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Should I be embarrassed by my small build?

Asked by 2TFX (435points) January 25th, 2014

I am a guy with a small chest and waist. I have to shop in the boys department to find clothes tat fit me. This is the one thing I hate about shopping! Even in this department , I still have trouble finding the right size.

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janbb's avatar

Why not give yourself permission to not be embarrassed about it? My nephew was always very slight and has had no problems making friends or getting girlfriends.

Adirondackwannabe's avatar

It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog. Everybody brings something different about them. So you’re not a gorilla, what else do you do well?

Kropotkin's avatar

Yes, you should be embarrassed.

Embarrassment is actually useful feedback. Too often people fail to be embarrassed about something when they should be, or they fail to act on their feelings of embarrassment.

You’ve two choices: Stop being embarrassed, and just accept how you are—or do something about it.

SadieMartinPaul's avatar

Do you just have an ectomorphic build—lanky and sinewy? If yes, lucky you. You won’t get the pot-bellies and love-handles that so many men live with. And, the ectomorphic body type often includes being very well-hung.

Sammy Davis, Jr. was an ectomorph of short height. He had his fair share of female companions, and he was known to have been extremely well-endowed. One of his lovers even wrote a kiss-and-tell book that described his private part at great length (pun fully intended).

downtide's avatar

If you don’t like your body shape you can change it by working out regularly. Go to a gym and lift weights, or take up some physical sports. I get the impression from your other questions that you’re still in school so you should have plenty of opportunity to do that. After a year or so of doing that you’ll have girls falling at your feet.

josie's avatar

It’s a normative question. Impossible to answer in the context presented.

blueberry_kid's avatar

Well, I’m not a guy, but I can somewhat sympathize with you.

I basically have your problem, but opposite. I’m a teenage girl that’s too tall and too big (thunder thighs) for teen clothes, so I have to shop in women’s, sometimes. Now, I know that I can grow out of it, which might not help, but I’ve learned to accept it. It’s just something you’ll have to get used to and deal with. The best solution in your situation is to build muscle. Eat plenty of protein and allow yourself to bulk up. Look at Kevin Hart, he’s only 5 feet tall. I’m taller than him and i’m not even done growing…but hey, you’ll be fine man. Never be embarrassed about where you shop, as long as you look good doing it.

That probably sounds shallow, but just bulk up, okay?

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