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How many times have you been truly smitten by someone?

Asked by Paradox1 (1177points) September 16th, 2011

I’m just curious. I had the best time this week on a first date and can’t get my mind off of her. I’m nearly certain the feeling is mutual. I’m not saying “I’m in love,” but it is certainly a powerful feeling.This has not happened to me since maybe 9th grade when I was delusional. It is exciting, but also pretty darn annoying!

How many times have you felt smitten after only brief contact with someone?

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ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

Probably often. I experience a lot of intense connections with other people, really easily. I don’t “fall in love” easily, but I do get that rush of intense connection a lot.

Imadethisupwithnoforethought's avatar

1–3 Times per month.

That is down significantly from college.


Truly? Really only once. I married her.

CaptainHarley's avatar

Twice. The first time it wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. The second time has only been for the last four years, but it’s looking damned good! : D

beccagolling's avatar

Only once ♥ :)

TexasDude's avatar

I get really excited about people, and I tend to leap headfirst into new relationships, so I’d say “often.”

ANef_is_Enuf's avatar

@Fiddle_Playing_Creole_Bastard that’s a much better way of wording it than what I said. “I get really excited about people.” That’s so accurate.

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Too often for my own good. This time around though, I’m marrying him!

Pandora's avatar

Ok smitten but not really love. Twice
Smitten but the real deal. Twice and married the second one.

FutureMemory's avatar

Far too often for my own good. I’ve found that it’s rarely reciprocated.

zenvelo's avatar

Truly smitten, where I have gotten to know her and just wanted to have her in my life? probably 15 times over 40 years. 15 women that I wonder what my life might have become if we’d married, starting with Pat C. my sophomore year of high school.

Paradox1's avatar

@Pandora What happened to the first “real deal” ?

Pandora's avatar

@Paradox1 I was more in love with him than he with me. I knew I couldn’t settle for less than what I was giving so I gave him his walking papers.

JLeslie's avatar

Once. Still in the smitten mode after 20 years.

stardust's avatar

Often enough. Id doesn’t always last. I’m a fickle one, I am.

fizzbanger's avatar

Thrice (like really, ridiculously smitten). The first time and third times turned into really substantial relationships, the second time, it took a few weeks to realize it was just hormones and amazing sex and that he was kind of a douche bag. Enjoy it while it lasts! Don’t neglect your friends.

augustlan's avatar

I’ve been in love three times, but I’ve only ever experienced that “absolutely smitten/fluttery stomach/ohmygoodness” feeling once. I’m married to that one now.

Paradox1's avatar

@fizzbanger Thanks for the tip!

@augustlan wow, seems to be a common response!


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