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How to get over when you say something stupid?

Asked by Sunshinegirl11 (1110points) September 3rd, 2017 from iPhone

How do you recover? Haha

I was talking to a group of people I’m starting to become friends with. I usually keep politics to myself but I slipped up today and made a political comment. although they seemed really chill about it, I’m obsessing over it in my head. “Why did I say that?!” “I’m so stupid! Keep politics to myself!”

Ugh. Help

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kritiper's avatar

Give it time! Then resolve you keep your big fat mouth shut, like I do. Think first! Speak second, if at all.
You are the master of all your unspoken words, and a slave to all those you have spoken. (Some famous person said something like that.)

jca's avatar

Chances are, they’ve moved on from it. Maybe they think it was a little wacky that you made that comment but they probably won’t hold it against you, as long as you don’t make any more foolish statements.

inthenameofxo's avatar

lol :)
Educate yourself a bit further on the subject to broaden your perspective, and then divulge to one of the people of the group how you feel about the subject once you can speak with more clarity. Not only will they know you better, but they may stick up for you if you’re confronted.

Muad_Dib's avatar

Make political comments. All of them.

Nothing is more important to talk about than the democratic process and its problems and solutions.

If you know you’re ignorant about something, ask questions, listen to the answers and learn. If you know a lot but don’t know how others think, ask questions, listen to the answers, and learn. If you have feelings, share them. That’s NOT a bad thing.

People “keeping politics to themselves” is a horrid thing of the past, and a privilege of the people for whom “politics” can be brushed off as “something that doesn’t direct affect me, so why worry about it.”

We’re way past that point. Way past it.

Zaku's avatar

Sounds like you are being hyper-self-critical.

If you regret something you’ve said, think of what you would stay instead and then say that at some point.

And I agree with @Muad_Dib that we could use more discussion of the political problems we face, and less avoidance of talking about things. And, less of the attitude that mistaken speech is a problem and something that can’t be explored and/or discussed, refined or corrected, without bringing in various flavors of shame and worry.

si3tech's avatar

Dear @Sunshinegirl11 we wouldn’t worry about what others think of us IF we knew how seldom they did! Don’t be so hard on yourself.

elbanditoroso's avatar

Just say “oops” and move on.

They have already forgotten what you said.

Earthbound_Misfit's avatar

File it under “drat, I said something stupid again” and forget about it. We all say stupid things. And anyone who suggests they don’t is lying. If the people who witnessed your faux pas hold it against you, they aren’t people you want to be around.

johnpowell's avatar

I’m not sure why you assume they disagree with you.

Pachy's avatar

Chances are, YOU are far more concerned about it than any of them. At any rate, you’ve learned a valuable lesson. Move on.

PullMyFinger's avatar

I usually just point at my neighbor Chuck and loudly say…..

“He told me to say it…...HE told me to say it….!!”

(Of course, if you don’t have a neighbor named Chuck, a substitute stooge will likely suffice)

ucme's avatar

Snort like a pig as you laugh then point at literally the first thing you see…“wow, look at that”

seawulf575's avatar

Just move on. We all say or do things at some time in our lives that will embarrass us. It’s part of being human. If the people you were talking to want to pounce on your comment and judge you for the rest of your life on it, that is THEIR problem, not yours. Don’t curl up into a shell to avoid saying something stupid sometimes…you will miss so much of life if you do. Just be yourself and be happy with who you are. Other people will recognize that and be drawn to it more than anything you could say.

kritiper's avatar

Put a large piece of paper on your refrigerator that says “ZIP IT!”, then study it every day.

seawulf575's avatar

And if you are truly concerned with saying something silly, remember the old adage: God gave us two ears and one mouth. Use them in that ratio.

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