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How would I get over this past relationship?

Asked by SergeantQueen (12874points) February 27th, 2017

I’m sorry for asking a personal relationship question on here, I just really need help.
I was with this guy for about a year, I really liked him. About 8 months ago, he sent me a text message saying his number was out of service. It was a fake message. I haven’t talked to him since and I honestly didn’t even realize it was a break up until a while after. I am still really upset about this and I don’t know if it’s because of the way he broke up with me, since I don’t know why he did it or anything, or if it’s because we were together for a while. In all honesty, I am having a hard time completely moving on and I need some advice because it still hurts.

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RedDeerGuy1's avatar

You will naturally go through the 5 stages of grief . The only way to avoid that is to find someone better. Then you would quickly forget about him.

The five stages are:
denial
anger
bargaining
depression
acceptance

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

I got over my loss by realizing that I dodged a bullet and would probably have 6 kids and be forced to work 2 full time shifts at fast food to pay most of the pills. I still think my friend was cute and smart, but then I realized that she was in a worthless degree program , and wouldn’t have a job at the end of her degree program , and I would be supporting her , and her student loan, all the way. I wouldn’t have the freedom to go on government disability. I would have to work and work hard.

MrGrimm888's avatar

It sucks. But it could have been worse. Cut your loses, be glad you don’t have to have future awkward interactions. Move on as best you can. Realize that this person doesn’t deserve you. Erase and/or block their number.

Lean on your close friends, and favorite tunes. Consume alcohol when needed.

janbb's avatar

@MrGrimm888 I think the OP is underage.

I know this probably doesn’t help right now but realize that you will most likely love and lose many times in your life and that there will be other people to love. Keeping busy and being with friends helps me get over someone.

MrGrimm888's avatar

Ok. Then I formally withdraw what I said about alcohol… Sorry.

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