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How much money is appropriate to spend on a wedding gift?

Asked by rockstargrrrlie (887points) October 15th, 2009

Do you typically spend a set amount on a wedding present, or does it depend on your relationship with the bride/groom? If you spend a set amount, please ignore the lengthy discussion below :)

In the next month, I will be attending the wedding of two friends of mine. I have known them since elementary school (the bride) and middle school (the groom). Throughout my adolescence, I was extremely close with both; taking most of my classes with the groom and playing in a band as well as school orchestra with the bride. We hung out in the same group throughout most of high school, continuing to hang out together into college when everyone got together for holidays and summer.

Post-college, I am no longer as close with either. Both the groom and I have moved across the country, but we still speak regularly. I communicate with the bride mostly on facebook. They are having a smaller wedding, and seem to have only invited a select group of friends. How much is appropriate to spend on this particular wedding?

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se_ven's avatar

$50 to $100 is a good amount. If you’re buying it as a couple I would go towards $100. I think a good rule of thumb is to cover at least the cost of your meal/beverages.

Then again, if they’ve given you expensive gifts you might want to spend more.

The_Compassionate_Heretic's avatar

There is usually a registry. If you don’t have a strong attachment to the couple, get in there early and choose from the lower ticket items. Just out of college, aim for around $50. Don’t get a $50 gift card to Pottery Barn unless that’s what they really really want. Gift cards for wedding gifts are bad form.

dpworkin's avatar

Don’t confuse price with value. You knew them well when you were all younger – they may appreciate something nostalgic from that period that is meaningful to all of you as friends.

casheroo's avatar

I would say a gift card to Target for $50–75 would be sufficient. (or whenever they’re registered, if they have a preferred store) Or a check.
I would spend more than a hundred if it were someone I was close to, but I think in that case I’d be giving something more personal. Although, in my opinion…money/gift cards are the best gifts.

RedPowerLady's avatar

We usually give traditional medicines and organic herbs as a gift. They are relevant to our community and are low-cost. I would never set a price amount for myself except for saying I won’t spend more than (this much). In this case that would be 50.00 max but for myself it would be much less as we are low-income. There is no way I would force myself to spend a certain amount however, that is just illogical in my opinion. Gifts are about the thought behind them and sometimes about their usefulness. They are not about price. And if they are then perhaps they don’t really need or deserve the gifts anyhow.

filmfann's avatar

$100 sounds right.

ru2bz46's avatar

I usually spend about $50 if I’m not too close to them; otherwise, I spend around $100.

PandoraBoxx's avatar

I always buy off the registry, and usually a place setting of china, or a serving piece, or crystal. That’s usually the only time you get really nice things. Gift cards are nice for shower presents. For people at work, casual friends, etc. I spend around $50. Good friends and children of good friends, $100—$200.

Zen's avatar

It depends on the wedding. I pay as I go along, according to the food and cake quality. If the music is good, lots of good whisky I write a fat cheque.

NewZen's avatar

Give from the heart.

rockstargrrrlie's avatar

They do have a registry, which I had always intended to purchase from (many of the items are still “available”), so all of this advice has been helpful and helped me finalize the choice I was leaning towards. Thanks!

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

In the Russian community, weddings are usually done in Russian restaurants…when we get invited to a Russian wedding in a restaurant, I simply ask the bride/groom (if I know them well)..how much did they pay for each person’s meal…and then times that by two and add 50 bucks…if I don’t know them…I guesstimate how much the restaurant’s most expensive meal would be for a wedding…generally speaking an average Russian wedding in a Russian restaurant for 2 people would cost 300 so that’s what we give…if we are going to an American wedding (which obviously run a broad range of experiences), we buy presents that cost between 100 to 200

RedPowerLady's avatar

have I mentioned that if I have a wedding you are all invited to send me gifts~

qashqai's avatar

Whatever you feel.
Price is not the only thing that makes a good wedding gift, actually.

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