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thuyle21's avatar

Can you help me with this situation?

Asked by thuyle21 (66points) October 17th, 2015

One of my guy friend from high school started to talk to me on Facebook. It’s been 3 years since we talk and seen each other and somehow I think he knows I am back in town. Well he initiated the conversation and I reply. But every time he reply he takes 2 or 3 days to answer a simple question. He ask me how I’ve been doing and I reply and ask him same. I know he’s online because it shows, but he still won’t reply back. Every time I am on, he seems to go off. I just feel like I am wasting my time.

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Here2_4's avatar

He is probably multitasking, and it just slips his attention. I have very dear friends who do the same, and they never mean to ignore me. They simply try to focus on so many things they get distracted. Let it slide for a while, then if it continues, ask him about it. Also, if his provider is not so good, his signal strength may be cutting out on him.

zenvelo's avatar

Some people always seem to be “on” but are using a browser with tabs or a phone that keeps FB active. Yet they really aren’t watching FB.

Or, perhaps he is interested you but a bit shy over saying something wrong.

If you are interested, how about asking him to meet you for a drink or a cup of coffee?

msh's avatar

Listen to what your gut is telling you.
Someone who acts like this, even if just re-friending, how does the responce/wait time make you really feel?
Look at your wording in your question. You already know.
Take care of you, whatever the outcome is.
Slow down.
Don’t be so quick to answer him back, if you choose that pathway.
What’s good for the goose, is good for the gander.

Cruiser's avatar

You get my vote…you are wasting your time.

jca's avatar

To me it means “not high on his priority list.” Maybe that’s ok for you, or maybe it’s not what you want. If it’s not what you want, I would stop corresponding.

marinelife's avatar

He’s not that in to you.

Love_my_doggie's avatar

My vote – drop this virtual friend, whom you haven’t seen or spoken with in years, and devote that time to your real friends.

_Seek_'s avatar

You think he knows you are back in town? He initiated the conversation but now won’t respond?

Maybe he texted you by accident, thinking you were someone else.

If only phones had this function where you could speak to someone directly, with your voice, even though they’re not in the same room. That way you might be able to get his thoughts in his own words.

Or, you know, just chalk it up to “not that into you”.

tedibear's avatar

Wasting your time in what way? Are you interested in him romantically? If so, it seems like he doesn’t feel the same way. However, if you’re just looking to be friends, I don’t think it’s a big deal that he takes a couple of days to answer you.

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