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I have trouble speaking?

Asked by kyleharzo (72points) November 5th, 2011

Sometimes I stutter or forget what I’m saying or my words drop and my pronunciation screws up.
It discourages me to speak sometimes when it gets really bad, but I try to laugh it off. It usually leads to awkward moments.
Also, sometimes I don’t know what to say in situations. But that’s just me being awkward.
I used to be very quiet and I’m starting to be more outgoing, so it might be because I didn’t get enough practice growing up.
What are my options? Self-speech therapy?

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bkcunningham's avatar

Sometimes I’ll catch myself doing the same things. When I do, I pause, regroup my thoughts and slow down my speech. Do you really stutter or just stutter a few words when you get nervous?

Pied_Pfeffer's avatar

Welcome to Fluther and to the real world. It sounds like you might benefit from the guidance of a speech therapist.

wundayatta's avatar

Certainly speech therapy can help. I’m not sure it’s something you can do on your own.

kyleharzo's avatar

@bkcunningham I don’t have a real stutter, I just stutter when I can’t think straight. Like, in awkward situations where I don’t really know what to say.

kyleharzo's avatar

@wundayatta Is there online speech therapy – like with videos or articles? I don’t want to meet someone about this in person. I rather learn to do it on my own.

CWOTUS's avatar

Welcome to Fluther.

First of all, work on pacing yourself. Slow down; don’t try to speak quickly. Breathe before you speak a single word. The time you spend in inhale-exhale-inhale again can help you to marshal your thoughts, select the words you want to say, and rehearse in your mind (in a second or two; it can be that quick) the words you want to say and the tone of voice to say them.

Write a lot, and use your ‘internal voice’ to mentally ‘speak’ the words to yourself.

Sing. Read poetry – out loud. These other forms of verbal expression can help you with normal speech.

fizzbanger's avatar

What kind of situations?

If you’re talking about everyday conversations, people tend to like talking about themselves, so asking a few questions can get things flowing when you can’t think of anything to say. Generally, if you act friendly, confident and interested in people, they aren’t going to call you out for a slurred word or stutter or two. A little bit of awkwardness can be endearing if you handle it right.

YARNLADY's avatar

My husband went to speech therapy as a young child, and he found Toastmasters to be very useful as an adult.

dannyc's avatar

Don’t worry about it. In time, you will overcome this. Remember we are all the same in that there is always some area we can improve upon. Tolerant and kind people will understand. There are many more than you think. You will be fine.

downtide's avatar

Speech therapy would help, so would singing or reading rhythmical poetry aloud.

Akane's avatar

As everyone already said, a speech therapist will probably be the most helpful to you.
I kinda have the same problem, but it tends to happen when I do a presentation in front of a class, or when I talk to complete strangers.
I’m still trying to overcome it as well.
Try taking deep breaths, talking slower, or try picturing the words you’re going to say in your mind before you speak; I know that sounds weird but it helps me sometimes.
Hope this helps, and good luck. I’m sure you’ll be better at it eventually, just keep practicing.

Ayesha's avatar

Start reading out loud regularly. Be confident, don’t doubt yourself ever!

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