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I hate partying and clubbing , is that weird ?

Asked by suzanna28 (684points) October 16th, 2011

Sometimes I feel like an outcast because I feel like most people around me think people that party and are socialites are cooler than people that are say into theatre , the arts or other non-party means of socializing.

I think this whole celebrity culture is pervading mainstream society and making people thing that if their lives are not like that of celebrities, then something must be wrong with them and therefore many people are starting to convince themselves that if they don’t go clubs or are involved in wild partying or drinking occasionally then something is wrong with them.

What do you think ?

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laureth's avatar

If that’s weird, I don’t want to be normal.

digitalimpression's avatar

Sounds perfectly okay to me. I would rather have a lively, intelligent conversation in a coffee shop over a raucous, booze infested party where people aren’t even coherent. Nor can they hear anything anyway because the music is loud enough to rattle bones.

That said, I enjoy partying too. xD But I do understand where you’re coming from.

TexasDude's avatar

I indulge in the best of both worlds. I have lively, intelligent conversations with lots of booze, and I have a penchant for swing dancing to hip hop in clubs where most people just rub their asses on each other.

What I am trying to say here is that you can enjoy partying and clubbing and things like that without being a Paris Hilton zombie. And there is nothing wrong with how you choose to live, either. Do what thou wilt, and all that.

muppetish's avatar

I am not into either. In fact, I didn’t partake in either during my entire undergraduate career, which baffles many of my friends. Nor do I drink, but that’s another issue.

Do whatever you enjoy doing.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

Nope, I don’t really like it either. Makes me tired and cranky.

I wasn’t into partying as a teen either. Never been one for loud parties.

KateTheGreat's avatar

No, that is not weird at all. I envy you. If I didn’t like to party so much, I’d probably be a couple G’s richer.

FutureMemory's avatar

I’m right there with you. I’ve never understood our alcohol culture.

john65pennington's avatar

In my teenage years, my rock and roll band played in many nightclubs. We played in so many, that in fact, I became tired of it then and to this day, I do not frequent bars.

So NO, you are not alone.

JLeslie's avatar

Doesn’t sound weird to me. To each his own. I never was into drinking and have never taken or done any drugs. I hated house parties and bonfire drinking parties when I was in high school, and most of my friends were doing just that on the weekenda, it sucked for me, I did not even want to be around it. But, I did love going out to nightclubs, dancing all night. So I went out dancing, never drank alcohol. Dance clubs where I grew up had more emphasis on the dance than the drink.

lonelydragon's avatar

No, that isn’t weird. It takes all kinds to make a world. I was never into partying, either, not even as a teen. I’d prefer to go to a nice coffee shop/restaurant with soft background music where I can have a good conversation with one or two friends.

KidCurtis's avatar

No, I never could do the whole club thing and I’m completely sick of parties (and crowds in general). I prefer to chill and drink by myself or with a small group.

JLeslie's avatar

@KidCurtis I thought “partying” is drinking or getting high. Even if it is just two people. Just wondering how the term is defined.

Kardamom's avatar

I don’t like partying or clubbing and avoid those activities like the plague. Not to worry, just find people that enjoy doing the things that you like to do. You don’t even have to drop the people who you like, that do enjoy partying, just let it be known clearly and politely, that that is not your thing, and then invite them to go hiking with you, or see if they would like to go to a play at your local community theater, or see if they’d like to check out a cooking class with you. If they say, no, then just say, “That’s OK, I understand that that’s not your thing. Maybe some other time.”

sliceswiththings's avatar

Let’s be friends! I hate hate clubs and partying. I’d rather stay in with friends/roommates/boyfriend/cat any day. I hate sleeping in, and I hate not getting enough sleep, so staying up late is not for me.

Are you familiar with the show How I Met Your Mother? There’s an episode (“Okay Awesome”) where two characters have a wonderful conversation about clubs not being fun. Second quote here.

tranquilsea's avatar

I never liked clubs and most bars. The music was too loud so you couldn’t actually talk to each other. Most guys were there just to pick you up and I was constantly being run into.

I would prefer to sit at a pub or a coffee shop and talk.

perspicacious's avatar

Who cares what people think. Problem is that you do. Don’t do that. Be who you are.

Aethelflaed's avatar

It does seem to be weird at a certain time in life (18–22, mainly). I never enjoyed it, either, but it did and still does make it harder for me to go out with friends, because I have no interest in paying to hang out with them if I can’t actually converse with them. But, you just have to be really on top of finding other ways to hang out with people, and finding like-minded people who would rather stay in and have a glass or two of wine and talk, maybe watch a movie or play a board game, than pay $20 to rub against a stranger.

I have this theory that many people actually don’t like this, but because it’s so big when you’re in your late teens/early twenties, everyone does it anyway because they haven’t quite figured out how to not go clubbing and still have a social life.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I think if you don’t hate partying and clubbing, you’re weird.

mazingerz88's avatar

The last thing you want is force yourself to do something or anything just to be with the crowd. Sometimes people try it just to see what the whole big deal is all about and then decide whether it’s for them or not.

If not, then they move on and be cool in many other ways. Cool is not the domain of the party going people. You could be reading a book and be cool. Especially if it’s a zombie book imo. Lol. : )

rts486's avatar

You need to surround yourself with different people.

KidCurtis's avatar

@JLeslie It’s meaning where I come from I guess is a little different, to me to party one must be at an actual party, not just sitting around and bs’ing with some friends over drinks, a party is defined by the atmosphere moreso than the consumables. Or we can go with the Andrew W.K. definition of partying and just anything that you enjoy doing is partying.!/andrewwk

JLeslie's avatar

@KidCurtis Yeah, I think it can be used in many ways. Like so many things in English, terms are used with several different meanings. I don’t drink, so even when I go to a party, I never would refer to it as “partying.” Interesting.

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