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Have you ever crashed a wedding or other large party where it was unlikely that any of the guests would know you didn't belong?

Asked by jca2 (13488points) March 21st, 2019

In the New York Times yesterday, they had an article about people who have crashed weddings. They found out the information via the internet, and then got dressed up and joined the cocktail hour for hors d’ouvre and drinks.

I have crashed a large, corporate picnic (this was about 20 years ago) for three successive years. It was held outdoors on the grounds of a large public estate and so we went and joined in and hung out. Nobody asked me who I was or what department I worked in. I had an answer if they did, but nobody did.

In the “Comments” section of the Times article, people talked about theft of services and how it was wrong of the crashers to crash when the hosts may have omitted guests they wanted due to their (the hosts’ ) lack of funds. I’m not defending crashing, but if you think about it, for a large, catered event, you pay for the number of sit down meals (per plate cost). Cocktail hour, one or two extra people will go unnoticed and it’s likely that many guests will come late anyway so it’s really just an exchange of cocktail hour guests for sit-down guests.

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zenvelo's avatar

Yep, I’ve done it.

One time a bunch of us went out to dinner in San Francisco with a friend’s father treating us. After dinner, we went to the Hyatt Regency for an after dinner drink in the rotating bar.

As we were leaving in the elevator, the elevator stopped outside a ballroom where a reception was going on. My friend’s dad said, “come on!” and we all went in. We had some drinks and did some dancing, including dancing with some of the guests! Then we left after about half an hour. It was a lot of fun.

stanleybmanly's avatar

It got old in my 30s. If I was already dressed for it, I would drop into such affairs that I happened upon without a thought of possible embarrassment, the only check being the possible reluctance of whoever happened to be with me. The ethnic affairs were absolutely the best, if you could get past the door.

JLeslie's avatar

I crashed a party once for just a few songs. Went in and danced a few, and then left. I would never eat the food though, or anything that would cost the host money, unless the host actually found me out and welcomed me to join in on everything.

I don’t know if this counts, but I went to a wedding reception to see a band to decide if we wanted to hire them. My husband and I got all dressed up and walked in to the reception like we belonged. We stood kind of off in the corner. Maybe the band let the bride know? While we were there an attendee who was near us asked, “are you checking out the band?” We laughed. She said they were great, and we agreed. We hired them.

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