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I just had the worst nightmare ever. It was a FULL repeat of seeing my father get shot. What could this mean?

Asked by Zachary_Mendes123 (1237points) March 30th, 2017

My father got shot August 28th 2016. I don’t know why I would have a nightmare about it. It had all of the details perfectly. Seeing my father get shot, seeing him get shocked by the defibrillator at the scene twice, seeing his heart stop 3 times at the ER. The last time the doctors tried to revive him, it was too late. My father was dead. It was the worst day of my life. Now I had to see it all playback in my head,

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SergeantQueen's avatar

That’s not a nightmare. That’s a flashback. You may be struggling with PTSD. I’d talk to a doctor about this. This is something you want figured our right away so it doesn’t turn into anything worse, ok?

If you ever need help/advice/just want to talk, I am always here.

Zachary_Mendes123's avatar

@SergeantQueen I swear that it wasn’t a flashback. I was passed out.

kritiper's avatar

Passed out? Why?
And the brain does weird things sometimes. And the incident you remember was traumatic. It will takes years for you to sort it out. I agree with @SergeantQueen that it might be PTSD.

Patty_Melt's avatar

You can flashback in your sleep.
I was in a traumatic accident years ago. There were fragments of details missing for me. A couple of weeks or so after I relived the whole thing in my sleep, slow motion. As it slowly played out, those bits that were missing became vivid. I knew then why I had blanked out those memories. The terror would have exploded my brain.
It could be that somewhere inside you, there is something nagging at you to be remembered, or realized. It could be that somewhere, somehow you feel an important detail was overlooked. It could be you felt a deep need for a second chance at saying goodbye.
The dream I had was one time only.
If yours happens more than one more time, you will need help getting past the trauma. If it happens only once or twice, I would say it was something you probably needed, even if you don’t understand why just yet.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

@Zachary_Mendes123, you really, really need to talk to a doctor about these issues. Going through such an event would explain why you’re feeling depressed.

Patty_Melt's avatar

EBM! Hi.
He said elsewhere he has an appointment.
This poor young man has really been bombarded. He must be very strong to have kept it together as well as he has.

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MrGrimm888's avatar

Yeah brother. All this is too much for a young man to bear. Stop torturing yourself, and get some help. Such events happen, but we are social animals, and need to talk things out sometimes. You don’t have to start a bunch of meds, but you need to find a good doctor, and lay all your cards on the table.

One of my best friends was murdered when we were your age. You’re just not equipped to handle such stress without a little help. You’re going to be ok, but you need some support. That’s normal.

Not thinking about such things would be a thing to worry about. Grieving, and being traumatized by such events is a normal thing. Sounds like you’re in a rutt. You may just need a hand up. It happens to all of us at one point, or the other.

SergeantQueen's avatar

Flashbacks can occur in when you are sleeping as @Patty_Melt said.
Flashbacks can also occur at any time in someone’s life. Even if that person, at the time of the incident, wasn’t affected in a very bad emotional way. It is best that you get help as soon as possible. I don’t know what they can say about one flashback, but if you should try to get help before you have more because that could lead to worse things.

Zachary_Mendes123's avatar

A lot of my friends are saying that I should get a C.T scan of my brain because I have so many problems. Should I?

SergeantQueen's avatar

I don’t know what that would do. That would be up to the doctor, I believe.

Zachary_Mendes123's avatar

My friends are dumb anyway.

chyna's avatar

@Zachary_Mendes123 I’m glad you have an appointment with someone.
I wish I had done that many, many years ago and it might have helped me sooner.
When I was 25 years old, my boyfriend killed himself and I found him. He had shot himself in the head, but I must have blocked it out because I didn’t remember seeing blood, etc.
However, I had nightmares for years about how bad the scene really was. I thought I could handle it myself and it took me about 10 years to actually accept what happened and to stop blaming myself.

Zachary_Mendes123's avatar

I’m so sorry for your loss @chyna

si3tech's avatar

@Zachary_Mendes123 I am so very sorry your father died with especially painful memories remaining with you. No wonder you are feeling depressed. And it does take time for the mind to fully comprehend the enormity of the loss. My heart aches for you. Please see a physician.

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