Is the way the family, especially parents, speak and behave in the home more influential than how and what children are taught in school?

I’d say yes.

Yes.

Children learn from the behavior modeled by parents. Children who are read to learn to read more easily, parents that are demonstrative in their love have children that are more empathetic and supportive. Children that are raised in a calm home are less anxious and less volatile.

To a point. The core moral/belief structure I instilled in my boys was constantly challenged by the peer pressure/POV of BS and disrespect of their peers that they then came home with that us as parents had to work overtime to undo and rebuild the moral, do-the-right-thing approach to life we believed will produce a loving, respectful, high-functioning, independent young adult. Despite a few bumps in the road it has paid off in spades.

I would argue that ethics are not really what a school should be teaching. Ideally that would be taught at home so the teachers wouldn’t even need to worry about it.

But the basics like reading, writing, arithmetic, and the Oxford comma should be taught in school.

It might have worked in the 60s but with the class war that was waged against the middle and lower class there is simply no time to educate your children in your home.

In todays dollars my dad made a million a year. My mom was able to stay home and math the fuck out of me. I knew the 12X12 multiplication table before I went into kindergarten.

My sister has twins that are 13 and their dad stopped paying child support years ago. She is now going to the university and cleaning vacated apartments to pay for things PELL grants and loans don’t cover. I was over at her apartment the other day and she got home from work and was asleep on the couch in about five minutes.

Like most things this is a economic problem.

I’d say it depends on the natural personality. I have 4 siblings and the 5 of us are all so different. I think, I am the only one most like my dad and mom. My youngest brother was a lot like my dad until he passed 35 years old. Or at least about there. We all went to the same schools as well. But it could be my parents were better able to focus on me more because I was the youngest.
If school influenced me at all it was because my dad taught me to enjoy learning and gave me a love for exploring the world. My mom taught me that being educated can help to make me self reliant and never sit back and stay quiet when someone causes me or the people I love an injustice. Fight for what I believe I earned. And only insists for those things I truly deserve. Not for the things I wish I should have. Never more than I need and never less than I earned. I can’t say the rest have learned any of those things.

I think so.

I would say yes. Home life can make a child more receptive to learning and that can influence how he or she is taught in school and how a child learns, how receptive the child is, has an impact on what is taught.
If a child does not have a decent vocabulary or grasp of the language then more time is going to be spent on the basics whereas one more advanced can use what they already know to absorb more information using these skills.
One who has disciplinary problems will, many times, be separated from the classroom environment thus being deprived of the lessons being presented and find themselves falling behind their peers. Time and energy that might be used in acquiring an education must be expended just to get this child into a mood where they would be receptive to learning leaving less time for the actual lessons.
The problem comes in when we overload the classrooms and teachers are required to teach to the lowest common denominator thus depriving those who could benefit from more advanced teaching practices from reaching their full potential. As politically incorrect as it is, we would be doing children a favor by grouping them by abilities and not age.

I say yes. I work with kids before they hit school but I can already spot the bullies, the drama queens (or kings) the mean girls, the princesses who don’t think the rules apply to them because they are pretty. We also need to accept that a good deal of our behavior is genetic. Not learned.