ass that cheated on you? Hope not! :)

King_Pariah's avatar

I’d say I’m too young to know for sure, but I doubt I have nonetheless.

lemming's avatar

@King_Pariah ya, you know when you are, it’s a very powerful feeling.

KateTheGreat's avatar

@lemming Sadly, it was that guy. :(

ragingloli's avatar

Of course not.

lemming's avatar

@KatetheGreat I’m sorry to hear that, that dick :D

KateTheGreat's avatar

@lemming C’est la vie! There’s more out there.

Brian1946's avatar

Yes I have: about 7 times.

I’d say my first time was the most thrilling, but it wasn’t the best. I was 20 and I didn’t have a fully developed idea of who I was or what I wanted.

yankeetooter's avatar

I thought I was, but I’m told that you can’t be in love, until you actually are in a relationship…so I guess not.

creative1's avatar

I was in love once and he passed away of cancer….. I still do love him, I wonder sometimes the what if’s then I come back to reality of the situation.

lemming's avatar

@yankeetooter Thats not true, you could well have loved him. Where’s he gone?

yankeetooter's avatar

Out of my world…or at least not onto cyberspace to check his e-mail, lol! It’s okay-I knew this was coming @lemming

KateTheGreat's avatar

@DrBill Thanks dear. :)

lemming's avatar

@creative1 Marguerite Duras says in her book The Lover: ‘I loved him, it seemed, forever, and [after death] nothing new could happen to that love’...she’s speaking about her brother but I thought that was very meaningful. Great book.

creative1's avatar

@lemming Thank you I shall look for it, I always like a good book

Blackberry's avatar

I’ve been close, I think. She still matters and I still think about her : (

everephebe's avatar

Yeah. Only once so far.

yankeetooter's avatar

Once is all some need, @everephebe

lemming's avatar

@Blackberry are you sure she doesn’t feel the same way?

Aethelwine's avatar

Yes. I thought I loved many before my husband. I loved my husband when we married, of course, but I didn’t realize true love until 11 years into my marriage. That was 8 years ago. sound crazy?

I’m still insanely in love.

Blackberry's avatar

@lemming She does feel the same way, but I wasn’t ready to settle down ><

Bellatrix's avatar

I am in love now and loved my ex husband very much. I have had infatuations that felt very like love when I was going though them too.

lemming's avatar

@Blackberry that’s really sad. I don’t think you should ever give up on love.

Blackberry's avatar

@lemming This is why life sucks :(

Bellatrix's avatar

Doesn’t sound crazy to me at all @jonsblond. I think it sounds beautiful.

lemming's avatar

@Blackberry why don’t you contact her?

Blackberry's avatar

@lemming There’s no point, being friends won’t work and I’m already involved with other people. I’d like for our paths to cross again when I’m older, but who knows ifthat’ll happen.

Kardamom's avatar

The worst thing is being in love with someone who doesn’t love you back. This has happened to me several times. One never said he loved me, but I hoped that some day he would fall in love with me, he never did. Another one said he did love me, but he actually didn’t. That one was probably the worst, because I loved him deeply when he left. I grew to despise him (which is what everyone told me I should have done in the first place, because he was a big douche-bag, but he was charming and handsome and said all the right things at the time, then he dumped me and played that game with someone else, and somene else and someone else ad nauseaum). Another one probably did love me for a brief moment, but then he fell out of love with me when he discovered that there’s lots of women (and men) in the world that he’d like to be with too. It’s devastating and colors your world from that point forward. But if you are able to move forward, you can see when you look back, that it’s a good thing that you didn’t end up with those particular people.

When you love someone and they love you back, it’s the best thing in the world.

josie's avatar

More than once. It’s great. The most recent is the best.

shego's avatar

I have fallen in love twice, but the first one made a huge mistake. It’s his loss.
The guy I am engaged to makes me feel like I am a princess. He is there for me, and he doesn’t like to see me upset. He is my rock and he loves me the way I am with all my flaws.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

I’ve fallen in love three times, and I’ve been married to my current love for just over 11 years now. It feels good every single time. Although, I must say your first kiss, when you have butterflies all in your tummy, is the absolute best. Depending on who’s doing the kissing…

HungryGuy's avatar

No. I’ve been in lust plenty of times. And plenty of women have been in lust with me. But love remains elusive…

dabbler's avatar

Still am.

incendiary_dan's avatar

I’m very happy to say that I’ve been in love with hobbitsubculture for several years now.

ducky_dnl's avatar

Nope. It turns out it was an infatuation, but he still owns a piece of my heart and always will.

tranquilsea's avatar

I thought I was in love when I was younger. But now that I’ve been with my husband for 17 years I can say unequivocally that what I felt when I was younger wasn’t love it more like infatuation. The love I hold for my husband is stronger, deeper and wider than anything I’ve ever experienced.

Aethelwine's avatar

@tranquilsea That’s what I’m talking about. Very sweet. =)

tranquilsea's avatar

@jonsblond it is. I’m just very thankful I’ve been able to experience it

SavoirFaire's avatar

I have been in love, and more than once. But it’s this latest time that has been undoubtedly the best.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

So many times and several wonderful relationships. The good stuff far outweighs the letdowns, for sure.

ducky_dnl's avatar

I’m correcting myself. It was and is love.

lemming's avatar

@Blackberry, if that’s your attitude (to love and to her), Honestly, I hope she finds someone else.

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