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Does getting revenge ever actually make you feel better?

Asked by norah (244points) August 23rd, 2009

Especially when you’ve been really, really wronged and the person is such a jerk that some kind of comeuppance might actual be good for him.

And if yes, what’s the best revenge (beside living well)?

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Jude's avatar

For a minute, then I usually feel like shit afterwards.

Sanyore's avatar

Only in video games, for some bizarre reason.

photographcrash's avatar

temporarily. Then it just makes you wish you didn’t need to exact revenge in order to feel better about yourself.

DrasticDreamer's avatar

No, it never makes me feel better. And here’s why: Someone that has the ability to hurt another person like that won’t be affected by revenge. They just won’t be, because they’re the kind of person that just doesn’t care. Then you’ll simply feel like a fool afterward.

avvooooooo's avatar

Yes. It might sound little or spiteful to say so, but yes. The best revenge is well-executed.

An example of poorly executed attempted revenge: Trying to get revenge for a guy dumping you by text messaging an ex’s best friend to try and hook up with him for revenge when the best friend knows what you’re trying to do and won’t play along. My little brother was the best friend and he was laughing at the incoming from, someone who isn’t good at game playing, with me.

You can be the bigger, better person all the time or some of the time. Not doing it all the time is only human and the desire for revenge is natural. But badly planned, poorly thought out revenge only sucks worse for you in the end.

norah's avatar

@sanyore video games are a good idea. recommend any?

filmfann's avatar

According to the old Klingon saying, yes.

basp's avatar

Life is too short to waste on negative energy.

Dog's avatar

Despite the fantasy of satisfaction I have found that the reality is a hollow self-disgust at lowering myself to their level.

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

oh yes…

two weeks ago my brother duct taped my keys to the ceiling in my garage… do you have any idea how hard it was to find those?????

four days ago I duct taped/bungee cord- …ed? his work desk to the ceiling…

revenge is sweet, I don’t care what you say.

avengerscion's avatar

Exacting revenge feels magnificent while you’re doing it – the person deserves it. After the fact, I usually regret it. It is lowering yourself to the other person’s level or doing something sneaky and plain out wrong (like spitting in their sandwich). But oh how great a feeling it is initially!

kheredia's avatar

No, I just leave it up to Karma :-)

avvooooooo's avatar

@ABoyNamedBoobs03 Thanks for the ideas!

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

The Chinese have a saying (I think it is the Chinese) : When one sets out for revenge, you should first dig two graves.

I never seek revenge on those that have wronged me, because there is nothing I can do to them that is worse than they will eventually do to themselves. I don’t believe in karma, but I do have faith in the law of averages. :^)

avengerscion's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra – i like – so true. Wrongdoers – us included – will get what we deserve in the long run.

filmfann's avatar

Vengence is a forest. You often can’t remember where you came in. (Hitori Hanzo)

filmfann's avatar

@avengerscion welcome to fluther. Lurve.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

“Revenge is a dish best served cold.”

DominicX's avatar

Yes, but not for very serious things. My friend pushed me in the pool during a graduation party after 8th grade. I had clothes on and a cell phone in my pocket. I got back at him by pushing him in. I do not regret it for a second. I can’t think of any time I got revenge where I regretted it, but that’s also because it was always something pretty small and nothing I would ever really remember.

ABoyNamedBoobs03's avatar

@evelyns_pet_zebra ever had hot ice cream?

it’s delicious…

BBSDTfamily's avatar

Yes, but only if it’s been well thought out on my part… sometimes when I react too soon I regret it later because hindsight is 20/20 and I realize I was partially guilty also.

Facade's avatar

Yes it does.

BBSDTfamily's avatar

@norah Oh I forgot your second question!

The best revenge is something that makes the person regret the wrong that they did to you or someone else, in my opinion anyway…. I don’t like revenge that actually hurts someone, I just like to make them realize they were wrong.

Jack79's avatar

I don’t think I’ve tried it yet, but I’m sure it would make me feel great.

wundayatta's avatar

I’m not big into revenge. I do like to see someone who has wronged me get their comeuppance. But I’m not usually the instrument of that comeuppance.

I guess I trust others to see the true character of a person. Especially when those others are people I respect.

mattbrowne's avatar

Not in the long run.

loveurmindnsoul's avatar

I think the best type of revenge is to just move on with your life and forget about the person. It tells the person who wronged you that they weren’t important enough to leave an impact.

gottamakeart's avatar

most people worth “getting back at” usually make their own bad luck and get theirs eventually. Patience is better than revenge, no bad Karma for you either.

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