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How can I get my friends to leave me alone and stop making my life stressful?

Asked by Craigblack (4points) January 10th, 2023

I am a 21 year old college student studying at a university. I enjoy the college that I chose and I am very interested in my major. Things were going until my friends started giving me problems. My parent make very good money and own a few houses. They recently purchased a new house that they are moving too. They decided to give me a house that I can stay at during the rest of college and I can live at after I graduate. They told me that it is my house to do what I want with. It has 1 living room and 3 bedrooms. I decided to rent the extra rooms out to fellow students. The extra money is good but it quickly became an pain. One of my renters is one of my classmates and he constantly fails to pay on time and makes excuses. For example, he was a few days late on rent before I finally brought it up to him. He told me this. He said you know we studying hard for that exam last night why won’t you give me a break. A few days later brought up the rent again. He said I bought you a drink yesterday and you’re still asking for rent. That drink that I bought you was the rent right there. Another one that rents one of the rooms is this girl that often comes home drunk and loud at like 1 or 2 in morning waking everyone up. Some of us are sleeping or trying to study and she is distracting. If she wants to fail her classes that is her, but I don’t want her to cause me to fail. She pays rent very late too. When I ask her for it she gets mad. The only guy that pays rent on time doesn’t cause too much issues. The only issue with him is that he smokes all the time. I tell him to stop doing it in the house. He tells me he won’t do it again, but he continues to do it. One of my renters got so mad that I was bugging him for rent that he spray painted offensive words on the wall when I was in class. I hunted him down and told him if he doesn’t pay to get the wall painted back I’ll kick him out. I guess this time he took my threat serious and paid to get it fixed but he still acts like a jerk when it comes to the rent. How can I get my friends to allow me to study and enjoy my life? They make me want to pull my hair out.

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Hawaii_Jake's avatar

Welcome to Fluther.

I think you’re finding out that you cannot mix business and friendship. You are a landlord, and these people are tenants. Treat them like tenants. You have obligations to them, and they have obligations to pay you the agree rent on time. If they don’t pay, evict them.

Good luck.

jca2's avatar

If you own the house free and clear, it sounds to me like it would be easier for you to not rent the rooms out and just keep them empty.

You may have a problem if you evict the tenants, because they might do damage when they leave.

I hear a lot of nightmare stories from people who are landlords. Bad tenants, messy tenants, tenants who don’t pay, tenants who screw them on the rent when they move out, tenants who do big damage to the house intentionally because they’re nuts. If you don’t need the money, don’t bother.

janbb's avatar

Ultimately, I think you will have to do as @jca2 and give up the idea of renting out the rooms. Or don’t rent them to friends. If you want to continue with these friends, perhaps have a lawyer or go online and draft a contract that they have to sign, spelling out when the rent is due, any charges for damages, and that they will be given notice of eviction if rent is not paid by a set period of time after the due date. Then you have to stick to the contract.

RayaHope's avatar

You shouldn’t rent rooms to your friends because they are gonna walk all over you. Renting rooms to strangers is bad enough (just ask my mom) you’re better off just kicking them all out and forgetting the whole thing.

Blackwater_Park's avatar

I think you’re finding out the hard way that these people are not friends. You probably don’t want to be a landlord while you’re in school. Do that after if you can swing it.

KNOWITALL's avatar

I also agree that renting is not the best idea for you. Frankly, if nothing else, ask your parents for an allowance and tell them about the renters. I’m sure they would rather your studies be a priority.

Forever_Free's avatar

You can’t screen college renters. Too many things at play.
If there is no compelling reason to get monies for rent then stop renting.
They clearly do not respect you and are using you.

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