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Do You Think Adult Males Should feel Disgraceful/Stupid for liking Boy Bands/Girl Groups that has a dangerous fan base (made up of only females)?

Asked by mm305 (7points) 1 month ago

(Here’s what I mean by dangerous fan base: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihN-qnNhgQM & https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5F4iRKmOljU)

Cause I know certain males who would HATE being associated with this type of fandom, because there is a VERY NEGATIVE connotation with them for being as crazy as they shown in the video, or for stuff like #CutforZayn. Yet, the male can’t help it if he somehow feels interested in them (whether it’s the music, the personalities, the looks,etc.), even if some of them are objectively not good singers.

So because if the negative reception for fandom of boy bands and girl groups, should an adult feel disgraceful/stupid for having an interest that has this type of fandom?

Why or Why not?

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zenvelo's avatar

They should be embarrassed for not having any taste.

josie's avatar

Disgraceful? Stupid?
Pretty strong stuff there.
I like lots of music.
Mostly blues.
But I love Lady Gaga. And when I was a kid I occasionally listened to the Backstreet Boys.
I have lots of reasons for feeling disgraceful and stupid, but not that.

ragingloli's avatar

Anyone reacting like that, needs to be put in a straight jacket, pumped full of sedatives, and locked into a padded room for an indefinite amount of time, adult or not.

rockfan's avatar

Girls acted like this towards The Beatles too

kritiper's avatar

That would be like reverse perverse.

Unofficial_Member's avatar

No. People should be allowed to like whatever band they like without any prejudice. Not just music bands, that kind of thing also happen to celebrities so it’s nothing new.

Dutchess_III's avatar

How, exactly, is the fan base dangerous?

Dutchess_III's avatar

Do any of you have any idea why he would call a group of screaming girls “dangerous,” and what that has to do with grown men?

ARE_you_kidding_me's avatar

If it’s not some form of metal, blues, classical, or prog then it’s probably crap. All pop music is crap. I agree with @zenvelo.

answerbag's avatar

“that has a dangerous fan base (made up of only females)?”
If the majority of the fanbase is dangerous, that means that there is a minority. In this case, same as about daily life; the right thing to do is hope to find adults women who have the same point of view as you and stay away from the weirdos.

If really wants to be in the fanbase, I am supposing that the man is going to be in social media, he could try to make the girls wondering to themselves if he is a girl–never using gender… Something like that.

If the man wants to go to a concert; he should try to go with friends, and to make sure to not say something controversial when he is near to girls; and always taking care to not saying something that is is negative; if chose to talk with them, just listen and say things when it is safe to. (that is not an answer, but in those case, there is no better thing to do; we cannot change people who are in love; just need to adapt to them)

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But yeah; the adult, as an experienced person in life; they have many reasons to feel disgraceful for the kids’ behavior, but that doesn’t make them stupid.
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Anyway, the one who is out of the personality pattern of the group will eventually suffer about the behavior coming from their pairs (who happens to be fanatics), it may be from bullying or affront from the kids; it is expected from him to feel stupid. — it will be necessary for him to distinguish what is real, and what is caused by the people that he is around with.

They are going to feel two things:
1. Down.
They will mirror these behaviors and see as something they could do, what will lead to disgust with themselves.
2. Loneliness.
When they notice that they are better humans being than these creepy kids, and so feel out of place.

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The thing is; no one is better than anyone.

Such as the thing with “disgraceful/stupid”, it is completely something about how the person thinks from/of themselves.

He/She/The Adult, they don’t have reasons to feel stupid, because they are not those kids.

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I have a question.
Why does him like that band if the fanbase is so awful?
Just because there are weirdos in this world or is it because those weirdos can kill him?

mm305's avatar

@Dutchess_III “How, exactly, is the fan base dangerous?”... “Do any of you have any idea why he would call a group of screaming girls “dangerous,” and what that has to do with grown men?”

As the description saids: There are who would HATE being associated with this type of fandom, because of the VERY NEGATIVE connotation with them for being as crazy as they are in the 2 videos linked, or for stuff like the #CutforZayn incident.

Plus, the whole idea of a boy band is to be sex icons (or adoring icons is some cases) for women. They could be the worst singers but still will attract millions of girls JUST because of their looks. which is ANOTHER negative connotation about female fans: That they get sucked in to artists who are objectively untalented.

So knowing all of that, how awkward and out of place will it be if an adult male is part of a fandom like this? Even if he don’t act like those women in the video, he’ll be categorized as “one of them” because that’s the impression of the boy band fandom (made up of only females).

So that’s why I ask: Do You Think Adult Males Should feel Disgraceful/Stupid for liking Boy Bands/Girl Groups that has a dangerous fan base (made up of only females)?

mm305's avatar

@answerbag: “I have a question.
Why does him like that band if the fanbase is so awful?
Just because there are weirdos in this world or is it because those weirdos can kill him?”

Because those male can’t help it if he somehow feels interested in them, whether it’s the music, the personalities & looks (towards girl groups). It’s pretty much a guilty pleasure: Even if he knows that boy bands are objectively not good singer or not have good music, he can’t help it if he himself likes it or feels interested/obsessed.

Dutchess_III's avatar

I’ve always understood why you would think it’s strange for a grown man to be a fan of One Direction or New Kids on the Block. I don’t understand how a hundred screaming 12 year olds could be dangerous for grown man.

mm305's avatar

They are dangerous because of their negative image. Being a part of a fandom who acts the way they act will be seen in a very negative light, which can lead to teasing/bullying/assaults.

You add that with being an adult male (who’s not the demographic for these music groups), that negativity amplifies!

Dutchess_III's avatar

Are you suggesting adult males will be in the middle of all the screaming, fainting girl-children, and they will be at risk of the 12 year old girls bullying / teasing / assaulting full grown men? I completely don’t understand where you are coming from.

mm305's avatar

No, not by the females, but by the general public.

Being part of a fandom will lead to teasing/bullying by the general public.

So that’s why I ask: Should an adult male feel disgraceful/stimulus for being a part of this fandom?

Dutchess_III's avatar

Well, to hell with the general public. People can like what they want. If he thinks he’ll be ridiculed or physically attacked by some idiot for his preferences, he just needs to keep it a secret.

I still don’t see the “danger” you brought up.

mm305's avatar

THAT’S THE DANGER: Getting teased/bullied by the general public for being part of a fandom with a negative image (which comes from antics shown in the 2 videos).

Dutchess_III's avatar

I didn’t see any adult males screaming along in the crowds of girls in the videos you posted.
If there WAS a 30 year old male screaming like a 12 year old prepubescent girl, I would say he has a much bigger problem than worrying about getting teased or bullied. Same goes for it there was a 30 year old woman acting like a love sick 12 year old.

mm305's avatar

And that’s why I ask: Should Adult Males feels disgraceful/stupid for having an interest towards boy bands/girl groups that does have a fandom like this? (Which essentially means he is part of it)

Dutchess_III's avatar

No. He can like who ever he wants. He likes their songs and music and that’s his business.
However, if he’s out in there in the middle of the girls, screaming too, then he has some serious mental problems. Should a person with serious mental problems feel disgraceful and stupid?

mm305's avatar

You tell me…should they?

Dutchess_III's avatar

Do YOU feel disgraceful and stupid?

mm305's avatar

I’m not one of those males, so I can’t speak for them. That’s why I’m asking you, should they?

mm305's avatar

Should they feel disgraceful Dutchess III?

Dutchess_III's avatar

My question was “Should a person with mental problems feel disgraceful and stupid?” I wasn’t asking about those particular males, just people in general. I figured you could answer from personal experience, so I asked you.

My answer would be “No.” Of course they shouldn’t. People can’t help if they have mental problems. The only thing they should feel disgraceful about is if their words and actions, which they can control, cause them to hurt others.

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