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Have you ever been kissed?

Asked by KalWest (1389points) April 14th, 2009

From Yahoo:
”... Across the pond, “Britain’s Got Talent” scored a huge boost in the Buzz after an unassuming contestant gave an amazing performance.

Susan Boyle (remember that name) became a Web phenomenon after singing “I Dreamed a Dream” from Les Miserables. The performance brought the audience to its feet and left the judges (including Simon Cowell) either speechless or in tears.

Before going on stage, Ms. Boyle, 47, admitted some self-deprecating facts about herself (she’s never been kissed and lives alone with her cat, Pebbles). For those reasons and more, audiences were expecting the female William Hung. They were wrong…”

I saw the clip – she has a beautiful voice – she’s very inspiring… but I was just so sad she’s never been kissed… and that made me wonder if any flutherites were in a similar situation

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kenmc's avatar

Yes, I have. It’s quite nice.

Likeradar's avatar

Funny you asked this. I’ve been thinking about people like this all afternoon.

I had lunch today with a friend who just turned 30, and she’s never been kissed. She’s holding off on sex until marriage, but she claims she’s not morally opposed to kissing. It’s not as if she hasn’t had the chance either, and she gets confused why guys ditch her after a few dates with no physical activity at all. My guess is it’s gotten so built up in her head that kissing is some big thing, so she freaks out when the opportunity arises. I feel bad for her, in a way.
the end.

icehky06's avatar

No, not yet : (
but hey I’m only 14.

eponymoushipster's avatar

you mean, on the lips?

Dansedescygnes's avatar

Nope, not on my mouth. I don’t doubt that I will be once I become open about my sexuality.

casheroo's avatar

I don’t even know how many boys I’ve kissed blushes

eponymoushipster's avatar

@casheroo more importantly: how many girls have you kissed?

casheroo's avatar

@eponymoushipster People always find this hard to believe, but I’ve never kissed a girl. The opportunity just never came up, and my friends and I aren’t ones to make out with each other..

Likeradar's avatar

@casheroo I have a numbered list. Not like I run home and write it down, but yeah. It started with people I’ve slept with, and one day I expanded it to people I’ve kissed. It’s corny, lame, and kinda weird, but it’s fun every once in a while to look back and think about those lucky, lucky men. ;)

SuperMouse's avatar

Today happens to be the one year anniversary of my first kiss with my S/O. Yes I have been kissed, but never like I was that day….

casheroo's avatar

@Likeradar lol, i had a list at some point, but i started it after all the kissing, so i just can’t recall all the names. i’m bad with names though, it’s really not that many lol

eponymoushipster's avatar

@casheroo @Likeradar yeah, i think excel has a row limit of 65000.~

Likeradar's avatar

@eponymoushipster I had to start a second spread sheet after high school.

not really.

eponymoushipster's avatar

@Likeradar I hear oracle makes quite a capable database solution.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Oracle. Harhar!

Yes, I’ve been kissed. Some were awful, some were nice. But only a few have curled my toes.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

Finally, yes it happened. As Likeradar says, I also keep a running list of my every sexual encounter but it got transferred from a wax tablet to paper recently.

cak's avatar

I’m responding to the story that led you to this question. I saw the clip and heard her sing, what an amazing voice. Did you see how she lit up? It was truly a beautiful moment, good for her!

Jack79's avatar

I was in court yesterday and one of my lawyers is 37 and sounds a lot like the woman you described. She sounded like that even when she was 21 and extremely sexy.

I think she actually may have been kissed once, because she was dating this guy for a while, or at least went out for coffee with him or something. But for no apparent reason, she’s always been a “cat lady”, spending her out-of-court time with her sick mother, mentally ill uncle and 17 cats. And no, she’s not a lesbian, I asked.

I think some people are asexual by choice (did I mention she was a sexy young lawyer for at least a decade?)

Jeruba's avatar

Of all the kisses in my somewhat uneven history, I think the one I remember best was my first. I was nine and he was thirteen, and it was as innocent as a storybook, but lovely.

Dare I say this here? (ahem) I think, in truth, I am a better kisser than anyone who has ever kissed me. I have been given top marks by quite a few, including more than one who has said, “Where did you learn to kiss like that?” But I don’t believe I’ve ever been kissed by a man who didn’t need a little more technique or practice or restraint or sensitivity or something. Even if they did, some of them, give me a fever.

I’ve never told anybody this before.

Of course, my husband is pretty good at it by now.

asmonet's avatar

Okay, big shocker from asmonet.

My first kiss happened at the tender age of 20.

I wasn’t interested in guys, I didn’t appreciate the immaturity and I didn’t see the point of dating for physical reasons or for recreation. I still don’t. For a very long time I would skirt the subject because I didn’t like being judged for it by strangers, but it was no secret among friends and I never heard a peep from them except for praise for holding out and ‘not acting like a god damn idiot teenager’ as one of my best friends put it.

I know someone who is 29 and has ‘never been kissed’, and he’s fine with it, we have had long talks on the subject because we both ‘held out’. He’s a big nerdy intellectual and is very happy with his life. He says he’ll get around to it eventually, but it’s not a priority, same as I felt as a teenager.

I always knew the option was there, and it never bothered me personally that I hadn’t. I never pined away in my room. I never saw kissing as a serious event. I saw it the same way I do now, as an expression of affection, nothing more.

@casheroo: I’ve kissed plenty of girls, one of my best friends and I have a running joke that we’re married, so naturally…if there’s drinking…there’s mackin’. I’ll pop that cherry. ;)

casheroo's avatar

@asmonet apparently you need to get in line

@asmonet so do you not count the girls you’ve kissed? you say you’ve kissed a lot of women, was that after your first kiss with a man? (sorry to get all up in your business! i’m just curious)
my friend was a virgin til 21, i’d make fun of her, but not meanly. she waited…i didn’t see what was so special about the guy that she chose, i think she just got sick of holding off because honestly, it’s nothing magical unless you’ve grown to love a person, and i believe having sex/kissing is a part of getting to know someone and loving them.

KalWest's avatar

totally. they were all smirking in the beginning – but that changed right quick

aviona's avatar

Yes. And I was sooo nervous the first time. I was 15.

I have a friend who is 20 who, well, I guess technically she’s been kissed, but I think she’s usually been under the influence. She’s never had sex and I don’t judge her for that at all. I just hope it happens soon because I honestly think that’s where a lot of her tension comes from.

asmonet's avatar

@casheroo: Nah, ask away! I think technically, my first kiss was with one of my best friends, but it was a joke, so I don’t even think about it. And it was the same night, so no big difference really. An hour or so after that I kissed the pretty little sailor on shore leave and spent the remainder of the night making out with him.

But…after that I went on a bit of a spree. ;)

I’ve kissed, I dunno, five girls, six boys? I’m pretty much equal opportunity on that front.

aviona's avatar

@asmonet for a while I’d kissed way more girls than boys. That still may be the case, I’m not sure. Kind of lost count.

MissAusten's avatar

I used to know how many boys I’ve kissed, but can’t remember any more. I know it was more than 30 but less than 40. Is that a lot? There was this one memorable night of parties where I think I kissed 7 or 8 different guys on the same night. Ah, the good old days! ;) I was a flirt, I guess. The number of guys I’ve slept with, or even done more than just kiss, is shockingly low in this day and age! I was 21 the first time I had sex and 23 when I got married.

KalWest's avatar

I am devastated by your shocking admission :-)

MissAusten's avatar

@KalWest Me too! I don’t think I’ve ever admitted it before! I feel so free now!

KalWest's avatar

A recording of Boyle singing the classic ballad Cry Me a River for a charity CD has been uncovered by UK media.
Reportedly only 1000 copies of the original were ever released, but Boyle’s ‘lost’ recording turns out to be every bit as good as the rendition of I Dreamed a Dream from Les Miserables that has won over the world.
Check it out:

aprilsimnel's avatar

Well! Susan Boyle’s right up there with the other Scots women with great voices: Sharleen Spiteri, Annie Lennox and (my favourite) Eddi Reader.

veronasgirl's avatar

Recently I had a REALLY great kiss…and I am hoping for a repeat…

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