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Please interpret this rather disturbing dream.

Asked by Skaggfacemutt (9785points) April 21st, 2014

I always dream, but once in a while I have a dream that is different, move vivid, that I am rather disturbed by. If you don’t believe in dream interpretation, please don’t answer.

So, I was on vacation (cruise ship, Vegas?) and met some guy who was rather good looking. Anyway, for some odd reason, we just up and got married. Then at the end of the vacation, he said he was going to go home and settle his affairs and come meet me at my house to start our life together.

Then, I never heard from him again. I called my sister, and explained to her that I didn’t even know the guy’s name. I wasn’t too heartbroken (because I didn’t even know him) but I was concerned about being legally married and what that would imply from a legal and financial standpoint.

So, we looked through all of the stuff I brought back from vacation, and found a receipt that he signed when he paid for dinner. The receipt was signed by Richard Stevenson. Then I realized that my last name was now Stevenson, and I didn’t even know it.

So, tell me, what do you make of this?

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talljasperman's avatar

It means that you are lonely and is a warning you for next time… the next guy you meet you should give your real phone number to.

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

@talljasperman Ha-ha! So what are you saying? That I should get a guys name and phone number before I marry him? That would be good advice.

ragingloli's avatar

did you sing any sappy disney songs during that dream?

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

You mean like, “Some Day My Prince Will Come”? You guys are funny! I am trying to be serious here, this dream really disturbed me, and I have been kind of freaked out about it all day.

I guess laughter is the best medicine. Ha-ha!

flutherother's avatar

Difficult to say without knowing your circumstances but on the face of it I would say the dream indicates a longing for a relationship with someone and at the same time a fear that it might mean losing control of your life.

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

@flutherother I think you’re probably right. I was widowed 10 years ago, and have not had any desire to remarry. But just recently I ran into an old friend that I have always had the “hots” for, which made me think about it, if only briefly. The very idea of getting embroiled in a relationship scared the daylights out of me, so I rejected the notion immediately.

Judi's avatar

I think it means that there are things going on in your life that your subconscious feels are impulsive and that you might be doing things without considering the long term consequences.

flutherother's avatar

@Skaggfacemutt It sounds as though that is what triggered your dream. You can have a relationship without getting too ‘embroiled’ in it but you are probably best not to take up with this old friend even if he does pay for dinner. I wouldn’t rule out a relationship but I wouldn’t jump into one either.

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

Well, he is married, so that’s a big, fat NO. But I always thought he was handsome, charming, funny and sexy, but he has never been an option.

Cruiser's avatar

Seeing that there is this friend you knew a long time ago re-appearing in your life and it seems you fancy this man even though he is married. In your dream you took up a with a man, married him and he had to go tend to his affairs and later join you but never does. It parallels you hooking up with Mr Married man who would then have to go tend to his affairs and obviously not show back up because he is already married and you can’t have him.

I think also that a lot of this disturbed feeling you had/have is the conflict in your heart and mind over your deceased husband and possibly wanting another man in your life now. That has to be a strong conflict that only you can resolve. Good luck.

dappled_leaves's avatar

Usually, you don’t have to look too far to figure out what you had on your mind when you were sleeping. You ran into this guy recently, you had a “what if” thought… your dream is probably partly about this missed connection; you lost him in the flow of time. And maybe you saw a commercial set on a cruise liner that week.

What matters more than a literal interpretation of the dream is how you feel + what you think in your waking life (i.e., your feelings tempered by an understanding of the consequences of your potential actions).

wildpotato's avatar

The line that jumps out at me is “I realized that my last name was now Stevenson, and I didn’t even know it.” It makes me think your dream was about your sense of your own identity and how your identity changes when you enter a relationship.

The other bit that is striking is that you married this man and yet did not know him at all, which puts me in mind of the old agade about how can we ever truly know another person.

So I’d venture a guess that your dream manifested your worry about these things, perhaps due to your recent interaction with and consideration of your old friend.

kritiper's avatar

You long for love. You like the basic idea of a whirlwind, magical, exotic relationship in a romantic setting but are also aware that these things are not realistic.

Coloma's avatar

I think it may signify that you wish to be more free spirited and impulsive…( I hate that word, lets just call it spontaneous ). Perhaps you feel in a rut, stifled, and your spontaneous desires are stagnant due to responsibility.

Skaggfacemutt's avatar

Thanks, everyone! @Cruiser , @wildpotato , @dappled_leaves and @Coloma . You guys are so insightful. I should have been able to figure that out myself, but didn’t really make the connection between this friend of mine and my dream. Or why I found it so disturbing. @Cruiser , you really did a good job in dissecting all the elements of the dream. Now I understand.

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