Would you rather have love or respect from your S/O?

As a Man, I can’t conceive one without the other. I think I respected my wife as a person before I fell in love with her. We have completely different backgrounds and cultures and bring different things to our collective skill set as a couple. As to the question, I kind of feel one begets the other. I would start with respect, then love. Plus, she puts up with my shenanigans.

I know. It’s a tough scenario. If you love someone, it just follows that you should respect them too.

OK, put it this way, if you fell out of love with her, but still respected her, would you be more likely to stay than if you lost respect for her?

Love. I don’t need a S/O just to prop my ego up.
(Male)
I’d bet most men would say love since that is what they get involved with women for, and women would say respect because they get involved with men for security.

Hmmmm….(that means I am thinking.)

I can’t separate the two. How does one work without the other? Although I guess an abusive personality could expect love without respect. I can’t do it. (I was going to say good oral but you don’t need one more reason to slap me.)

It is hard. But I think a marriage can maybe survive if the love is gone, but the respect is still there. Can you love someone who you have no respect for?

@kritiper so do you think women have more pragmatic reasons for choosing who they choose than men do?

I’m a woman. I would def choose respect. I think that is the most important thing in any relationship. In fact, I think if everyone in the world respected everyone else, we’d have a pretty good place to live in. I can see how you can have respect without love. But I have to say that truly loving someone would have to include respect.

GA @anniereborn

However, too many people do things that absolutely deserve NO respect. Respecting someone isn’t always a black and white decision.

If I couldn’t have both my O wouldn’t be very S. That said, I would choose respect. Love is passion, and passion is fueled by sexual attraction, which can cum come and go, or come and go, and go, and go.
Respect is earned, and usually stays as long as you still deserve it.

Neither.

Head.

Would love to participate but…
False alternative
Impossible hypothetical

You think a relationship can survive without love?

This is not something that I can answer, because I don’t personally believe that someone can love another person if they don’t also respect them. Without respect, there’s no way to fall in love in the first place.

In my view a relationship that doesn’t have both isn’t worth continuing.

I’ll answer.

I want passion and romance. In my mind I would need love for this to happen.

I have a vagina.

To my mind, you can’t be forced to choose. That word “respect” blurs too readily into other things like “fear”. I mean there are plenty of people with the same respect for their spouse as they have for rattlesnakes. I suppose one can fall back on Machiavelli’s corollary that it is better to be feared than to be loved.

You’ve spent too much time on the streets @stanleybmanly if respect = fear! Fear is not respect, IMO. It’s just fear. The gangstas pull guns on people and “demand respect.” Well, they get lip service, but that’s all they need to satisfy their pathetic egos.

OK, lets say you can have both. Which one would be MOST important to you?

Personally i’d prefer a blowjo…ah, jonny boy blonde got there first.

great minds and all wot wot

It appears so old bean