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Why would someone tell you how good they were in bed on a weekend getaway with their boyfriend?

Asked by lucillelucillelucille (33297points) 1 month ago

Years ago, I asked a friend how her trip was with her new-ish boyfriend.
She responded by telling me how good SHE was in bed. LOL
Usually, if sex is mentioned in any conversation I’ve ever had, it’s a critique on their partner or something very funny not their own stunning performance.
Have you ever had to listen to anything like that?
Did you manage to control yourself well, or did you laugh?

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LadyMarissa's avatar

CRAZY…I’ve heard how GREAT the sex was, but NEVER how great “I” was while doing him!!! Sounds to me like she’s feeling a little insecure in her performance. I think that I would have been compelled to respond “Well, that’s not what HE said” followed by a hearty laugh.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@LadyMarissa -I could barely keep a straight face.
Really, how can one respond to that?

Inspired_2write's avatar

I suppose she thought that is what you wanted to hear, or actually what was on her mind.

I would had stopped her as soon as she mentioned sex and clarified that you just wanted to know if she and her boyfriend had a good time on holiday etc

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Inspired_2write This was all voluntary as I don’t usually ask for details about someone’s sex life.
She didn’t get graphic either but she did want to let me know the gist of it.
I was caught off guard for sure as I simply asked how her weekend was. XD

Inspired_2write's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille

I didn’t mean that you asked that but clearly that was on her mind that she wanted to express,I assume?

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Inspired_2write – I wonder why though?
What response could she have been looking for Maybe none at all, just a blue ribbon?? XD

ucme's avatar

She sure screwed that response up!
I mean, how did she even know?
Did he raise score cards during? :D

Inspired_2write's avatar

@lucillelucillelucille

Bragging rights? (saying BOY! what a catch I am”!)
Self centered or protective of her new found toy?

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lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@ucme -I have no idea! That would normally be a reason to get made fun of -with no mercy but I was stunned.Stunned, Iell ya!

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Inspired_2write – That is what confused me. She had nothing to gain by telling me that.
There’s narcissism, covert narcissism and just plain clueless.LOL

Dutchess_III's avatar

That’s funny! Men told me all the time how good they were in bed (tryin’ to tempt me.) I don’t even know how they come to that conclusion.
Maybe the guy told her she was the best he’d ever had. Maybe he went on and on about it. Maybe he was a virgin and that was his first earth shattering experience with a woman.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Dutchess_III -I didn’t get the vibe that she was idiotically trying to tempt me (that’s just bad salesmanship -nor did I get the feeling that she wanted me to offer up details of my sex life as some people try to do (tit for tat kind of thing-lol)
Earth shattering or not, how could she not know that it is just plain weird to say that to anyone?
Looking for validation in all the wrong places…—sounds a bit like a song…—-

Dutchess_III's avatar

I wasn’t implying that she would say that to you for those reasons. I’m just saying guys were all the time telling ME how good they were in bed.

♫Wookin’ panub♪

Dutchess_III's avatar

Right? Right up there with, “I have a big dick. You wanna see it ? Oh. I know. If I pinch your butt that’ll get you in the mood!” So clueless.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Dutchess_III – I wonder if that approach got them any results?
I have heard stories of women that are just as bad.

Dutchess_III's avatar

Not with me, or any of my friends! I suppose there are those who would some how be “flattered” by it all. Don’t know what kind of woman would be.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Dutchess_III -I have heard some crazy stories from my male friends as well as my husband.
Some found that behavior desperate/revolting where others took the easy opportunity.
I can’t say as any of the opportunities taken resulted in a fairy tale romance but it doesn’t seem they were looking for that anyway.lol
I have always has low tolerance for presumptuous people so that kind of behavior is not something I stick around for.

Patty_Melt's avatar

Perhaps bf wanted a threesome, and she was trolling for possible takers?

I was in the Navy, so I’ve heard many stories.
Oh! @Trails and I have had some interesting convos in chat, when it still worked.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Patty_Melt -I didn’t get that impression from her.
Did you hear a lot of stories where the person who is telling the story went on about how good they were and not their partner?

Pinguidchance's avatar

Perhaps because she was.

However, I would need considerably more detail to begin corroborating from afar at this late stage.

Sagacious's avatar

I have never understood this kind of thing. Seriously. It’s not a sport. It’s sharing one’s self with another.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Pinguidchance -She might have won Best Actress for that performance but why she thought I needed to know about it is a mystery. XD

Dutchess_III's avatar

All that I can really think of is the BF raved on and on how great she was in bed. I mean, how else could anyone even know if they were good in bed?

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Dutchess_III -Delusional thinking? Even so, why she thought I’d be interested in knowing that is beyond me. XD

Patty_Melt's avatar

Maybe it was her first time. If she was nervous about not pleasing him, any encouragement from him would have made a big deal for her.

lucillelucillelucille's avatar

@Patty_Melt -First time?? LOL! No not by a long shot
Even if it was, why on earth would she need to let me know how good in bed she was??
I suppose my question could have been: Why don’t people keep their sex life private? Then, this isn’t about someone speaking of their partner.
At any rate, it is a very odd thing to brag about.

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