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Do you have now or have you ever had a friend who is/was always competing with you?

Asked by mee_ouch (656points) August 15th, 2008

One who must best you on virtually everything you say or do regardless of the circumstances? You’ve got a great idea…they’ve got a better one. You feel nauseous…they’ve got a fever. You got promoted….low and behold….so did they…with a raise to boot! Care to share?

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tinyfaery's avatar

When I was a child/teenager I feel like this happened a lot, but I have never encountered this with an adult friend. This person obviously feels that you are worth trying to best; you could take it as a compliment. Or maybe she(?) is trying to single white female you. Watch out if she copies your haircut. :)

marinelife's avatar

Why do you call this person a friend? If you care deeply for them, you can try to bring the topic up.This is a pretty intrinsic personality trait, however, that has to do with their insecurity. They are unlikely to be able to change.

You may need to decide if the friendship is worth it to you. I know it would not be to me.

mee_ouch's avatar

Thank you both for your well-wishes and heart-felt responses. Although I have had relationships like this in the past, I no longer ‘invite’ this sort into my life. It took me a while to convince myself that their lives needed something more than I could give. Having said that, this is one of ‘those’ questions based on curiousity and human behaviour. You’re both very sweet!

glowfull's avatar

my brother.
too many stories to share except the most recent one:
i am freshly engaged to my boyfriend of 3 years, and my brother is contemplating eloping with his 21 year old girlfriend of 3 weeks.
everything is a competition

marinelife's avatar

@glowfull Awful! Sad that we can’t dump relatives the way we might friends sometimes, isn’t it?

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