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How do I stop crying?

Asked by goldilocks2394 (102points) December 3rd, 2008 from iPhone

yesterday night, a senior girl at my school passed away. She had cancer. She was the strongest person. I’d never even met her but it seems so unfair to me. I’ve been crying for about an hour now. How do I stop?

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Elumas's avatar

Realize that God is in control.

PupnTaco's avatar

Why do you want to stop? You’re upset for a good reason. Work through it.

srmorgan's avatar

It seems that in modern America we want to avoid all of the signs of grief: sorrow, crying, longing. They want us to look for “closure” whatever the fuck that is.

You have to grieve in order to heal. It is hard to understand but it is a natural human emotion. Let us hope that this is the only time you will need to experience grief for a very long time.

My heart goes out to you.

SRM

goldilocks2394's avatar

I feel like I shouldn’t be this upset, I didn’t know her. I just can’t see how this could have happened. It’s eye opening. Thanks, by the way. I feel a bit better now…

jessturtle23's avatar

Nothing is wrong with crying. Death is sad, especially when it happens to someone so young in such a hard way.

KatawaGrey's avatar

Last year, there was a horrible car accident wherein three boys who went to my high school were killed. I didn’t know any of them, but for the rest of the week, I would burst into tears randomly thinking about them. It’s okay to cry. It’s a terrible thing when people die, and even more terrible when they die young. If anything, it’s a wonderful tribute to this girl. Don’t stop yourself from crying. You may not have been a friend or a family member, but you still feel this terrible loss.

cak's avatar

Don’t stop crying. It’s perfectly okay and very normal to cry. Even if you didn’t know her, somehow, she touched your life. No one that young should die, at least in my opinion. I am a mother of two children and it is heartbreaking when the world loses someone that age. Please allow yourself to feel the sorrow, it is ultimately how you will be able to start moving forward.

Best wishes!

erincollins's avatar

A good cry never hurt anyone.

Magnus's avatar

Crying helps, that’s a fact and not hippie bullshit.

answerjill's avatar

My sympathies to you and your whole community. You are not abnormal at all in your grief. Let it out. Maybe you can share your feelings with friends or family? Take care.

MacBean's avatar

It doesn’t matter that you didn’t know her well. She still wasn’t a complete stranger and it’s always jarring when someone in your age group dies, especially if you’re young. It reminds you of your own mortality and most people don’t really like to think about that. Let yourself cry; you’ll stop when you’re ready. Good luck. <3

LKidKyle1985's avatar

stop drinking water, eventually you will be so dehydrated you can’t physically cry.

susanc's avatar

An hour? You think that’s a lot?

seriously, crying releases endorphins, and those are never bad. go for it.

mea05key's avatar

i dont think you should force urself to cry. When you feel it has subsided , it would naturally stop.

dynamicduo's avatar

You’re grieving, crying is a perfectly natal thing to do. Don’t try and rush it, take your time and just let yourself get over it however you need to.

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