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What are the ways in which you are average or normal?

Asked by wundayatta (58693points) May 16th, 2012

People don’t often seem to talk about being normal, except as an aspiration. They want to be normal, but are any of us actually normal?

In what way are you normal? What evidence do you have to support this opinion?

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MilkyWay's avatar

I have an average empathy level…
But other than that I am the weirdest person I know.
And the weirdest person to be known by other people who know me.

Blackberry's avatar

I have average social skills. I’m not so eerily quiet and creepy that I scare people, and I’m not so personable that everyone will love me.

King_Pariah's avatar

I am normally not the vast majority people’s definition of normal

Neizvestnaya's avatar

Work a “blue collar” job, f/t and feel underpaid.

Live from paycheck to paycheck, have done so all my life and so far knocks on wood, life has been pretty good.

Went to college but did not graduate with a degree.

Have been married, divorced and married again.

Have my own car.

Eat fast food at least once a week.

Don’t exercise as I should.

Blondesjon's avatar

I eat, breath, drink, shit, and piss just like everyone does.

I was also born to a female who was inseminated with the sperm of a male.

tups's avatar

I really love chocolate. If that’s not normal, then there’s something wrong with the world.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

I have never aspired to be normal or average.

I have always been more comfortable to be an outlier on the scatter plot or normal curve.

I suppose there must be some activities or tasks where my performance falls within the normal range.

On tasks or goals which I value, I have always demanded of myself that I perform at a significantly above average level. I invested sometimes extraordinary effort to achieve such levels of performance.

On other tasks like handwriting or even typing, I never desired to be even as good as average. I focused on achieving high quality of the content but never much cared how pleasing my handwriting is or how fast and properly I can type.

In many areas of functioning, I would be greatly disappointed if what I did was assessed to be normal or average. I never considered that standard to be acceptable for what I do.

There are many activities or tasks I have neglected to cultivate because I did not expect that I could perform at an excellent level. I probably missed out on some fun by doing this.

I do not disparage average or normal performance in others. People who try hard and take pride in what they do deserve and get my respect.

I am below average in most sports but I have played them for for with others whose main focus is on the recreational aspect of the activity.

I have learned many valuable things from observing or working beside average people who knew how to do things I did not.

ucme's avatar

My dick gets hard whenever I see an attractive naked lady, actually she doesn’t have to be naked, a bikini will do, or even just a few loose buttons on her blouse…....fuck it, she just has to be breathing & i’ve got wood.
I call that perfectly normal.

Cruiser's avatar

The only way I can think I am normal is when I take my temp and it reads somewhere around 98.6 degrees….aside from that I require you to sign a waver to be in the same room with me.

Bellatrix's avatar

What is normal?

fluthernutter's avatar

Finished school.
Got married.
Had kids.

That’s pretty normal.

TexasDude's avatar

I have average math skills. I’m an average guitar player, even though I’ve been playing for years.

rooeytoo's avatar

They always say “normal” is a setting on the washing machine and that is about it. I have always striven to excel and I have managed in some areas of my life but in others I feel I am mired in mediocrity, but I am forever hopeful and still striving!

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

Was my answer above ^^^ too long or too much work for people to bother to read or did it just suck?

DaphneT's avatar

I’ve always thought of the concept of normal as a shifting definition. Mathematically speaking, the normal is what the majority (of those being counted) do or agree to tolerate. Whatever is counted is normalized. I’m working with this definition: (of a subgroup) having the property that the same set of elements results when all the elements of the subgroup are operated on consistently on the left and consistently on the right by any element of the group; invariant. Now that I’ve re-read the definition of normal for the different genres, I don’t have a good, innate understanding of the concept of normal. I’m going to adopt your technique of not revising what I’ve written, and I’m going to add the definition:

norĀ·mal [nawr-muhl]
conforming to the standard or the common type; usual; not abnormal; regular; natural.
serving to establish a standard.
Psychology .
approximately average in any psychological trait, as intelligence, personality, or emotional adjustment.
free from any mental disorder; sane.
Biology, Medicine/Medical .
free from any infection or other form of disease or malformation, or from experimental therapy or manipulation.
of natural occurrence.
Mathematics .
being at right angles, as a line; perpendicular.
of the nature of or pertaining to a mathematical normal.
(of an orthogonal system of real functions) defined so that the integral of the square of the absolute value of any function is 1.
(of a topological space) having the property that corresponding to every pair of disjoint closed sets are two disjoint open sets, each containing one of the closed sets.
(of a subgroup) having the property that the same set of elements results when all the elements of the subgroup are operated on consistently on the left and consistently on the right by any element of the group; invariant.

I still think normal is a shifty definition, whatever is the tolerated in the majority of the group is what is normal.

No I’m not normal. This is normal for me.

Sunny2's avatar

Last thing before I go to bed and first thing I do when I wake up, is urinate. From a question here on Fluther, I believe that’s what everybody does.

Berserker's avatar

Pretty much every way. I don’t think there’s any real way to be abnormal, but then maybe not being normal doesn’t mean you have to be all fucked up. Still, whatever it is, I do just about what other people do, I guess. In my head I think I’m pretty abnormal, but I can’t confirm this since I’m not in any one else’s head, and can’t compare themselves to me vis a vis a general definition of normalcy.

Paradox25's avatar

I’m not sure how to define ‘normal’ when the term is used in this way. I guess I could ask if I’m a normal human being, or a normal guy (in the gender role sense). I’ve never been obsessed with being normal, because I’ve always been more interested in pursueing my own interests along with wanting to be unique in my own way.

I’m an extremely personable individual, and most people actually enjoy being around me. Most people tell me personal things that they never tell others about (even when I don’t ask) because they tell me that I’m a good listener, and that they know they can trust me. I’m not sure whether this makes me a normal person or not. I also tend to have interests different from those of my peers, I believe there is a ‘god’ but see religion as nonsense, I have secular dualist beliefs (most people don’t even know what that means), I’m not relationship needy, I tend to be modest (most of the time), I prefer to spend the majority of my free time by myself, I’ve always preferred staying at home and reading a good book vs going out (even as a teen), etc, etc, etc.

Yeah, I highly doubt that I’d be considered ‘normal’. However, at least I have my dignity, my pride, and most people tend to respect me. I’m not normal, I’m just myself.

WillWorkForChocolate's avatar

I’m normal in the sense that Sometimes I’m very normal when it comes to I’ve been told that

You know what, screw it. I don’t think I’m normal.

YARNLADY's avatar

I suppose I’m normal in that I feel different from most people.

deni's avatar

Who wants to be normal? I don’t! Normal is boring, weird is where its at.

fluthernutter's avatar

Normal is nice.
Weird is over-rated.

People aspire to be normal because there’s no need to aspire to be weird. Weird is the natural state of things, like chaos. People strive for equilibrium.

Facade's avatar

I don’t think I’m normal at all. Sometimes I wish I was; it seems comfortable.

AngryWhiteMale's avatar

Depends on how you define “normal”. Now, “average”, I can comment there.

I’m average height, average weight, average looks, average in pretty much everything I think.

6rant6's avatar

@Dr_Lawrence Kind of middle range sucking.

augustlan's avatar

Hm. I’m overweight, so that’s pretty normal. Otherwise, I think I’m pretty weird. Which is also pretty normal, probably.

wundayatta's avatar

Damn! I wish I had a bunch of high school kids to answer this question, too. People on fluther seem to have raised their comfort with their weirdness to an artform! On fluther, weird is normal.

6rant6's avatar

I used to think I was terific wunderful good speller. But the older I get the less true I think that is. I’m curious whether I’ve gotten worse at spelling or more disearning discurning dyscerning anal.

OpryLeigh's avatar

On week days I work a nine to five job. I always dream of leading a slightly gypsy lifestyle where I don’t need four walls and money to feel content but, just like many, many people, I’m constantly battling to keep my head above water and, actually, I seek comfort in the fact that, this is, in fact, quite normal.

I’m actually quite irritated when people claim to be weird or “not normal”. Every person who has said that too me (about themselves) would probably be disappointed by how normal they actually are and they don’t seem to realise how normal it is to claim “I’m not like normal people”.

Berserker's avatar

@Leanne1986—Yeah, agreed. So many people claim to be not normal…that so many people do probably makes it a normal thing. :/

Bellatrix's avatar

There is a difference between ‘normal’ and ‘average’.

I think I am normal but I am not really sure what this term means. One person’s normal is another person’s eccentric. I probably lean towards the latter. I don’t like terms like normal either. I don’t like putting labels on people. If we label some people ‘normal’ we are labelling others as ‘abnormal’. So, I again ask my earlier question… what is normal?

As to average. Average in looks, messed-upness, probably. In some ways I am anything but average though. I am a complex mix of many things.

OpryLeigh's avatar

@Bellatrix I agree. I consider myself fairly normal but I thrive to be more than simply, average.

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