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How can I get away from my emotions?

Asked by disturbed_broken (756points) January 22nd, 2010 from iPhone

I am really overwhelmed with everything that’s happening.
I’m really stressed out having bad anxiety and am really pissed off at myslef.
I feel really bad for people in Haiti and then 2 of my grandma’s are dying and two sides of my family are
practically playing tug of war with me.
The only time I can get away from my emotions is when I’m sleeping and I want it all to end completely.
What can I do to not feel so overwhelmed I want to kill myself but before I do that I want to try something else.
Please help!

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Likeradar's avatar

Therapy. See a therapist. Now.

Life does get better- you’ll come out stronger.

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disturbed_broken's avatar

@Likeradar
I can’t see a therapist now I’m only 15 no transportation.
Everyone says it will get better. A year later it’s worse.
@JesusWasAJewbot
don’t have any…I wish =(

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zero30's avatar

Don’t give up.We all get like this sometimes were we just want to quit and give up on everything don’t. remember there are some people out there in the world who have it a lot worst but they don’t give up. Try doing things that make you happy like drawing or running something that will release some steam.

Sarcasm's avatar

@disturbed_broken You say you can’t see a therapist because you don’t have any transportation. Do you not have parents or guardians who can take you?

Jude's avatar

@JesusWasAJewbot don’t be an ass

You need to see a therapist, sweetie. Like @Sarcasm said, do you have someone who could take you to see therapist?

disturbed_broken's avatar

@JesusWasAJewbot
my dealer got busted.

@Sarcasm my mom Ditched me to party somewhere and my dad is an unreliable coke head somewhere.
There isn’t anyone else.

disturbed_broken's avatar

Also I can’t see a therapist because they are most likely closed.

augustlan's avatar

Call a suicide prevention hotline if you are in dire need right this instant. Otherwise, see your school counselor on Monday morning. You need to see a therapist, and the sooner the better. If your parents aren’t caring properly for you, please consider telling a trusted adult about your situation.

Things do get better, but not magically. The support system needs to be in place, especially getting the proper care and/or medication from a counselor. Please, please make sure you get the help you need and deserve. {hugs to you}!

disturbed_broken's avatar

@augustlan
I would call but I don’t exactly want to stop my self right now.
and the last time I went to see my school counsellor she asked to see my arms I showed them to her and she rushed me to the hospital so I don’t want to end up there again and I was seeing a psychiatrist and they told me not to talk to her unless it is school related.

Tink's avatar

I wish I had some advice for you :(

I’m exactly in the same position as you right now, I know you can’t get away from your problems. I know how you feel about wanting to kill yourself, try distracting yourself from that. It works for me sometimes.

stranger_in_a_strange_land's avatar

Your emotions are part of you. You can’t shut them off or disconnect from them. It’s up to you, with help, to modify their effect on you and turn them around into something positive. Much easier said than done.

liliesndaisies's avatar

Getting a new hobby could help you get rid of negative energies.

rangerr's avatar

Alright, Kiddo.
Listen.
I’m not going to tell you that it’s going to get better. I don’t know that. Nobody knows that.
But I will tell you that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
What if things DO get better? What if you meet someone you really connect with? What if you make a friend who you really come to adore? You’d never have that if you die now.

I’ve been there. I’ve attempted suicide too many times to count in high school.
The last being before this past Christmas. Here’s the thread about it
I really regret those times. I still hate myself for being so stupid and selfish.
I’m not going to tell you that I know what you’re going through, either. I don’t know. Everyone is different. But I’ve been in a similar state of mind.

We all go through hard times. Every. Single. One. Of. Us.

We are all willing to listen here if you need someone to talk to..
PM me if you wish. I’ll usually respond very quickly.
I won’t judge you and I won’t try to give you advice unless you ask. Hell, you can rant all you wish and tell me how horrible everyone is. I don’t mind. I know how nice it is to have someone to talk to.

You’re still young. You also remind me A LOT of myself when I was your age.
Take a deep breath and give it time.
I can’t tell you how much time to give it… but just give it time. You’ll find out that things aren’t so bad. 15 was a pretty awkward age for most, if not all, of us.

So breathe.
Take a nap if you need to.
Find something to do to distract yourself.
Find someone to talk to. Like I said, I’ll listen.
And remember that you’re not alone.

Keep your head up, darling.

Jeruba's avatar

@rangerr, you’re my hero (heroine).

The_Clouded_Mind's avatar

I have been there trust me eventually things get better.
Just think when you are 18 you can move out and live your own life.

rangerr's avatar

@The_Clouded_Mind That may not always be the case. Or best option. But turning 18 is a step closer to finding freedom.

Dr_C's avatar

I saw your thread. I’m not going to give you a sermon or try to convince you that everything gets better with age. That’s something you figure out on your own. Just please go here. At least for now I think they can help you.

avvooooooo's avatar

@disturbed_broken You need to call a hotline. Right now. Right this second.

Dr_C's avatar

@avvooooooo .. the link I posted is a hotline.

VanCityKid's avatar

Well definitely don’t worry about anybody in Haiti, the world’s doing everything and more that they can for them right now.

Don’t let your Grandparents get you down either, they are family and it’s hard, be thankful for what they have given you. Everybody has to go some time, and that’s the god awful truth, and you’ll find out that later it will happen more and more, it’s very cliche to say these things, I know. But they have been repeated so many times for a reason.

Before you do anything drastic though, as you said you wanted to kill yourself, think about how bad it is hurting you that your grandma’s are dying. If you took your own life, it will hurt the rest of your family much more than it’s hurting you right now. You’re still young, you have much to experience. Not too be rude, with all due respect, your family has anticipated the passing of your grandma’s and so have your grandma’s themselves, I know it must be scary, but like I said before, it’s their time to go, not yours.

Call a hotline as the others have posted, but keep in mind that suicide is not the answer, especially to this.

disturbed_broken's avatar

Thanks but I think it’s to late for anything now.
And @VanCityKid it’s not just that they are dying it’s everything these past 5 years has been crazy and I don’t know how to deal with it anymore.
Thank you everyone for your answers <3

avvooooooo's avatar

@disturbed_broken Hotlines are 24/7. It is not too late. Call.

disturbed_broken's avatar

@avvooooooo
it’s not the fact that the place isn’t open..I don’t have a phone and I think it’s already to late for me.

avvooooooo's avatar

@disturbed_broken You don’t have access to any phone anywhere?

And it is definitely not too late for you.

Dr_C's avatar

It’s never too late! Please get help!!!!

rangerr's avatar

It’s not too late.
Really.

borderline_blonde's avatar

Agreed, it’s never too late. I went through some very bad times when I was a teenager and attempted suicide several times. Life sucks sometimes, and it sucks worse when you’re young.

How I got better was by realizing that my main priority was to take care of myself. It didn’t matter if my family was fighting around me or my boyfriend just broke up with me or if I felt super depressed for no reason. I realized that I had to fight to make my life livable. Now, I can say that I’m a fairly happy individual, but it took a lot of hard work to get here.

Call a hotline. They’ll direct you to some services in your area. It gets better, I promise.

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

Call a hotline immediately.
You can find a phone somewhere, even a neighbors.
Its never too late and you can’t wait to do this.
There is help for you and there are lots of people who care.
Don’t make excuses! Call the suicide hotline now and do it now.

john65pennington's avatar

If you will remember this, your anxiety will go away: “in life, there are some things you can act on. in life there are some things you cannot act on”. here is my philosophy on life. if i can change or make a difference in someones life, i will act on it. if i know there is not a snowball chance in hell that i cannot do anything to help this person, i will not act and accept it. example: i know i am helpless to help the people in Afghanistan and Haiti. i am here and they are halfway across the continent. my best effort is to say a prayer for their safety and a better way of life. i know this is not enough, but i am like you. we can only do so much with limited resources. the key is not to worry about something that you cannot prevent or help. prayers work wonders!

liminal's avatar

@disturbed_broken what do you mean by it’s: “already to late for me”?

Jeruba's avatar

Yes, I’d like to know too. Have you done something?

Look, you need to call or reach somebody right away. Use your computer. Send an emergency e-mail to the police department. Send word to a friend.

These suggestions came from here:

* Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans
* Call 1–800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
* Teenagers, call Covenant House NineLine, 1–800-999–9999
* Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
* Call a psychotherapist
* Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen

Click that link for the Samaritans, ok? They’re for real. My mother used to volunteer for them.

avvooooooo's avatar

@john65pennington Anxiety is not that simplistic. Nowhere near that simplistic.

augustlan's avatar

@disturbed_broken I swear to you, it is never too late. Please check back in and let us know that you are ok.

The_Clouded_Mind's avatar

Has anyone heard from disturbed?

liliesndaisies's avatar

Hello disturbed Broken, thinking of you. Let us know how it goes.

disturbed_broken's avatar

Hey thanks I attempted and then lost a crap load of blood and passed out.
I think I cut a vein open or something I probably need stitches but I’m alive..for now.
Thanks!

delirium's avatar

HINT: Even though you think that will get you attention, it will only be negative and behind your back.

That is all.

Sarcasm's avatar

Get.
Help.

There are so many channels to go through, there is no excuse to not get any.

disturbed_broken's avatar

@delirium i didnt do it for attention what would be the purpose of that? sorry but im not that type of person….

@Sarcasm Thanks i think i am seeing someone on monday now.

The_Clouded_Mind's avatar

@delirium why do you think she’s doing it for attention when she just asked for help?

@disturbed_broken I’m glad you are okay but you really need to get help and maybe some medical attention.

rangerr's avatar

@The_Clouded_Mind It’s the way she asked. Then the way she responded with a cheery Thanks! at the end of her post.

Get help, kid.

disturbed_broken's avatar

@rangerr i am sorry i never meant it that way i meant thanks for helping me so much etc…i am sorry.

Jeruba's avatar

And now 42 minutes later she has deleted her account.

avvooooooo's avatar

@Jeruba She’ll be back with a different one most likely.

The_Clouded_Mind's avatar

@Jeruba why would she have deleted her account?
That’s weird…

The_Clouded_Mind's avatar

People like that piss me off.
=\

Dr_Lawrence's avatar

@disturbed_broken lives geographically close to me, but of course, I have no contact information to enable be to help her!’’

It is frustrating but there is nothing I can do without further information.

Jeruba's avatar

I hope that if she does come back with a different one she will PM some of us and let us know. Others before her have done the same thing.

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