NSFW How do you ask someone to have a threesome?

Find a friend that she’s close with and that you both find attractive and just have her ask. Its weird if you do it, because “all guys are horny pigs”, but if she does it, it’ll seem better

Depend a bit on your social circles… But I find talking over a glass of red wine always help loosen up the conversation…
Not sure for the actual wording, I have never asked, just been invited to do such things..
Moreoften when I worked as a bouncer, never accepted that :p

I had a 3-way with a stripper before, the rest were with friends. But you can try Craigslist, or drunk sluts

With chicks, a good way to broach the subject is by asking “What are your fantasies?” or “Have you ever thought about being with a girl?” or “What do you think about three ways?” Chicks tend to prefer discussing hypotheticals along these lines as a way of communicating their interest. Of course, you might have to warm them up to the topic by bringing up sex or romance first.

probably best to look for a stranger (eg online) or a prostitute the first time. I’ve only done it once and it just sort of happened spontaneously (caught my girl in bed with her best friend and just joined in). These sorts of things are actually hard to organise, because even a friend with lax morals might be insulted or disgusted by the idea, and you never know who has the same fantasy (or would admit to it).

I’m thinking I kind of want to avoid prostitutes, there is just something about paying for it that takes the fun out of it.

She should just talk about the general idea of it with a few friends that seem likely. If they have the same fantasy, then she could ask them if they’d like to do it with the two of you specifically.

@kevbo Just a little tip… might not want to call them “chicks” if you want to succeed!

Find a Bisexual girl, then have your ex flirt with her, and let her do the talking, there’s a much better chance of a girl talking another girl into a threesome than there’s a man doing so.

Hi you look hungry fancy a spit roast?

Perhaps check and see if there’s a swinger’s club in your area?

My bestfreind is bisexual, but she doesnt get serious with woman, only men. anyhow. she is always trying to persude me into threesomes, ive never thought the opprotunity would present itself as many times as it has, but the point is, bisexual women are like threesome brokers. it it wasnt for my bestfreind i would have no clue how some guys get so lucky. i think 2 bi-chicks + 1 straight guy + 3some

@augustlan, yeah. I just got so bent out of shape being harassed by @jonsblond about Valentine’s Day.

I am bisexual and I would not even consider a threesome. I am either in love with a male or female it does not mean I am bi sexual threesome bait. That is a sad view of bisexuals. I think people mean bi curious BIG difference.

When I’ve asked others to join my husband and myself for a threesome, they and I were usually friends for some time and I said if they’d flirt with me ‘hey, you know my husband and I are in an open relationship…if this is something you’d ever consider, we’d love to have you join us for a night’...

@Violet – are you really advising taking advantage of drunk people?

No one can tell you how to do this. It’s all situational. The best anyone can do is tell you how they got into a threesome.

My first serious girlfriend (actually, the person I lost my virginity to) and I were spending the summer in a basement with three other women. We were looking for work for the summer. Her best friend was in the room next door. She was supposedly bi, and I thought she was really hot. I asked my girlfriend if it would be ok to fuck her friend (the friend and I must have agreed we wanted to) and my girlfriend agreed.

After that, I was interested in a threesome, and that seemed pretty easy. I’d slept with both of them singly, and the bi friend was interested in my lover, so we arranged it. It was not as good as I thought it would be.

Later, I lived in a group house with a number of women I had slept with occasionally. Sometimes we’d be lying around, maybe after a party, just in a kind of group snuggle or something, and stuff would start happening.

There was another instance, where two of the women and I had plans for once my girlfriend left on her trip. The second she was out the door, we were on our way upstairs.

I guess in all of those cases, I had already slept with all the women involved. It was therefore easy to ask. I wasn’t afraid of rejection, since I hadn’t been rejected before. They were all somewhat relaxed about sex, so there wasn’t much of a big deal. I have to say that it’s a lot better when the two women are into you and not each other, than when the two are into each other and you—not so much. So I’m not sure a bi woman is such a good idea.

I wouldn’t want to ask someone cold to spend the night with us. They would have to be a friend, preferably a lover. This is a serious thing, not just a fuck. In my case, it was about friendship, not just sex. It was a game we played. If you advertise and go to swingers clubs or whatever, then it’s pretty sterile. It won’t be much fun. You might as well hire a hooker. It’s a lot more fun if everyone is into it and you all like each other—a lot.

@Simone_De_Beauvoir no, I said drunk sluts. As in, sluts who happen to always be drunk.

@Violet yes I can read – I just refuse to use that word.
either way, do you really want to advocate taking advantage of drunk people?

@Simone_De_Beauvoir that’s not what I’m saying. Please stop.

@Violet then please explain to me what you were saying when you advised the OP to go find some drunk sluts when in need of a threesome?

@Simone_De_Beauvoir I don’t feel the need to explain myself to you. If the OP wants more detail, then he can ask me personally.

@Violet I wasn’t asking you to explain yourself, just what you said. That’s kind of how it goes here, on fluther. If you don’t want to elaborate or back up your assertions, what’s the point of interacting?

Another female? get a dude. DP!!
Uhm… craigslist?

Sometimes these things “just happen”. I knew that my lady had a physical relationship with her girlfriend before we married. I had no objection; several years later her girlfriend moved in with us and I was invited to join in. Ladies choice.

The term “slut” is not only perjorative but highly subjective.

The wife and I stay in our friends circle and ask those that have been a part of us for a while, we usually kind of know if they are receptive by inviting them over for dinner and we relax on the couch and start with a foot rub. If they are ok with northbound then we see if I rub one leg and the wife rubs the other if they give the ok. then as clothes come off we ask details. Usually they are enjoying the touching and don’t want to stop… so we emphasize safe play and continue…

@stranger_in_a_strange_land I feel like I have already explained myself. Feel free to Google: threesome drunk sluts

@Violet I’m not intending to be hostile to you. It’s just the the term “slut” is a hot-button issue to me. It’s a term of disrepect to women, many of those characterized as such are not promiscuous but victims of harsh circumstances. I meant no disrespect to you when making my statement, it was meant as a general disapproval of the term as denigratiing to women.
My humble apology if you interpreted my statement as a personal attack. I’m caught in a bind of valuing both your and @Simone_De_Beauvoir s opinions and good will.

@Violet why would anyone google that? what’s wrong with you?

@stranger_in_a_strange_land I’m sorry, but the word slut is in the Webster Dictionary ” a promiscuous woman”. I’m not calling “victims of harsh circumstances”, I’m calling promiscuous women sluts

@Violet I concede Websters definition. But “promiscuous” is a subjective term. Anything more than strict monogamy for life? More than one partner at a time? Random partners every day?

@stranger_in_a_strange_land “Anything more than strict monogamy for life? More than one partner at a time? Random partners every day?” I’m not sure. I’m going to look into it.. I’m curious now.
@Simone_De_Beauvoir so you can understand why I would suggest a drunk slut for a 3-way. I guess they don’t have to be drunk, but drunk slut just rolls of the tongue so well.

WOW most pointless argument EVER… I actually enjoyed the drunk sluts answer

@misterx oh, you did? well my god, why on earth are we discussing it then? clearly that makes it okay

Taking advantage of a person with an active substance abuse problem is not only unethical IMHO, but in a way violates that persons integrity, as they have a reduced capacity to give consent. It’s only a marginal difference from rape.

Just remember the threesome golden rule: Don’t shit where you eat. Make sure none of the parties involved can be hurt by the experience. Here’s how I’d prefer to be asked…directly. You and your ex approach the third party together and just ask. None of the creepy seductions.