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(potentially NSFW)How do you ward off loneliness?

Asked by FluffyChicken (5521points) July 23rd, 2011

When you’re single, lonely(and related problems such as horniness) with no prospects of cuddles or sex, how do you generally deal with it?

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Berserker's avatar

I imagine some scenarios for myself, (I may or may not need some inspiration) and play them out in my head through masturbation, at least, in the beginning.

Otherwise, for that which you ask that doesn’t involve direct sexual impact, I use video games, movies and books, and try to absorb myself in their worlds.

CWOTUS's avatar

I spend a great deal of time alone, but very little of that as “lonely”. It’s an attitude thing.

The horniness thing is another matter entirely.

TheMarquis's avatar

I agree in many instances with Symbeline.

The problem you face is hormonal and it’ll stay in your head for a long while.

It’s nature hurting you, torturing you for not achieving what it wants you to, which is having the mate you identified as suitable.

The best solution is shielding yourself from the hormones. Doing other stuff, enjoying life.

Also yes, enjoy masturbation but be aware that you better shouldn’t masturbate when you’re in a terrible mood as it will more likely worsen your mood. Cheer yourself up, relax, and then you can make that feeling stronger with masturbation.

Another important thing that you should consider is personal growth. The path to achieve things and the wonderful feeling of achievement will distract you from your worries and at the same time make you a more interesting person for others, including potential lovers.

If you’re boring then expand your horizon, learn new things, learn new ways of amusement, amuse others, be part of something, etc.

If you’re unhealthy and/or obese, work on becoming better/fitter again, work yourself back into shape, get on a diet that holds the vitamins you need, etc.

The only good way, is forward. Stop to smell the roses, but also move on to discover more of them.

CaptainHarley's avatar

I’ve been in that position several times in my life, and at no time did I deal with it well. : ((

FluffyChicken's avatar

@CaptainHarley oh well. at least we can be lonely together

DeanV's avatar

Video games, fapping, and going out and doing something about it.

dabbler's avatar

@Russell_D_SpacePoet Bravo, sublime and brilliant!

I hate being lonely. Right there with @CaptainHarley on that, no fun, cranky or depression or both.
But it usually gets my attention on some level, and I get to thinking ‘why am I uncomfortable to be by myself?’ If I can embrace whatever that is too, then it’s all good.

ninjacolin's avatar

search for prospects?

Anemone's avatar

If you have the means, getting a massage can help with touch-deprivation. Not everyone gets that, I know, but it’s basically a non-sexual desire for physical contact. Come to think of it, maybe volunteering to groom and pet animals at a shelter could help with that?!? (It would definitely be cheaper than a massage!)

Otherwise, when I’ve been single and lonely I try to go out in the world every so often and be around people, even if I’m not interacting with them. I’d go out to live music, open mic events, plays, etc. Once you get used to going out alone, it can be fun and a good way to interact with people in a casual way.

FluffyChicken's avatar

@Anemone massage sounds perfect. Can’t volunteer at the shelter, as much I would love to as I have allergies. Live music sounds wonderful! I plan to go to many many festivals on my trip.

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