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Do you trust yourself not to cheat?

Asked by ItalianPrincess1217 (11979points) August 29th, 2009

Some people claim that they would remain faithful to their spouse/significant other no matter what. Do you feel the same? Can you trust yourself in any situation to say no to temptation? Or would you stray? Do you ever catch yourself thinking about it even if you wouldn’t ever follow through?

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Judi's avatar

I trust myself with everything but Chocolate Oh alright, Pierce Brosnan might be pretty tempting too.

dpworkin's avatar

I have zero interest in anyone else. I would have to be a moron to do anything to threaten what I am so fortunate as to have. I’m surrounded by nubile women every day at school, and I barely glance up.

AstroChuck's avatar

Yes. I trust myself explicitly.

Why? Are you offering? ;)

drdoombot's avatar

100%. My promise to someone is sacred.

Now someone give me a chance to prove it!

Darwin's avatar

I have been married to the same man for twenty years. I have not ever been tempted to cheat. I do, however, know how to appreciate a work of art from afar.

augustlan's avatar

99.999% sure. I have never cheated on anyone (even with ample opportunity to do so), but do not presume to know that there will never be a situation that would overwhelm me.

hookecho's avatar

Yes. I can even say I’ve somewhat earned this trust in myself, because since being in relationships there have been a few times when I could easily have cheated if I wanted to, and each time turned the opportunity down without hesitation.

poofandmook's avatar

I can’t fathom a situation that would get me to cheat. I’m 100% positive I could keep right on walking.

Jack79's avatar

Yes. I would be tempted, but if I decide I’m not going to cheat, even the sexiest woman in the world could not seduce me (assuming she’d have reason to want that). Plus I’d probably not allow myself to end up in such a situation anyway. I’ve always been 100% faithful in all of my relationships.

Judi's avatar

I never really understood cheating. Isn’t life complicated enough already? Why not tie up old business before getting all mixed up in something new. It just doesn’t make since to me.

teh_kvlt_liberal's avatar

It’s only cheating if you get caught.
-Al Bundy

Shamsy's avatar

I think that as long as i am happy with who i am, i have no reason to cheat,
and if i do, it will be after i have tried all i can to make things better.

AstroChuck's avatar

Only with Auggie.

whatthefluther's avatar

I have never cheated through three marriages and two long term significant others. Have I had opportunities? Yes. Was I tempted? Perhaps the briefest of thoughts, but I can control myself. Besides, it would never be worth it…there is just too much to lose, such as trust and respect, to begin with. See ya….Gary aka wtf

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

I’ve got willpower. We’re not slaves to our physical impulses.
These are conscious decisions we make.

aprilsimnel's avatar

Yes.

I’ve been in enough relationships at this point in my life to know that, if the troubles were deeper than just the usual growing and learning of an ordinary relationship, I will let that man go to find someone who’ll put up with what I won’t instead of cheat.

wildpotato's avatar

Sure, I’d never cheat if I didn’t want to. But I’ve never seen what the big deal is about sleeping around if you do want to, as long as your SO doesn’t mind and you’re honest about what you do. If I were ever tempted I’d probably go for it – but it’s pretty hard to tempt me.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

My husband has had an affair for the last 14 years with the same person, but I have never, ever cheated on him. Nor will I, for as long as we are still married. I have had opportunities in the past where I could have, but honoring a promise is sacred to me. In case you’re wondering why I haven’t divorced him: he’s cheating on me. He should have to do all the work to end the marriage. But he’s put it on my list of “things to do.”

Likeradar's avatar

Yes.
There absolutely have been and I assume will be situations that really, really tempt me. I just remember how wonderful my partner is, and how a few passionate moments won’t be worth ruining what I have with him. Also, I don’t want to be the kind of person who cheats, no matter how luscious temptation may be.

BBSDTfamily's avatar

I know I wouldn’t cheat on my husband… no matter what.

DrBill's avatar

There are way too many diseases out there to risk it.

Facade's avatar

I trust myself completely.

evelyns_pet_zebra's avatar

I have never met anyone that has offered me anything worth cheating for. Besides, the fantasy is ALWAYS better than the reality. I agree with @Darwin its one thing to appreciate a work of art from afar. And there is one more thing that keeps me from cheating.

A wise man once said, No matter how hot she looks, you just know there is some guy somewhere, sick and tired of putting up with her shit. This would work for both sexes, and for the ladies, If it has tires or testicles, it’s going to give you trouble.

kheredia's avatar

No need to cheat, I have everything I need waiting for me at home.. and I wouldn’t risk losing that for nothing in the world.

rooeytoo's avatar

I am with @augustlan on this one, never say never.

I think the secret is to avoid the occasion of sin as the nuns used to say. In other words, don’t put myself in a situation where the temptation could be acted upon.

augustlan's avatar

To add further to my statement above, the only way I could imagine ever cheating would be if I was drunk off my ass, or had been drugged or something. Like
@rooeytoo, I would avoid ever putting myself in that situation in the first place.

@AstroChuck Will there be pancakes? I might consider it. ;-)

augustlan's avatar

@wildpotato If your SO knows and agrees, it’s not cheating.

Facade's avatar

@augustlan I don’t understand. Extramarital sex is not cheating if your SO agrees and knows? I missed something…

augustlan's avatar

@Facade No, it’s not. If you are in an open relationship, it would not be considered cheating at all.

Facade's avatar

@augustlan Oh I see..open relationship. Gotcha.

Resonantscythe's avatar

Never, for any reason. Temptation is just that. You don’t HAVE to act on it. Cheating is a conscious decision.

Grisaille's avatar

I haven’t had a “real” relationship in close to 3 years (hush, you). I think I trust myself…?

I am… Ron… Burgundy?

FireMadeFlesh's avatar

Yes, I find it repulsive in every way.

wildpotato's avatar

@augustlan Yeah, I realized after 10 minutes (while discussing this thread and my answer with my SO, actually) that I ought to have used a different word because “cheating” indicates dishonesty. Thanks for pointing that out.

@Facade It’s funny being in an open relationship where neither party cares to take advantage of the openness. It makes our desire to be with the other person feel more genuine than if we had decided that we’re tied to one another and that’s that.

AstroChuck's avatar

Is it considered cheating with myself?

whatthefluther's avatar

@AstroChuck….Yes, but if you can’t catch yourself doing it, who is to know? Just keep your eyes closed. See ya….Gary aka wtf

AstroChuck's avatar

Is it considered cheating if while I’m “with” my wife I’m thinking about myself?

veronasgirl's avatar

I would never cheat on someone, I know that sometimes desire and temptation become too much, but cheating is such a selfish thing, I wouldn’t be able to live with the guilt of hurting someone in that way.

whatthefluther's avatar

@AstroChuck…You should be attending to your wife’s needs and seeing to her satisfaction, so I would say it is cheating, or darn selfish….for a normal person, that is. However, you are not normal and are probably taking care of business quite nicely, in all regards for everyone involved, so in your case, no, it’s not cheating. See ya….Gary aka wtf

Bri_L's avatar

I have just had a 13 year marriage ended where our relations averaged out to 3 a year with the last 7 years containing 4 interactions.

It is hard (hehe) to think of a situation worse than that, and I didn’t cheat.

AstroChuck's avatar

@whatthefluther – It’s just that I love myself so much.

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

I trust myself not to cheat even though at very unhappy times in particular relationships I did think about it. There are people who take to monogamy, enjoy to honor it and feel a sense of pride from it but there are other people who have to work every step of the way to be monogamous, even when they feel love for their partners.

alive's avatar

i think if i have told someone that i am with them and only them, i would not cheat. i think i owe it to that person to tell them i no longer want to be with them. cheating is just taking the easy way out.

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