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Did you realize the double standards here at fluther?

Asked by LornaLove (9926points) June 18th, 2018

I submitted a question earlier regards grammar and the standards at Fluther and asked if the grammar was no longer an issue. I had seen a few questions along the lines of: “i think he dont like me know more?” and was shocked really. My question was sent for editing.

I realize now that there are double standards here at fluther and that is why so many people left. It was a long 15 years and many of the questions I answered were to be more helpful than anything else. If fluther is so desperate for followers (which I doubt) there were plenty of 12-year-olds on Yahoo asking those questions all day and also asking: “Do you think I am pretty?!!” :0*

So no, I won’t be editing my question. I’ll be saying goodbye and good luck!

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LadyMarissa's avatar

Not to sound bossy; but…

Take a deep breath, turn off your computer, go for a walk around the block, when you get back take a long hot bath & then go to bed. Tomorrow morning will be a new day with new problems & this one won’t seem so major. I’ve lost 10 pounds since joining Fluther from my walks around the block!!! LoL

RedDeerGuy1's avatar

@LadyMarissa The OP has left the building. (Deleted her account)

Demosthenes's avatar

This is one of the quietest Q&A sites I know. I think it’s crazy that people are being driven away for stuff like this.

MrGrimm888's avatar

People can choose to be offended by whatever. I liked the op, but trying to cause a problem before you leave, doesn’t show anyone in a good light.

This is how it happens though. When most leave, they leave a angry manifesto… Sucks…

notwonderwoman's avatar

Veterans should know better. New users do not.

If this is your worst problem you are lucky. What a dumb reason for a veteran to leave this place.

MrGrimm888's avatar

Yeah. It’s unfortunate…

LadyMarissa's avatar

@RedDeerGuy1 Didn’t think to look before I replied. If I was that close to 10,000, I’d stay until I crossed over & hope by then that I would have calmed down!!!

MrGrimm888's avatar

^Oh yeah. Damn. So much for the next party…

I have noticed that sometimes the mods seem to allow some q’s that don’t match writing standards. I wonder though, if the q’s were even flagged. Could have been a specific jelly, that was just flagging the op. I personally have just tried to improve my writing. I never took it personally, I just figured I drew the mods’ attention more, because I was a common writing standards violator…

MrGrimm888's avatar

I would add that when a jelly leaves, they aren’t punishing the mods, they are punishing the other jellies. There’s a reason the op was close to 10,000. She was a valuable contributor…

notwonderwoman's avatar

When people make a departure like this the chances are high that the person is lurking.

MrGrimm888's avatar

Of course. I’d like this one to know I’m disappointed.

janbb's avatar

The OP has left and come back many times with different names. I hope she will rethink and come back again. As I said on that thread, I think it’s fair to have higher standards for old users and break new ones in gradually.

chyna's avatar

I hope she comes back.

KNOWITALL's avatar

I’m curious if she asked the mods or if anyone will. Guess I’m not the quitting type, I’d rather fight it out for justice and get kicked off than quit….lol

flutherother's avatar

Writing standards have definitely declined in the time I’ve been on this site. Sometimes I can’t figure out what the person is trying to say. Presumably the volunteer Mods just don’t have time to check everything as thoroughly as they used to. It is a bit ironic then that a question on this very subject should be sent for editing especially when it comes from a member who is respected and known for the quality of her writing.

Patty_Melt's avatar

Lorna, do come back.

Aethelwine's avatar

There is no double standard. I had a question sent to editing several months ago. I’m a 10 yr veteran. The mods give detailed information as to why they do the things they do. They told me they expect veterans to know the rules. (this was during a time when a few thought I was a mod favorite free from rules)

It is our choice to fix, abandon or bitch. Bitching should be the last resort, especially when you are a veteran.

Aethelwine's avatar

I was also told that new users are given some leway so they aren’t discouraged to ask more questions. It makes sense given how small the pond is.

MrGrimm888's avatar

I’ve sadly been told almost exactly how to rephrase a q. But I was pleased that ,at least the mods didn’t let me keep screwing up. I think I give them less problems now, because they helped me figure out the standards.

I’m sure that I still screw up plenty, but they (mods) helped me know what I needed to improve on. I hope that I am less of a pain for them now….

ucme's avatar

Hahahaha funniest part is the pathetic denials, it’s all good though highly amusing.

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