Can I ask a few questions about women?

~Because bitches be crazy. Honestly everyone is different. You might bump into a woman who is assertive and BAM you have children that you aren’t ready for.

It’s hard to accept your premise that “many women/girls” do [X] when two of the points on your list are direct opposites of each other. How could both 1 and 3 both be typical behaviours?

The answer is in your statement “These questions do not pertain to all women”. If you want to know why a specific woman does [X], then ask her. You may even find that your observation was inaccurate.

And, speaking for myself, I don’t “feel all guys are the same”. Which is why I would never post a question like this.

Why aren’t you more interested in the women without the issues listed above.

Simple law of the universe friend. You attract what you show interest in. Show interest in better quality women (like the many fine fluther babes right here)… and you’ll attract exactly what your interests manifest.

Every one of these behaviors pertains to men as well as women.

These questions upset me a bit. I know you may not have “meant” them in that way, but it’s difficult to read something that generalizes behavior for a specific group, especially when it tries to assign negative behaviors to that group, as particularly sensitive. I can see how you’ve perhaps experienced certain people behaving certain ways in certain contexts, but like others have mentioned above, I don’t see why those behaviors have to be slotted into ”[most] women do such-and-such.” Further, (again like others have mentioned above,) I don’t see anything on this list that is particularly gendered.

1—This is a human thing, not a gendered thing, and not something even specific to relationships. People (not women, people) can get frustrated when they feel they are doing what they are “supposed” to do, yet the promised results aren’t seen; and this seems entirely understandable. In terms of relationships, it doesn’t matter who is what gender. I know I’ve been in situations where a guy read more into my actions than I had anticipated, and he becomes hurt and confused when he realizes I wasn’t reciprocating his feelings.

2—Not specifically a gendered thing, although we could argue from a gendered lens if we so chose. Gendered lens: we’ve won back a tremendous amount of gender equality, but the idea that femininity is “passive” still lingers; it is still more expected that women wait to be approached. Another option: I think most humans are at least somewhat shy around new people. What is so wrong with making eye contact, with communicating and looking for nonverbal communication of interest? And yet another option: how do you know what the woman is thinking? How do you know she’s waiting for anything to happen? Maybe she’s staring off into space. Maybe she’s admiring from afar but doesn’t want to engage. Etc. Why assume what you don’t know?

3—Sure, some people are a bit self-centered. Not a gendered thing, if that’s all it is. But if we want to make it gendered… in cities like NYC, where catcalling is a huge issue, where women are consistently harassed and objectified by men who expect them to appreciate the unwanted attention, would it be so surprising if a woman starts to anticipate that kind of attention so that she can prepare herself to face it?

4—This is another human thing, not a gendered thing.

5—I doubt that most people think most people are the same. At the same time, we have the capacity to lean on societal stereotypes and make unfounded, sweeping generalizations, especially when we speak of these groups in the abstract… Alternatively, it could be that these women are not seeing all guys a certain way, but that they are noticing red flags in certain guys’ behavior that suggest those specific guys have only one thing in mind.

If you want to be treated as a unique individual, treat each woman as one, too. I sense you are rather young.

If these are your perceptions, my guess is that you’re hanging out in the wrong places. I’m not saying such people (men & women both) don’t exist, but if the concentration of these types has reached a level where you are prepared to state that those traits define New York women, you certainly should expand your perspectives.

None of these issues in your list are unique to women. We all have insecurities, fears of rejection. There are just as many men who have ego issues or a god complex and think they are Gods gift to women (and to other men too).

Actually the whole attitude of women looking down on other women happens amongst guys too. I fell out with a friend because of this. He attempted to pick out every any fault within me, in order to make himself feel better.

There are plenty of straight guys who have the attitude that all women are the same. It usually goes something like.
“I’m sick of women; all they do is complain and nag. I wish I was gay things would be so much better with a lad.”

None of these issues are unique to women. They exist in both genders.

As @cazzie as pointed out, you must be young.

The issue I have here with your question is you conflate women/girls and in response to your questions I would have a hard time disagreeing with you with regards to “girls”, but the women I know….you would be hard pressed to find a true lady who would engage in those immature behaviors.

Well, it’s possible you are misinterpreting some things. Maybe you could give us an example of behaviors you’ve seen that you think means what you think it means. I mean, you know what I mean?!~

I can’t throw rocks when I live in a glass house. I had some great girlfriends back in the day, but I was too damn fickle to hang on to them. Look at your own behavior, rather than focusing on the females behavior.

That reminds me of something my daughter said when she was about 8. She had said something, which prompted me to respond with, “Well, Jenny, you know what they say about people who live in glass houses.”
She said, “What?”
“Well, they shouldn’t….”
Before I could finish she interrupted and said, “Have sex?”
LOLL!