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How old were you when you had your first proper girlfriend or boyfriend?

Asked by Myndecho (948points) May 12th, 2009
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Les's avatar

I was 17, he was 16.

On our first date, my dad had to buy the movie tickets because he wasn’t old enough to see the Rated R movie. Oh, high school.

spresto's avatar

I was 17. It lasted about a year and a half, but she went crazy.

Facade's avatar

I think the relationship I’m in now is the only real one out of my many others since we’re going to get married. I’m 20 btw

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

Umm, wow, I think I was about 15 and he was 16

Resonantscythe's avatar

I was 19 She was 20. We went out for a about a week short of a year

dynamicduo's avatar

18. Up until then I really wasn’t interested in romance.

spresto's avatar

Yeah, gotta make it big in this world no time for that stuff.

aprilsimnel's avatar

19. He was 23. We dated for three months.

kevbo's avatar

We were both 8. She lived next door.

GAMBIT's avatar

When I was ten there was a girl in my class called Paula. We wrote notes back in forth to each other and rolled our eyes and smiled a lot. Everyone in school said we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Even our parents realized we had a special relationship.

Unfortunately she moved away and I never saw her again but I still remember her. After she left I spent my youth playing sports and didn’t have another girlfriend until I turned 17.

Myndecho's avatar

You were all very young for your first relationships

Supacase's avatar

The relationship with my first boyfriend was ridiculousy serious for my age. I was 12.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

@Myndecho well you know they weren’t so much relationships as sigh, god only knows

tinyfaery's avatar

I was 14 he was 17.

casheroo's avatar

I was 14 and he was 15.

Myndecho's avatar

Did you feel strange because of the large age gap (for that age)?

drClaw's avatar

I was 12 years old, it wasn’t too serious we just would hang out at the mall and listen to Sublime.

GoPhillies's avatar

16 and I am not 19 and still with her.

westy81585's avatar

16.. she was 18…. that’s right… I rock

Jack79's avatar

Depends on what you mean by “proper”. I was 16. We didn’t have sex, but we loved each other very much and wanted to get married when we grew up. It lasted a whole month!

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

21yrs old was my first proper boyfriend who was also my fiancee; before then they were all very improper.

tinyfaery's avatar

Nope. We were together until I was 18.

wundayatta's avatar

What do people mean by “proper?” I am taking it to mean you spend enough time together, just the two of you, that you can be considered to be going out exclusively. I think I was 18, and in college, before I cleared that bar, but I sure made the bar bounce as I cleared it.

_bob's avatar

We were both 18.

3or4monsters's avatar

I was 15, he was 18, and man, in retrospect he was such a dick. I think we were together for 1 whole year of manipulative bullshit. Whenever I tried to break up with him, I’d hear “You THINK you want to break up? If you just THINK you want to but you’re not sure, we should just stay together. Are you SURE?? You really don’t sound sure at all” which dragged on for months until I said, “YES. I WANT TO BREAK UP. I DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT. DON’T EVER CALL ME AGAIN.”

_bob's avatar

@3or4monsters Are you SURE he was such a dick?


Myndecho's avatar

I was just wondering because I’ve never had a proper girlfriend.

aprilsimnel's avatar

@Myndecho – Please don’t worry. You are not abnormal. Just live life, enjoy yourself with your friends and in clubs and sports and in doing things you like doing. Outside the house. And don’t be afraid to talk to someone who interests you. When you get turned down sometimes, and everyone does, even the nicest and most popular, beautiful and talented, know that you’ll be OK. It doesn’t mean you’re an awful person. It took a long time for me to learn that. Sooner or later someone will come along that you’ll want to spend time with who also wants to spend time with you!


jbfletcherfan's avatar

I was 17 & he was 22. We met & that was it for the both of us. We’ve been married for a loong time. :-)

hug_of_war's avatar

I was 18, he was 17. We lasted 8 months, though if I wasn’t so naive I would have recognized way earlier he was still in love with his ex-girlffriend and best friend. Thank goodness I’ve moved on to someone a million times better :)

cak's avatar

We were both 17. That was when we could go out without parents driving us, anyone else attending…just alone.

ubersiren's avatar

15. As a high school freshman I was absolutely swept off my feet by junior. I dated him for almost 3 years. The ending of that relationship was one of the most liberating moments of my life.

I’m assuming “proper” is subjective. I gave my answer accordingly.

@Myndecho: How old are you? Why does the age matter?

arnbev959's avatar

We were both 14.

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