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Have you ever felt violated?

Asked by Palindrome (1084points) February 5th, 2012

Physically? If so how do you cope with this?
I was really angered last night and still kind of am. We were going back to a friend’s apartment after this party. Mostly everyone was semi drunk except me and the driver. I ended up having to sit on this guy’s lap (who I just met that night) b/c we had no room in the car. Before last night, I would see him around a couple of times since he was a mutual friend of the friends I tend to hang out with.

Anyway, so he kept basically trying to feel me up. I kept moving his hands away, he would bring them back up around me. He would try to put his face on my chest, I would push his head back away from me.

I then told him to keep himself TO HIMSELF. He kinda sorta stopped after that.

I felt violated. I could have spoke up more. I could have embarrassed him. But I didn’t.

I had problems like this growing up. This incident kinda resurged those covered memories.

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MilkyWay's avatar

Yes. I most definitley felt violated a few years back when a foriegn guy in a foreign country scarred me for life and ruined my holiday when he jumped me and kissed me.
With tongue. (shivers) I didn’t even do anything, I was 12 or 13? at the time :/

stardust's avatar

Yes, I have and it’s a horrible experience. I’m sorry you had to deal with that creep.

tranquilsea's avatar

I happened to me too often. I got expert at catching hands and telling guys to fuck off.

Sorry it happened to you.

marinelife's avatar

Yes, it has happened to me. Forgive yourself. You did not do anything wrong. You told him no. You pushed him away.

Next time just don’t ride in a car in a situation where you have to sit on a guy’s lap.

Bellatrix's avatar

Yes. I, as I suspect @Marinelife is, you think you somehow are responsible or could have done more. This was his bad behaviour not yours. Again, ditto to @Marinelife’s suggestion, if you don’t feel comfortable, don’t go, don’t stay, don’t get in the car. Have a back-up plan. My kids all know they can telephone us day or night and we will come and get them or make sure they have money to get a cab.

Stay away from that man. Listen to your instincts.

lemming's avatar

You could get him back by telling those friends about it…

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