Do you need a girl?

If I got involved with a woman, my life would suddenly become very complicated.

I find it works both ways, as is the case with virtually everything.

There are times when a lot of things are going on in my life and it’s all very exciting. Having a girlfriend through it all, someone to share those exciting times, can make it all that much better.
On the other hand, a girlfriend at the wrong time can make your life a living hell for the both of you.

I guess what it comes down to is this. a good girlfriend will makes every other aspect of my life better, and bad girlfriend will make most aspects worse. So if you find a girl you like, date her, because there’s no way to know how it’ll effect you from the get go anyhow.

Somewhere in between, and I think it’s important to note I it’s not “a girl”, but someone with whom I can have a fantastic relationship. I don’t need a woman “in order to live”, and it’s also very distracting, but it’s definitely a goal of mine to wind up with one for good.

The fact that your question could be worded almost exactly the same way, replacing “girl” with “car” or any other commodity, and work just as well, is rather disturbing.

If you think you’re better off without a girlfriend, you just haven’t found the right one yet! The right one will probably not be something you literally can’t live without, as @Zaku says, but it’ll definitely make your life more exciting and fun rather than more complicated. Well, ok, it might make it more complicated, but it’ll be worth it at any rate!

LOL @cwilbur :)

If I had to live my life completely dependent on a woman, I’d probably cease to exist almost instantaneously. I do find my life much more pleasureable and meaningful with my significant other in it and I believe we both depend on each other for different things. We meet each other half way and it takes two to tango in a certain sense but it doesn’t take either one of us to keep the other one living.

Relationships based on “need” are rarely healthy ones. Much better to be together because you like each other and complement each other’s lives. Neediness places too much stress on both partners.

Remember that saying, “I have never loved anyone the way I want to be loved.” I think it pretty much says it all. Only you can fulfill your needs, no one else can do it for you.

Yes I do actually. I know it sounds sad, and over the years I’ve learnt to cope with solitude, and even cherish the freedom it brings, but overall I’d rather be in a relationship than alone. And this also means that when I am in a relationship, I’m quite content, and put up with a lot of things because I realise how important it is. Unfortunately I haven’t been lucky overall. Even though I have had some quite good relationships in the past, most of which ended in a friendly and civilised manner, I have probably spent more time alone than with a girlfriend.

I broke up with my last girlfriend due to distance. I was forced to move to a different country and neither of us has the choice of moving somewhere else now. She has found someone new anyway. I tried to also find someone, but it’s pretty hard where I live and so I only managed to go out on one date, which did not lead to much.

Besides, I’m currently so busy worrying about my daughter and trying to save her from her troubles, that I don’t think I’d make a good boyfriend right now. Whoever decides to come close to me will have to be very patient.
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And since I guess your question is really whether you need a girl and not I, the answer is again “yes, you do”. We all need a balance in our lives, and it’s great to spend some time alone from time to time, and collect your thoughts, and relax and be yourself. But you also need friends. And family. And a few special “best friends” that you can trust. And that special someone to be in love with and share things you can’t even share with your best friends. And yes, sex too.

@Jack79 Nice

You broke up to with your love in order to see if you needed her? I’m sorry, but that sounds like bass-ackward reasoning to me. Something else must be going on there, and you’re not being honest with us, or maybe yourself.

When I was in college there was a popular t-shirt that said “A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.” While it is most common historically for women to attempt to be made whole by marrying, it can be the case for either sex.

The point is that an individual person should work to make themselves happy with their own being so that they can be content with or without another person. Then, as a complete and content person you can recognize a good relationship when one comes along, but can also recognize and leave a bad relationship.

OTOH, married men do live longer than single men.

Many women in my life have just complicated things.

The one I am with now actually makes the complications go away.
That’s why I’m marrying her.

this is like a real life representative of that vague “if you love something let it go” phrase, isn’t it? interesting.
this hierarchy pretty much bluntly says it all.

Girls Say: If it has tires or testicles, it’s going to give you trouble.

Guys Say: No matter how beautiful she is, some guy somewhere, is sick and tired of putting up with her shit.

Life is about choices, your results may vary.

@evelyns_pet_zebra Exactly. Someone, somewhere cheated on and dumped Christy Brinkley!

@chyna And someone who got to have sex with Halle Berry cheated on her. I’ve heard the saying “no matter how hot you think a woman is, someone is sick of having sex with her.”

If you need a girl, it’s probably better to rent one.

@ratboy, or get a blow up one; just don’t bite her neck, or she’ll fart and fly out the window.

Wow, well it depends. When I’m looking for a relationship I tend to not depend too strongly on the woman’s looks but pay strong attention to what she is like inside. Really – women love to talk as we all know. So as hard as it may sound – I listen to them and came up with some theories of my own when it comes to who is a keeper and who is a one night stand. The 60 second rule for women who talk too much about themselves. Let her talk without interuption for about 60 seconds and count how many times she says “I did this, I like that, When so and so happened I”. If she says I too many times in 60 seconds: This female is all about herself and not really too concerned with you. (If however that’s the type you want then prepare to have your wallet at the ready cause she’s going shopping with you.)
However, on the other hand if she passes this test – and is a keeper she will be proactive in conversation, you may even enjoy spending time with her. If she can make you laugh when there’s not a damn thing funny, she’s shows concern as to how much you spend, like the little things about you that other girls don’t notice – well then there you have it man. A potential Ms. whatever your last name is.
See here’s the thing – just because a woman looks sexy as hell doesn’t always mean that she is as attractive on the inside. I know of women who look hott but when it comes to there wants and needs – that’s where the issues come into play. If you are that in love with a woman – you had better be sure she feels the same about you or else the relationship will not last. You may end up putting in too much work to try keeping the princess happy. Now in the words of a bachelor – If she’s hott and she is not the one you want to be with all your life, but she’s down for the damn deed. Handle your business and move on….

I think it would be better to approach it with the idea of having fun and enjoying yourself… If your idea of this is with a girl, there’s nothing wrong with that. Accept who you are today, completely, without question and provide for your needs…This is parting of loving yourself yourself….and we all need some love-in sometimes…