My dead Grandma's birthday is tomorrow. Any suggestions on how to honor her?

make a donation in her name to a worthy charity.

I have also lost my grandmother, whom I love very much, in the last year. What we did for her birthday was a get together to reminisce about all of the great times we had with her. Our whole family came together so we could smile about the good times and laugh about the comical times.

My condolences go out to you, and I hope you find something well suited for someone you loved so much.

In Judaism, on the anniversary of a family member’s death, you light a special candle that burns for 24 hours. You can find these candles in the “kosher” section of most big grocery stores in large metropolitan areas – they are called yahrzeit candles and are specially designed to burn for 24 hours. I don’t think there’s any reason that someone who is not Jewish couldn’t light one. It’s also nice to go for a walk alone somewhere in nature and reflect on her life.

You can get with your family and talk about the good times you had with her…and you can make her fav dishes, and eat.

Traditionally, the Yahrzeit candles are used for the anniversary of the death, but I also have lit them on birthdays. The tradition, should you choose to follow it, is to light the candle at sundown the night before and extinguish it on sundown of the next day…ergo the 24 hrs.

Also, you could try talking with her. Does that strike you as odd? You could give it a shot. One way of doing it is to sit across from a chair, imagine she’s sitting in it and say whatever you’d like to her, as if she were there.

This is my favorite site to honor someone, send a wish to a friend or family member if they are going through something tough: http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/enter.cfm?l=eng
It is serene, personal, caring. Hope this helps and whatever you do, it will be wonderful to honor her.

Do something for someone who needs some of the kind of love she gave you.

Thanks everyone!

Happy Birthday Grandma!!!

Another idea is to do a little little act of kindness for someone today and ask the person to pass it on. (Put money in a parking meter, tip a little more, etc.)

Happy Birthday to your grandma from me too!

In my family, on the birthdays of my deceased grandparents, we eat some of their favorite foods as a way of remembering them fondly!