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Breakup Songs?

Asked by alibaba (4points) June 6th, 2008 from iPhone

Divorce, yuck but here it is. I have a few songs that describe my total frustration with getting into a marriage 5 yrs ago to the wrong person. What are your favorites! I may add to my collection. Too many love songs out there!

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dingus108's avatar

the last time I had a breakup was junior high and I’m a senior in HS now… Studies are a bit more important at this age anyways. But I would think that some good old school soul and R&B would have some good relativity. I would have been listening to some Al Green, “Let’s Stay Together” during a breakup… :-/

AstroChuck's avatar

I hate country music but the first song that comes to mind is “D-I-V-O-R-C-E” by Tammy Wynette. It’s an awful song, though.

alibaba's avatar

Dingus, 4 months ago I was singing “Let’s Stay Together” but not now. It’s way beyond that. AstroChuck, no kids here thank goodness. And yes, I abhor the “modern” country myself. A little Jerry Jeff Walker or Hank Williams Jr on rare occasions is enough for me (every 10 years or so).

I’m in the Chris Isaak mode right now. “Please” (you’re killing me with all your questions) And “Round N’ Round” from San Francisco Days.

jrpowell's avatar

Jawbreaker—Do You Still Hate Me?

Been hearing about you.
All about your disapproval.
Still I remember the way I used to move you.
I wrote you a letter.
I heard it just upset you.
Why don’t you tell me?
How can I do this better?
Are you out there?
Do you hear me?
Can I call you?
Do you still hate me?
Are we talking?
Are we fighting?
Is it over?
Are we writing?
We’re getting older.
But we’re acting younger.
We should be smarter.
It seems we’re getting dumber.
I have a picture
of you and me in Brooklyn.
On a porch, it was raining.
Hey, I remember that day.
And I miss you.

alibaba's avatar

WOW! I’m not her/him. Gosh, there are always so many questions. So much anger. Try to re-direct that anger to good things. My soon to be ex is a very angry person, and it just tears me apart. Of course, that’s why I am divorcing him, but I pray for him. I wish he would focus his energies on good things instead of trying to destroy those who look cross-eyed at him.

alibaba's avatar

Robert Plant & Allison Krauss—Gone Gone Gone (cuz you done me wrong) Best breakup song published in the last year.

mcbealer's avatar

Birds by Neil Young


Anymore by Dean Fields (sorry, I couldn’t find a link) off the album Imitations

I found my way to you on a windless breeze.
I watched you drift with the greatest of ease.
As the shadows pulled you further from view,
Its coming clear…
I don’t know you anymore.
I’m at the station waiting on a bus.
The moments move the last seconds left of us.
The wheels will ride and tear their way between.
A tear will slide.
You don’t love me anymore.
700 ocean water miles, 11 hours of land left to drive,
And 6 long months will separate
until I don’t love you anymore

jrpowell's avatar

I’m not exactly sure what your problem is. I have never been divorced. You asked for breakup songs and I posted one. Sure, it isn’t kittens, cotton candy, and snsǝɾ. If you wanted happy breakup songs ask for them. I know of a few Christian Rock bands you probably won’t like.

DeezerQueue's avatar

This song sung by Tompall Glaser always made me chuckle a bit. And the end of the song (in the video) it kind of sums of the subjectivity of it all.

Put Another Log on the Fire

Put another log on the fire,
Cook me up some bacon and some beans,
Go out to the car and change the tire,
Wash my socks and sew my old blue jeans.
Baby, fill my pipe and then go fetch my slippers,
Boil me up another pot of tea.
Put another log on the fire, girl,
Come and tell me why you’re leaving me.

Don’t I let you wash the car on sunday?
Don’t I warn you when you’re getting fat?
Hey, fatso!
Ain’t I gonna take you fishing some day?
Well, a man can’t love a woman more than that.

Ain’t I always nice to your kid sister,
Don’t I take her driving every night?
So sit here at my feet because I like you when you’re sweet
And you know that it ain’t feminine to fight.

Put another log on the fire,
Cook me up some bacon and some beans,
Go out to the car and change the tire,
Wash my socks and sew my old blue jeans.

Fill my pipe and then go fetch my slippers,
Boil me up another pot of tea.
Put another log on the fire, woman,
Come and tell me why you’re leaving me.
Yeah, come and tell me why you’re leaving me.

Lyrics by Sheldon Silverstein

Optimism101's avatar

Ive always liked ” kiss and say goodbye” by the manhattans. I

jamzzy's avatar

ne-yo – go on girl

ladytmerie's avatar

My absolute favorite is “For the Good Times” by Al Green.

jcs007's avatar

If you’re really angry: I Don’t Want you Back by Eamon

SquirrelEStuff's avatar

Dont Know What Ya Got by Cinderella

Kay's avatar

“Say Hello, Wave Goodbye” by David Gray

“Stay or Leave” by Dave Matthews

Those 2 songs always get to me, even if I’m in a perfectly good mood, heh.

scamp's avatar

@DeezerQueue that song always cracked me up!! How about the old standard, I Will Survive?

sarahc's avatar

Goodbye by Eva Cassidy is what I would put on if I want to cry. It captures the mixed feelings of a break up, even if you know you need to leave someone. From your tone of frustration, I’m not sure that’s where you are. But here are the lyrics anyway:

It’s funny how the distance can make you feel close
And the things you lost are the things you want most
The weather’s fine here perfect shade of blue
I guess that’s why I’ve been thinking of you

So I call you up just to tell you why
Why I left you and say goodbye
Ooh must be the mood I’m in
I’m thinking of you again
I call you up just to tell you why
Why I left you and say goodbye

I know you’re different now and I guess I changed too
And I thought what was once so right was so wrong for you
Yesterday I was talking and I heard your name
The weather’s fine here with a slight chance of rain


Time makes you sorry for the things that you’ve done
Sometimes you walk away and sometimes you run
And the weather’s fine here; I can feel a slight chill
Somethings change babe and some never will


I call you up just to tell you why
To say I love you and to say goodbye

DeezerQueue's avatar

@ Scamp Also a good song, and great to get moving to, as well, which helps shake off some of the blues.

scamp's avatar

Yeah, it was like the women’s power song of the 80’s!

simon's avatar

Alice Deejay-better off alone
the Coors-never really loved you anyway
joy division-love will tears us apart
the cure- disintigration
hope 7-better off

Just a couple of my personal favorites.

figbash's avatar

Jezebel, by the 10,000 Maniacs is pretty poignant:

To think of my task is chilling.
To know I was carefully building the mask I was wearing for two years, swearing
I`d tear it off.
I`ve sat in the dark explaining to myself that I`m straining too hard for
feelings I ought to find easily.
Called myself Jezebel.
I don`t believe.

Before I say that the vows we made weigh like a stone in my heart.
Family is family, don`t let this tear us apart.

You lie there, an innocent baby.
I feel like the thief who is raiding your home, entering and breaking and
taking in every room.
I know your feelings are tender and that inside you the embers still glow.
But I`m a shadow, I`m only a bed of blackened coal.
Call myself Jezebel for wanting to leave.

I`m not saying I`m replacing love for some other word to describe the sacred
tie that bound me to you.
I`m just saying we`ve mistaken one for thousands of words.
And for that mistake, I`ve caused you such pain that I damn that word.
I`ve no more ways to hide that I`m a desolate and empty, hollow place inside.

I`m not saying I`m replacing love for some other word to describe the sacred
tie that bound me to you.
I`m not saying love`s a plaything.
No, it`s a powerful word, inspired by strong desire to bind myself to you.

How I wish that we never had tried to be man and his wife, to weave our lives
into a blindfold over both our eyes.

alibaba's avatar

Thanks for all the great recommendations!

@ johnpowell…. I hope you received my apology. My response was horrible due to my lack of understanding. I wish I could take it back.

And to the few who commented on my attitude. Thanks! If I come off that way in a few written words to strangers, imagine what I must sound like to my friends and family. Your comments were a real eye opener and I’m glad you took the time to make them. I needed to hear them.

Thanks again!

iceblu's avatar

im going to be emo here for a second…

Across Five AprilsA Year From Now

Complete and total adoration,
My gift to you, my heart was yours.
In ten weeks you shaped it,
In one night you murdered it.
Torn from my chest and laid at your feet,
That first step you took was the worst.
Since then you’ve walked a thousand miles in silence and short remark,
I still have these memories,
But we’ll never see what we could have been.
Remember when we talked about where we’d be a year from now?
Remember when you held my hand like you’d never let it go?
Remember, cause that’s all you can do.
We’ll never make another memory,
We’ll never make another memory.
I wish I’d have died in your arms the last time we were together,
So I wouldn’t have to wake without you today.
This time I thought things were real.
You said they were, what happened?
You were a priority, was I an option?
I let you see a side of me that I don’t share with anyone.
Promises are just words unless they are fulfilled.
you knew from the beginning all I had to offer you was my heart,
I’m sorry that wasn’t enough.
So, we’ll go our own ways,
And hopefully you’ll remember the things I’ve told you,
Hopefully you’ll understand that everything I said was in sincerity.
A broken heart is not what I wanted from this,
But I guess I’ve learned from it.
But aren’t you supposed to learn from your mistakes?
I don’t consider this a mistake,
I just wish the story didn’t end this way,
Cause I’m still in love with the person who helped me write it.
Remember when you held my hand like you’d never let it go?
Remember when we talked about where we’d be a year from now?

VanBantam's avatar

Narrow Your Eyes by They Might Be Giants off of thier Apollo 18 album.

TMBG, IMHO, really captured some of those feelings, in this song, that one gets when breaking up.

Listen to it and post what you think about it.

alibaba's avatar

@VanBantam, I definitely relate to it. It could be my anthem. But the part about shaking hands with the father is what killed me. My father died in January and my husband couldn’t even show up for the visitation. My father was a man of honor and despite my husband’s (soon to be former husband) professed love for my father, my husband’s love of alcohol kept him away. And today, I had to check my soon to be ex into the hospital for potential kidney failure, heptatitis, blockage, ...... who knows. I’m taking the high road. I’ll do whatever I can for him, without losing sight of what is best for me.

Allie's avatar

Brand New – The Boy Who Blocked His Own Shot
All Time Low – Memories That Fade Like Photographs
Letter Kills – Hold My Heart (Kind of..)
Tomorrow In Review – Shooting Star
Sleep Station – After The War & Burden To You (Sort of..)
.. and the self titled All-American Rejects album.

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