Is it normal to date more men/ women than have intercourse with them?
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May 20th, 2012
Looking back on my relationships in my life, I have dated more women than I have had sex with them. Is this normal?
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Seems normal to me.
Some dates just turn out to be not ‘chemistry stuff’, so you leave it at that.
Definitely seems normal to me. Dating someone is how we figure out if we want more with them. If you don’t want more after the date, there’s no reason to sleep with them.
Seems like an odd question. Do you feel pressured to sleep with every woman you date?
Like @Seaofclouds said, you initially date someone to find out if you have enough chemistry and common interests and a similar value system to want to continue to date them, it’s after you’ve kind of figured those things out that you should decide whether or not you want to sleep with someone, not before.
On the other hand there are some people who have no interest in romance or a real relationship or a future with other people, they just want sex. In that case, those people probably do sleep with every woman that they “date” because that is their only goal.
Well yes, you don’t take home every street corner give away puppy either, unless your animal hoarder. I suppose a sex addict might consider dating without immediate mating to be an exercise in futility. Most of us consider it to be like shoe shopping, not always fun but necessary to find a good fit.:-P
Think about it logically. Would it be likely to have sex with more people than you date? This would likely happen only if you engage in random sex with strangers.
So, would you expect to have sex with every friend? Seems unlikely. It’s a pretty intimate thing to do.
Would you have sex with everyone you date? Again, it seems like sex is more intimate than dataing. Unless things have changed a lot since I was a youth, getting to home base is pretty tough. You can date a lot of girls, and have sex with only a few of them. It seems like perhaps this could have changed if people don’t think much of sex any more. But I don’t think that is likely.
So most young people probably still think sex is special, and it is something people shouldn’t do unless they are serioius about each other. If that’s the case, then most people will date more than they have sex with. On the other hand, if you are incredibly sexy and don’t care who you fuck, then I suppose everyone will ask you for sex and you might just put out for all of them. Seems unlikely, though.
Sounds about right to me. What were you imagining before you asked the question?
Yeah – do you think you have sex with more women than you date? That doesn’t make sense.
Yes. That’s the right way to do it.
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